Code of Conduct for girl-friends of pool players

That was awesome. I just showed it to my fiance and all she could do was nod her head in agreement.


I love these especially;
Dont ask me the score,
dont ask me how im shooting,
dont ask me if im ok,
dont try and encourage me, it just makes things worse.
do not talk to my opponents and
for the love of god dont EVER tell me "its just a game" its more than a godamn game.

the most important one is to never give me a reason to blame a loss on you. I usaually drink when i play and things can get real bad real fast if I think it was her fault. (usually is isnt but that doesnt change a thing)

thankfully ive got a very understanding fiance, who doesnt bug me very much and has learned on her own that following these rules will keep us both more happy in the long run.

This should come in the form of a handout so it could be passed out to all current and fututre gf's, or maybe laminated and posted on the wall of the pool hall:):)

What it all boils down to is dont shark me. Cause thats what everyone of those things does. Awesome post kath
 
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Bigkahuna said:
This is really hilarious. However, I think this really outlines the difference in how men and women handle stress and respond to it. For men we just want to go to a cave and really internalize things. No need to get emotional heck that would be weakness. Certainly would never show weakness in a competitive situation except aggression. The few times men will expose this kind of weakness is in an intimate relationship.
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I agree with you 100%

The underlying problem is that men and women are two totally different creatures. She may think that not saying anything to me at all is harsh while im thinkin, thats exactly what id like. but when somethings wrong in her life ALL she wants to do is talk. If im pissed about a game (or anything for that matter) it only takes a few moments (or hours)of silence and then im back to normal. sometimes its hard for her, to understand that. but we manage:)

usually just getting home a playing with my dogs will fix everything. the hard part for her is keeping quite on the ride home:)
 
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kath13 said:
I'm posting this on request for friends who wanted a copy of this. I wrote this one night, bored in a pool room. If you have anything negative to say, I won't be responding. .
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OMG I read this and laughed and laughed.

The very first time I watched one of gunnslingers big money matches,
I clapped when anyone got a ball in, and said things like great shot, oh that was nice, did you really mean to do that.
LOL, and the worst was he was in the middle of stroking for the winning ball on a hill hill match (that was 3 hours long)and I said to him do you want a sprite.
LOL
I was the best sharker and didn't even know it.
Now I am a good fan, I will get my own balls and play where I can watch his game, grab a salad and a diet coke and talk softly. LOL
Now I shhhh people when they are playing for stakes, lol.
rep to you the list was super.
mrs.g
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kath13 said:
Hi Everyone,

As you can see I'm new to AZ Forums; I'm not sure what the proper etiquette is, but since I started the thread, I'm guessing it's my responsibility to address some of the responses.
Firstly, some history. I've been with my PPB for 7 years and wouldn't trade him for the world. However, it doesn't mean that he hasn't made unreasonable requests when he's been gambling. On the flip side, I haven't always been fair to him when I've played. In fact, I believe I blamed him for a loss because he gave me a look when I missed an easy shot. Hey, it was easier to blame him at that moment then tell myself, you lost because you played like crap or I was outplayed.
The pool room is a world onto itself. As someone once told me, "It's a subculture." Someone else said, "A pool room is filled with treachorous undercurrents." It's also a big dysfunctional family. It's filled with people who truly understand your love of the game like noone else can. That includes partners in life who don't play.
I wrote this to highlight the injustices I've seen over the years between couples and that includes myself. I've seen a guy walk out of a set and out of the pool room leaving his girl behind. Why? Because he missed a shot and she said, "Honey, it's just a game." She was trying to make him feel better. He went ballistic. It was her 2nd time there, maybe. Is that reasonable? Is Hilla_Hilla's post reasonable? Nope. We have all seen different situations come up with players and their partners and we have said to ourselves, "They just don't understand, wonder how it's going to work out for them." How can they, I ask? Players are all different, some want music, no music, has to talk, no talking, boy/friend close by or not at all. Who can figure out what a player wants when he's losing or just playing? I'm not trying to say that all players are mental cases, but I have to say, the vast majority are definitely quirky. :) Gambing doesn't always bring out the best in people.
I'm not an abused woman, either emotionally or physically. What I am is perplexed at times.
My rules were meant to be funny, but as others have stated there is truth to them. If you can see yourselves in them, then you know you owe someone an apology somewhere because you have been unreasonable. There is more to a person than how they act when they gamble, but as PoolMaven pointed out, it's a reflection of that person. You may want to do some self-reflecting if too many of the rules apply to you.
Superstar, I think you've been hurt by a girl-friend at some point, I think people are just reacting to the way you phrased your original post, not the intent of your post. Noone want to be made a fool of in public, least of all by a boy/girlfriend.
JasonLaus, I think you understand the point of the rules.
Can we move on, please?
I want to know if that guy proposed or not to his girlfriend after his tournament. :)
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It would take a woman to give some perspective wouldnt it!!! :grin:
WOW, Kath!!! All I can say is your post is very well written!! To the point and rings the truth. I would give you more rep, but I have spread some around.:)
Welcome to AZB. I can tell we will get along just fine. :grin:
 
