Oh quit! You're like 22 now - who was your boyfriend Roman Polanski ;-)
You were married - seriously? I guess I should have stopped flirting with you long enough to get to know something about you.
Girlfriend wants me to stop playing pool
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Oh quit! You're like 22 now - who was your boyfriend Roman Polanski ;-)
You were married - seriously? I guess I should have stopped flirting with you long enough to get to know something about you.
Voodoo Daddy
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I dunno if this was mentioned
Cause Im too tired to read all 5 pages but sounds like you need the Jimmy Reid g/f exam.
Get an orange and a 5ball and put them on top ot the TV, when she knows the difference, hand her the pink slip!!!
Voo~~~Ill never forget that story, ever.
Cause Im too tired to read all 5 pages but sounds like you need the Jimmy Reid g/f exam.
Get an orange and a 5ball and put them on top ot the TV, when she knows the difference, hand her the pink slip!!!
Voo~~~Ill never forget that story, ever.
I wouldn't get rid of her as others have said (I think most were joking), but I definitely would have a talk with her and come to an understanding. Pool is something that you really love and by her asking you to quit she is stirring a recipe for an end to the relationship later on.
I do however understand her point about not wanting to move in if you were going to be in a pool hall 5-6 nights a week. I would come to a compromise of cutting back to say 3 nights a week max (2 days of league and one very solid day of practice).
If she can't make a compromise well then I would say that you may need to reevaluate your relationship, but if you stick with 5-6 days a week and start dating another girl I guarantee this will come up again and again.
*edit* btw I am truly envious that you are able to go to a pool hall that much. I get in a maximum 2 days with one of them being a league night and when I do get that 2 days (very rarely) I am as happy as can be. Put it this way, I am going to Italy next week and I am scheduling one extra day off when I come home so I can spend the entire day in the pool hall.
I do however understand her point about not wanting to move in if you were going to be in a pool hall 5-6 nights a week. I would come to a compromise of cutting back to say 3 nights a week max (2 days of league and one very solid day of practice).
If she can't make a compromise well then I would say that you may need to reevaluate your relationship, but if you stick with 5-6 days a week and start dating another girl I guarantee this will come up again and again.
*edit* btw I am truly envious that you are able to go to a pool hall that much. I get in a maximum 2 days with one of them being a league night and when I do get that 2 days (very rarely) I am as happy as can be. Put it this way, I am going to Italy next week and I am scheduling one extra day off when I come home so I can spend the entire day in the pool hall.
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A. I hope that you posted this under a fake name because if you did this under your real name and she ever finds out that there was even a question in your mind as to whether to choose pool or her you're toast.
B. Are you SURE that you are listening to what she is saying? She likes you and sees a prospective long term partner in you and started doing more of what you like to do in order to hang out with you. BUT that does not mean that she is saying that this is ultimately what she wants out of life. She might be asking you to THINK about what being a family man is all about. Her idea of what a family is may be different than yours.
In fact you should ALREADY be thinking of what you have to give up if you are at all seriously considering moving in together. Moving in together brings responsibilities with it that you can't shirk. With a child there it means you accept responsibility for that child's safety and well being in every sense of the word. The child WILL come to see you as the father figure and you should be prepared for that responsibility.
Luckily for you at this point you can choose. It's not about the choice between pool and her, it's the choice between being responsible for others or not. If you don't want to do that then don't.
Talk it out and tell her that you aren't ready to settle down yet and that if she is looking for someone to be that person then it's best if you both stop seeing each other and remain friends.
People can and do walk away from relationships without all the drama and fighting. But not if they are on different pages and not truly talking to each other.
I had two marriages where me and my two ex-wives were on completely different worlds with what we expected from each other. We all had grand assumptions about how life should be and they both tried to change me. And I tried to change them.
The point is that relationships are change. Not subservience. Not about who is in control. But instead about how well can you mesh and work together?
That starts with stepping back and trying to see your own life as she sees it. Put yourself in her shoes and see if you would want things to change if she were the one pursuing her hobby five or six nights a week.
All women are excited and thrilled about the hobbies of men they like when they first meet them. But the one thing that women want is to have some of your time and when they have to compete for it they don't take it well.
I had two wives who were very supportive of my pool habit BEFORE we were married and not so supportive of it AFTER we were married. I didn't find that to be very cool at all but looking back I can see where they were coming from even if I still think that they handled it badly.
