Friends wedding or Vegas?

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John amcCulloch

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Hi all,

So, I'm really torn over this one...

I've been living in the U.S. for 12 years now (originally from Scotland), I try to get back home once a year to visit family and friends. This year I'm all booked up to take the family over to a good friends wedding, which, will also serve as a sort of cool high school reunion, only the people you'd want to see again.

Trouble is, last weekend my APA 8ball team, after several attempts and against the odds (think the last time a team from our division made it was in the 90's), qualified for the big show in Vegas and wouldn't you know it, conflicting dates!

With no real possibility of doing both, save someone lending me their private jet,
What do I do?
Or rather, what would you do?


ps, been hanging out on the site for a while, first time posting, sorry if this is a boring subject, I'm sure it happens to a bunch of ppl every year but I am genuinely stuck
 
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John amcCulloch said:
Hi all,

So, I'm really torn over this one...

I've been living in the U.S. for 12 years now (originally from Scotland), I try to get back home once a year to visit family and friends. This year I'm all booked up to take the family over to a good friends wedding, which, will also serve as a sort of cool high school reunion, only the people you'd want to see again.

Trouble is, last weekend my APA 8ball team, after several attempts and against the odds (think the last time a team from our division made it was in the 90's), qualified for the big show in Vegas and wouldn't you know it, conflicting dates!

With no real possibility of doing both, save someone lending me their private jet,
What do I do?
Or rather, what would you do?


ps, been hanging out on the site for a while, first time posting, Hi
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I'd stick with my original commitment of going to the wedding. There are only a handful of life events that I would truly regret missing. Exactly zero of them have anything to do with pool. Your call.
 
Family and friends first. Always

For most of us, pool is a hobby, describe it as you will.

Sounds like the wedding has been scheduled for a while now, that was your priority then, should be your priority now.

Or, have your friends get married in Vegas. Problem solved.
 
The wedding is only once (hopefully) & the high school reunion is too... Vegas is all the time... your choice.
 
I agree with the consensus here....Vegas is gonna be there a long time...
...and there will be more opportunities to play eight ball there.
Your friend is getting married...hopefully once....don't miss it.
 
Wedding...

I don't regret a single day that I missed at the pool hall but I regret all of the times I could have spent with family.
 
There is no choice.......at least not in my opinion.

Friendship means.......at least for real, generally true friends...."Any Time, Any Place, Any Thing"

This is a special moment for youe friend and if you dodge going for your own selfish wants.....you do
not need to go to LV....you want to go to LV.....and so being a man and a friend as well, you need to
do the right thing.........Screw Vegas and get your ass to his wedding or you'll regret your decision.
You always have tomorrow to qualify for Vegas but right now, today, try behaving like a true friend.

"Go Attend Your Friend's Wedding."



Matt B.
 
Yeah, taking the family to Scotland is the better plan. Commit to that, and have a great time. I would not want to go to Vegas under these circumstances. Conflicted mind, worried you should be somewhere else, might shoot like crap. What if your team goes one and done? Make this into a springboard for pool success. If your team really wants to go, commit to it. Clear schedules, get better. Do a group lesson, with somebody really good. You can make Vegas happen, if your team wants to go.
 
What a nice bunch, who says pool ain't a classy sport?

Yeh, I know it has to be the wedding, I've been getting a lot of stick from teammates and the crew down at the bar we play out of, I know they're all just excited, it's kind of a big deal for our little pool scene, just needed to hear some sense, thank you!
 
Wedding. I've attended and photographed over 200 weddings. In some cases I had to miss weddings of people close to me because I had already been contracted to photograph a wedding the same date. I wasn't able to attend those weddings and I regret it still. You have the opportunity to do the right thing. Do it.
 
Go to Vegas...the odds are with you.

More than 50% of marriages end in a divorce. You can go to your friend's next wedding.

You have a less than 50% chance of ever going to Vegas for another pool tournament.
 
tc in l a said:
I don't regret a single day that I missed at the pool hall but I regret all of the times I could have spent with family.
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I agree with you, all the time missed with the family. I'm darn lucky my wife of 50 years stayed around. Johnnyt
 
I agree with Hawaiian eye for several reasons.

1. This is a friend....not family as others have gotten mixed up. Apparently not a close enough friend for you to be invited to be a part of since you are just attending.

2. You stated that you have made a trip once a year for the last 12 years visiting friends and family. Just curious. How many times has this friend visited you ? Not insinuating your decision should be based on this question. Just curious how close you are to this person. These trips you make should indicate to friends and family how much you cherish them and if they can not realize how much this trip to Vegas means to you then they are more selfish than people on here believe you would be if you picked Vegas over a wedding.


3. You have more than likely made friends with people on your team and they are relying on you to help the team in Vegas just like you helped them all year to qualify for Vegas.

4. Maybe I am biased on this subject because my team qualified for Vegas 4 years ago and 3 people did not go. One had a legitimate reason....family issues ...and i would have done the same thing. The others...well lets just say I never understood why they did not go and it hurt our teams chances of finishing higher than we did.

5. The best advice really is....live your life for you and the hell with what I or any one on this forum think you should do.
 
John amcCulloch said:
No, just attending
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If you are not in the wedding, what is the big deal? How many of you reunion friends call you on a regular basis? the facts are you keep up with the few truly good friends you have. You do not need to see true friends at a reunion. Weddings suck and you are not in this one so how close really are you?

Go to Vegas with your Team!
 
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