Are you a groveling wimp?

[Snapshot9]

It depends ...

whether you have a relationship where you are appreciated
as much as you appreciate your signifricant other, and show
it. Ever notice on dating sites that women usually have 10-25
requirements for a guy, but guys only have 3-4 for women, then
when women get that guy and marry them, then they want to
change him. Some women think the relationship should only focus
on what they want, and if it doesn't then the guy doesn't get
any pussy. If you have one of those, you are better being single,
and just calling an escort service, and paying for it UPFRONT
instead of much more later on. Relationships are a 2 way street,
and each needs to remember how lucky they are to have each
other.

 

[bobroberts]

Chris,

Sounds like you got one sort of like mine. My wife does the same thing, i.e., she usually knows what I want and usually is the first to suggest we get it even if the funds are limited. She's usually way ahead of me on most things but lets me think I'm doing the driving! LOL!!

Both you guys have your priorities right.If you have a strong relationship and it comes to big ticket items you consult with each other.This is done out of respect for your life partner.The ones who dont wind up in divorce.If I want somthing bad enough I buy it and she almost always agrees.On the other hand she keeps me in check because i would probably would own a hundred grand worth of cues.Every one i see i want. LOL!

 

[Snapshot9]

But the real question ...

Both you guys have your priorities right.If you have a strong relationship and it comes to big ticket items you consult with each other.This is done out of respect for your life partner.The ones who dont wind up in divorce.If I want somthing bad enough I buy it and she almost always agrees.On the other hand she keeps me in check because i would probably would own a hundred grand worth of cues.Every one i see i want. LOL!

Bob ... Is do you get to keep her in check when she goes to buying
shoes and purses .... lol

 

[bobroberts]

Bob ... Is do you get to keep her in check when she goes to buying
shoes and purses .... lol

I dont have to keep her in check.Thats why we have a great marriage.We consult each other on purchases over $200. We are fortunate enough not to have to worry about the next paycheck.We have both worked hard for what we have and we dont blow it foolishly.Hey but that just us.

 

[joe666]

My soon to be wife likes pool almost as much as I do.
We have a 3 bedroom house for just us two.She let me turn our living room into our pool room and turn one our other bedrooms in to a living room.
Hell,I even have one of those nice bumper pool/pokertable/breakfast tables
we use in the kitchen.

 

[Timberly]

We consult each other on purchases over $200.

A good friend of mine has the same arrangement. Both she & her husband agreed to consult the other on large purchases. It was either $200 or $300. If you're not living paycheck to paycheck, but you're not exactly living the high life (as most don't), I think this is a very fair compromise on both parts.

 

[Timberly]

caution minipulator in training
start small and work your way up!

Believe me when I tell you that I think more like a guy than a girl. I have no decorating or fashion sense. I only carry a purse when I go out of town so it can hold my camera, phone, etc.... I'm not one of those manipulators that'll break your bank buying purses, shoes, & gold. Beer, cues (I need a cue.. I've got champagne taste on a beer budget ) going to sporting events... these are the things that I can spend money on. I'm a tomboy & most of my friends are guys.... I see the stuff some of them go through & I just shake my head... I can't believe people (women mostly) act the way they do. It's really asinine sometimes.

 

[Timberly]

teasin timber

LOL, I knew you were.... I still had to get that out there just in case anyone out there reading this ever thought that I could be like that.

 

[Snapshot9]

I think ...

LOL, I knew you were.... I still had to get that out there just in case anyone out there reading this ever thought that I could be like that.

That he was just teasing that you might be a 'Ball buster', which isn't
necessarily a bad thing if you are a woman Poolplayer ... lol

 

[Barbara]

adults base their marriage on mutual respect. mutual respect doesnt need to ask permission or manipulate!

That's it in a nutshell. And other posters have stated the same. It's all about mutual respect.

Barbara

 

[Eydie Romano]

Believe me when I tell you that I think more like a guy than a girl. I have no decorating or fashion sense. I only carry a purse when I go out of town so it can hold my camera, phone, etc.... I'm not one of those manipulators that'll break your bank buying purses, shoes, & gold. Beer, cues (I need a cue.. I've got champagne taste on a beer budget ) going to sporting events... these are the things that I can spend money on. I'm a tomboy & most of my friends are guys.... I see the stuff some of them go through & I just shake my head... I can't believe people (women mostly) act the way they do. It's really asinine sometimes.