LOL. Finally.

My original post was based on personal observation and experience, because i have seen the whole spectrum of scenarios when it comes to a girlfriend in the pool room. That includes girlfriends of mine who didn't know the first thing about pool, and girlfriends who did and girlfriends from the WPBA, as well as other peoples experiences that i watch unfold.
If anyone has ever gambled for high stakes, and had to turn their attention away from what they were doing, because of whatever, it is truly annoying.
Especially when those involved KNOW that you have no other form of income.

So i can relate as can many.
This isn't about going to a pool room and hanging out playing pool and socializing and not wanting your significant other to do this or that.
To me, this was about bringing home the cheese and surviving. For me, it was WORK. And one can either make that job easier, or they can make it impossible.

But yes, pool people can definitely act in strange ways and usually, at the most inappropriate times.

The reason i worded my first post was that i was actually expecting a certain female to chime in with a response, and i figured to nip it in the butt. But she didn't say anything. It then assumed a life of it's own as you have seen.

But i HAVE dealt with tons of garbage as i'm sure many people have. Both from the perspective of being the player and what i've gone through, and being the supporting significant other TO the player, where i took the heat for everything that went wrong at some Pro event.
So maybe my perspective is a little more vivid.

But still, i have no tolerance for certain things that most people i know, do not find unreasonable and tend to agree with when it comes to serious gambling.

Going back to my first post. I have enemies. MANY. Pool isn't always fluffiness and rainbows. It can be and is very brutal at times when dealing with all the egos, and enemies are the by product of that.
So with that, if i have a well documented enemy that i've had for years, and whomever i am with takes great pleasure in talking to that enemy while i am trying to make a score that i have painstakingly set up, knowing full well that i hate that individual, THEY are now my enemy.

If people find flaw with that, then so be it, but i will never be untrue to myself.
 
SUPERSTAR said:
LOL. Finally.

My original post was based on personal observation and experience, because i have seen the whole spectrum of scenarios when it comes to a girlfriend in the pool room. That includes girlfriends of mine who didn't know the first thing about pool, and girlfriends who did and girlfriends from the WPBA, as well as other peoples experiences that i watch unfold.
If anyone has ever gambled for high stakes, and had to turn their attention away from what they were doing, because of whatever, it is truly annoying.
Especially when those involved KNOW that you have no other form of income.

So i can relate as can many.
This isn't about going to a pool room and hanging out playing pool and socializing and not wanting your significant other to do this or that.
To me, this was about bringing home the cheese and surviving. For me, it was WORK. And one can either make that job easier, or they can make it impossible.

But yes, pool people can definitely act in strange ways and usually, at the most inappropriate times.

The reason i worded my first post was that i was actually expecting a certain female to chime in with a response, and i figured to nip it in the butt. But she didn't say anything. It then assumed a life of it's own as you have seen.

But i HAVE dealt with tons of garbage as i'm sure many people have. Both from the perspective of being the player and what i've gone through, and being the supporting significant other TO the player, where i took the heat for everything that went wrong at some Pro event.
So maybe my perspective is a little more vivid.