Well, you have to figure out what it is that you want. I have had a few friends who literally put their cues away and worked hard to build a life and successful career and then after 20 years they came back to pool. I have other friends who both play in league 7 nights a week and their kids grew up playing pool. One of them's daughter now works for a billiard supply business.
So it can go either way but you have to have some balance if you want to have a family and be able to PLAY pool.
B. Are you SURE that you are listening to what she is saying? She likes you and sees a prospective long term partner in you and started doing more of what you like to do in order to hang out with you. BUT that does not mean that she is saying that this is ultimately what she wants out of life. She might be asking you to THINK about what being a family man is all about. Her idea of what a family is may be different than yours.
In fact you should ALREADY be thinking of what you have to give up if you are at all seriously considering moving in together. Moving in together brings responsibilities with it that you can't shirk. With a child there it means you accept responsibility for that child's safety and well being in every sense of the word. The child WILL come to see you as the father figure and you should be prepared for that responsibility.
Luckily for you at this point you can choose. It's not about the choice between pool and her, it's the choice between being responsible for others or not. If you don't want to do that then don't.
Talk it out and tell her that you aren't ready to settle down yet and that if she is looking for someone to be that person then it's best if you both stop seeing each other and remain friends.
People can and do walk away from relationships without all the drama and fighting. But not if they are on different pages and not truly talking to each other.
I had two marriages where me and my two ex-wives were on completely different worlds with what we expected from each other. We all had grand assumptions about how life should be and they both tried to change me. And I tried to change them.
The point is that relationships are change. Not subservience. Not about who is in control. But instead about how well can you mesh and work together?
That starts with stepping back and trying to see your own life as she sees it. Put yourself in her shoes and see if you would want things to change if she were the one pursuing her hobby five or six nights a week.
All women are excited and thrilled about the hobbies of men they like when they first meet them. But the one thing that women want is to have some of your time and when they have to compete for it they don't take it well.
I had two wives who were very supportive of my pool habit BEFORE we were married and not so supportive of it AFTER we were married. I didn't find that to be very cool at all but looking back I can see where they were coming from even if I still think that they handled it badly.
Well, you have to figure out what it is that you want. I have had a few friends who literally put their cues away and worked hard to build a life and successful career and then after 20 years they came back to pool. I have other friends who both play in league 7 nights a week and their kids grew up playing pool. One of them's daughter now works for a billiard supply business.
So it can go either way but you have to have some balance if you want to have a family and be able to PLAY pool.
Hey man I was in your almost exact situation. I met my fiance online actually. WE started dating just weekends. Meanwhile I was a pool junkie myself played everyday. but then stopped playing on the weekends when we met because it was our only time together. WOuld only play if we went out drinking or something. we dated for a few months. (This is where my situation changed) SHe got Pregnant. My job closed down. and I moved in with her.(6 Hrs away from my home) after going stircrazy for about 6months. I started school to change careers. and moved back to my hometown. Between work and school I was playing pool as much as I could again. but then the baby was born. and then Her traveling became to much so I was traveling every Friday night after work. So I was wasted. hard time staying awake at school and such so I rarely got to play. Anyway about 6 months later We decided it was best for her to move down with me. Save all the traveling and was just easier. Now I had a little bit of free time and I started back up on league one night a week.
Well, that just made my addiction spark again. and really hurt my game. never had any practice in. So between staying up and out so late I started to play a little more after work for a few hrs to get practice in. Well this is were things got fired up. long story short turn into massive fights all the time. and I ultimately quit playing again because I just couldn't focus and enjoy myself while out. My game suffered so bad. It just plain wasn't fun anymore.
SO I went on a 3 year or so leave from pool. Would basically just play at the local bar near my job if I got out a little early to get some table time in and keep from going insane. I met a bunch of people that were in the APA and kept asking me to join there team. After a year I said screw it. SO I joined. it was the same night I had school so I was out anyway. I basically told her that I'm going to play again and if you don't like it tobad.
Well, after another 2 years of 1 night a week and sneaking it table time. I decide I want to play more. also on a school night. Out anyway. told her I was playing on another team. well turned into arguemnts again and well basically I just didn't care. She has learned to accepted it and that is the way it is. Sure I get a dirty look once in a while when I go to go play but, she gets over it.
I work 60hrs a week sometimes more and go to night school 2 nights a week. the other time I'm home. I don't think i'm being unreasonable.