Boy ~ This is a true statement! I am the same way but no purse whatsoever!

As far a big purchases go, Bob can buy what ever he want's he does not need my permission to buy anything. If he want's it or needs it, its understood that he can. On the same hand, I totally trust him that he would never put us in a situation that his decission would cause us grief. I, in turn get the same respect.

 

[Timberly]

Boy ~ This is a true statement! I am the same way but no purse whatsoever!

My pockets aren't big enough for my phone & camera I had to get a purse but the one I got is a back pack(smaller than a normal back pack of course. And it's leather instead of nylon). Much easier to deal with.

 

[Ktown D]

I think I have a mutually respectful relationship. We compromise on purchases when the economic situation arises. We both try to make sure the other has things that they feel are important. My wife wanted to upgrade her wedding ring set so we did. She wanted to upgrade her cleavage so we did. But as I am typing this little message on my brand new laptop I am also watching the NFL games on my Sunday Ticket on my 55 inch bigscreen. My pool table is in my family room so occassionally I pick up one of my several custom cues and play a few games. I am currently on the list for 2 SW's and a Hercek. Definitely not trying to sound like a pompous ass but I think I get a fair shake in the give and take. My philosophy is if I can afford it and keeps us a little happier so be it. I don't have to beg and neither does she.

 

[FastMikie]

Romantic love is a Madness, but thankfully usually temporary.
Relationships based on Madness are Delusional,
representing the triumph of Optimism over Reason,
and eventually result in the medical condition known as being Pussy Whipped,
a symptom of which reduces grown men to begging for a pool table.

The sweet serenity of solitude is pure perfection.

 

[Snapshot9]

You sound ...

My pockets aren't big enough for my phone & camera I had to get a purse but the one I got is a back pack(smaller than a normal back pack of course. And it's leather instead of nylon). Much easier to deal with.

You and Barbara sound like rare women to me...lol BTW, I have to get a
cue case with lots of pockets, because that is my 'purse' ... lol

 

[wayne]

I like a strong woman with a stong mind. I want one who is intellectually stimulating, interesting, and is my equal. I would be a fool not to consult my wife.

Chris

What did she say when you consulted her about this woman you want?

Wayne (the editor)

 

[drivermaker]

My wife, Bluewolf, is Alpha Dog.

She is very kind though as she let our condo living room be occupied by a pool table, and now I have a table in the barn at our new house.

Since you asked, my first wife wanted me to get snipped and I said hell no.

Last night on the TV I saw where a reality show in England that did something funny for the women by having them train their husbands using techniques in a professional dog trainer book where the author had taken this concept to the human level. They showed her feeding her husband grapes and giving him little treats to motivate him. This guy didn't have a clue. When asked if he had reconginzed anything different in his life, he said that she had been awful nice to him lately. The show was very popular but for political reasons it had to be canceled the next season.

So look our Drivermaker, the book may make it into Mawissa's hands and then you are really screwed.

Mawissa doesn't need the book. She was genetically programmed with the techniques ingrained. She's not into dog training...pussy training is more like her forte.

 

[TATE]

What did she say when you consulted her about this woman you want?

Wayne (the editor)

She said she spotted her first so I would just have to wait my turn.

 

[drivermaker]

Believe me when I tell you that I think more like a guy than a girl. I have no decorating or fashion sense. I only carry a purse when I go out of town so it can hold my camera, phone, etc.... I'm not one of those manipulators that'll break your bank buying purses, shoes, & gold. Beer, cues (I need a cue.. I've got champagne taste on a beer budget ) going to sporting events... these are the things that I can spend money on. I'm a tomboy & most of my friends are guys.... I see the stuff some of them go through & I just shake my head... I can't believe people (women mostly) act the way they do. It's really asinine sometimes.

And Timberly says blah, blah, blah....and blah, blah blah about being a tomboy, and going to sporting events and all of that stuff. But Iconcue...I guarantee... you'd still like to do the dirty deed with her. Don't let that junk throw you off. She's still ALL WOMAN!

 

[Secaucus Fats]

My wife and I have a pretty good arrangement. We each kick 15% into our respective 401k's, and we each contribute 5% to charity. Another 10% goes to savings, and all the recurring bills are automatically set up to be paid by online banking. The rest we split in half and spend as each sees fit without having to account to each other for our expenditures.