But still, i have no tolerance for certain things that most people i know, do not find unreasonable and tend to agree with when it comes to serious gambling.

Going back to my first post. I have enemies. MANY. Pool isn't always fluffiness and rainbows. It can be and is very brutal at times when dealing with all the egos, and enemies are the by product of that.
So with that, if i have a well documented enemy that i've had for years, and whomever i am with takes great pleasure in talking to that enemy while i am trying to make a score that i have painstakingly set up, knowing full well that i hate that individual, THEY are now my enemy.

If people find flaw with that, then so be it, but i will never be untrue to myself.
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Well, at least you are being honest. I dont agree with some of your views, but you have a right to your views. Good Luck to you and your GF.
Remember, there is much more to life than living in the pool room(subculture) and having "enemies". Perspective and reality have more to do with life than you think. :)
 
SUPERSTAR said:
LOL. Finally.

My original post was based on personal observation and experience, because i have seen the whole spectrum of scenarios when it comes to a girlfriend in the pool room. That includes girlfriends of mine who didn't know the first thing about pool, and girlfriends who did and girlfriends from the WPBA, as well as other peoples experiences that i watch unfold.
If anyone has ever gambled for high stakes, and had to turn their attention away from what they were doing, because of whatever, it is truly annoying.
Especially when those involved KNOW that you have no other form of income.

So i can relate as can many.
This isn't about going to a pool room and hanging out playing pool and socializing and not wanting your significant other to do this or that.
To me, this was about bringing home the cheese and surviving. For me, it was WORK. And one can either make that job easier, or they can make it impossible.

But yes, pool people can definitely act in strange ways and usually, at the most inappropriate times.

The reason i worded my first post was that i was actually expecting a certain female to chime in with a response, and i figured to nip it in the butt. But she didn't say anything. It then assumed a life of it's own as you have seen.

But i HAVE dealt with tons of garbage as i'm sure many people have. Both from the perspective of being the player and what i've gone through, and being the supporting significant other TO the player, where i took the heat for everything that went wrong at some Pro event.
So maybe my perspective is a little more vivid.

But still, i have no tolerance for certain things that most people i know, do not find unreasonable and tend to agree with when it comes to serious gambling.

Going back to my first post. I have enemies. MANY. Pool isn't always fluffiness and rainbows. It can be and is very brutal at times when dealing with all the egos, and enemies are the by product of that.
So with that, if i have a well documented enemy that i've had for years, and whomever i am with takes great pleasure in talking to that enemy while i am trying to make a score that i have painstakingly set up, knowing full well that i hate that individual, THEY are now my enemy.

If people find flaw with that, then so be it, but i will never be untrue to myself.
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Now this is a good post.:thumbup:
 
TXsouthpaw said:
I agree with you 100%

The underlying problem is that men and women are two totally different creatures. She may think that not saying anything to me at all is harsh while im thinkin, thats exactly what id like. but when somethings wrong in her life ALL she wants to do is talk. If im pissed about a game (or anything for that matter) it only takes a few moments (or hours)of silence and then im back to normal. sometimes its hard for her, to understand that. but we manage:)

usually just getting home a playing with my dogs will fix everything. the hard part for her is keeping quite on the ride home:)
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I like this post! Good points. hehe. ;)

Reminds me of my favorite joke: http://www.melindaswindow.com/favoritejoke.html
 
SUPERSTAR said:
LOL. Finally.

But still, i have no tolerance for certain things that most people i know, do not find unreasonable and tend to agree with when it comes to serious gambling.

So with that, if i have a well documented enemy that i've had for years, and whomever i am with takes great pleasure in talking to that enemy while i am trying to make a score that i have painstakingly set up, knowing full well that i hate that individual, THEY are now my enemy.

If people find flaw with that, then so be it, but i will never be untrue to myself.
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That would tick me off, too ... and has, i might add. I'm right there with ya SuperStar!
 
Milo said:
Remember, there is much more to life than living in the pool room(subculture) and having "enemies". Perspective and reality have more to do with life than you think. :)
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Absolutely true.
Which is why i don't play pool that much anymore and moved on to better things.

But when your dealing with something competitive, where ego is the MAJOR component to the majority of players personalities. Enemies are bound to happen for very valid reasons.
Envy, jealousy, and greed, are rampant.
Those relationships might not be headline news every day, but they are there. Believe me they are.
The animosity might not last long, or it might last for years, or it can just one day spontaneously heal, but that doesn't mean those relationships don't exist.
Just look at Charlie Williams and Corey Deuel.
 
BigDaddyInc. said:
When im playin a tournament match and my girl is with me whenever i miss a shot i walk back and stand with her she will take her hand and start gently rubbing my back. Like she's tryin to comfort me or sum shit and it annoys the shit outta me! I wanna try to find a way to tell her not to do it but i can't see any good way to avoid sum type of arguement about me not wanting her to touch me during a match.
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Look her in the eye like you're ready to jump her bones and tell here that her attention and touching gets you REALLY hot and bothered and you don't need that during the match. "Phew! Girl when you start rubbing mhy back I get ALL hot and bothered and it ruins my pool. You can't be touching me while I'm playing pool or I never will be able to make a ball". And be smiling when you say it.
 
hilla_hilla said:
True story, at Danny K's in LA, an ex boyfriend broke my windshield because I asked him if he wanted a soda during a match:eek: . Needless to say, we aren't together anymore;) .
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This reminds me of a time, when i was dating a girl with a bad temper.
I was sweating the girls match at this bar tournament, and some dude that knew me, asked me if i was teaching her, at which point she got mad and said to me,"Do you mind moving cause if people are going to ask you that f-ing question all night, it's gonna bother the S#!T out of me."
So i moved.
I went to the other side of the room and started to play a video game, when one of the girls that i knew from the area came in to meet some friends and was like,"Hey there stranger, how have you been?"
So she we chit chatted for like 10 minutes and then the girl went to where her friends were.
Girlfriends came walking up after she lost her hill hill match and said," I tell you to move, so you have to go try and F@#K someone else!?!?"
So i really just wanted to kill her right there as i was so tired of this same old scene.
But i had to get back to her place cause my car was there.

So she's driving at like MACH 10, breaking all sorts of traffic laws, and gets back to her place in no time, and the whole time she is complaining. Non stop.
I don't say a word the whole time.

So we get back to her house, and i walk into the kitchen to get my keys and she grabs a glass to get something to drink, and i go to the sink to wash my hands.

So, next thing you know, out of nowhere, she starts talking to herself and replaying the game again and starts to get mad again, and then is bi.tching about me talking to the girl again and blaming me for her loss again, and mumbles to herself,"i'm trying to play, and he's got to go try and get his dick wet"
At which point while still washing my hands with my back to her, i couldn't take it anymore, and said,"Don't be all pissed off at me cause your a dog and missed the 9ball!"
So i hear this woosh and then CRASH, and look up, and there is this big hole in the window where the glass just went through it.

Must have missed my head by an inch.

Sometimes your doomed no matter what you do.
 
kath13 said:
I want to know if that guy proposed or not to his girlfriend after his tournament. :)
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Lol, very very close! :D

Ultimately didn't work out, but still have to smile about the moments. :)
 
Great post Kathy!
See, I'm not the only one that wants to frame the rules. TxSouthpaw thinks it's a good idea too!
 
so funny

This was so funny the first time I thought I would bump it for those who may have missed it....
 
To funny

The origional post is very funny stuff...well done!

Although your bf may be bothered by these things some guys would prefer to have thier gf along to distract his gambling oponent.1-5 can be very devistating to the right oponent,also 7,10-12,15 and 19 can be used effectively to give your PPB an edge!
 
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To funny

The origional post is very funny stuff...well done!

I must have missed this one as I mostly stick to the main forum.Didn't read any of the responces just the main OP so forgive me if my questions are redundant.PPB= pool playing boy?

This is why I would not date a non pool playing woman :smile:
 
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