Sure I would love to play all the time once again but, with a family it's just not possible. Until I can afford to buy a house and stick my Dream table in it this is how it has to be.
Now like most have stated, if you can't deal with lessing your nights out a week, and or she can't accept it. then your basically both not ready for that serious of a relationship. It all about the compromise. I gave it up for a long time. and now I just play a little. we compromised.
So with that said. YOu shouldn't give it up all together like I did, but if you cut it back a little it shows your willing to advance in your relationship and compromise. but a pool player is who you are and she knew that first and if she wants to change that then she is not willing to compromise.
Sorry for the rambling but I hope somewhere in that incoherent rambling I made some sort of sence, and not made you stupidier for jhaving read it.
Well, that just made my addiction spark again. and really hurt my game. never had any practice in. So between staying up and out so late I started to play a little more after work for a few hrs to get practice in. Well this is were things got fired up. long story short turn into massive fights all the time. and I ultimately quit playing again because I just couldn't focus and enjoy myself while out. My game suffered so bad. It just plain wasn't fun anymore.
SO I went on a 3 year or so leave from pool. Would basically just play at the local bar near my job if I got out a little early to get some table time in and keep from going insane. I met a bunch of people that were in the APA and kept asking me to join there team. After a year I said screw it. SO I joined. it was the same night I had school so I was out anyway. I basically told her that I'm going to play again and if you don't like it tobad.
Well, after another 2 years of 1 night a week and sneaking it table time. I decide I want to play more. also on a school night. Out anyway. told her I was playing on another team. well turned into arguemnts again and well basically I just didn't care. She has learned to accepted it and that is the way it is. Sure I get a dirty look once in a while when I go to go play but, she gets over it.
I work 60hrs a week sometimes more and go to night school 2 nights a week. the other time I'm home. I don't think i'm being unreasonable.
Sure I would love to play all the time once again but, with a family it's just not possible. Until I can afford to buy a house and stick my Dream table in it this is how it has to be.
Now like most have stated, if you can't deal with lessing your nights out a week, and or she can't accept it. then your basically both not ready for that serious of a relationship. It all about the compromise. I gave it up for a long time. and now I just play a little. we compromised.
So with that said. YOu shouldn't give it up all together like I did, but if you cut it back a little it shows your willing to advance in your relationship and compromise. but a pool player is who you are and she knew that first and if she wants to change that then she is not willing to compromise.
Sorry for the rambling but I hope somewhere in that incoherent rambling I made some sort of sence, and not made you stupidier for jhaving read it.
I think it is WAAAY too early to even be thinking of giving up playing pool!
3 months? When I first read your post, I was certain that you must be like 20-22 or something. It sounded like a kid with his first crush. The tone just felt like an 18 year old kid who goes to a strip club for the first time! " Dude, this chick totally likes me! You see how she came right up to me? I think I am gonna ask her out!"
I was shocked to find out you are 36 and have a kid! No disrespect intended, I was just suprised. I am 34, so we are about the same age.
I am being 100% serious here. Do not rush into this thing! It is too early to be making drastic changes for either of you ( especially with a kid involved).
I know everything seems perfect and all, but everyone is great at the beginning! Think back about your relationship with your kid's mom. Stop and think about the beginning, and the end. Did you REALLY know ANYTHING about her true personality in the first 3 months? What would you say to your previous self if you could go back in time?
I think that she is being a littl irresponsible for even talking about moving herself and daughter in with a man who she has only been dating for 3 months.
This whole thing almost feels like a setup to me! She is a single mom, with enough free time to be hanging out with your son at your house while you are at work? Does she have a job? Is she living with her parents currently?
Hmmm. Her dad (out of the blue) sets you guys up. Her mom loves you and is helping you guys work things out to stay together. I bet you have a pretty good job.
The parents are trying to get her out of their house and into yours. You get to help take the burden off them ( financially and time wise).
It really seems to me that she is looking for someone to rescue her. She needs to make sure that she can control you. No matter what boundaries you put up, they will be challenged, and challenged again to make sure you meant it.
Now you are giving up an activity that you and your son enjoy for her. So family is important as long as it is hers?
A little recap here. Her dad is a pool player, her mom even thinks she should not try and control you to stop playing, it is something that you and your son do together. You have a good job, and she is a single mom ( who I suspect may not be working). It sounds like you are in a pretty good position to put your foot down on this one! It sounds like you are bring plenty to the table, and she should not be the one making demands or giving out ultamatums.
I bet if you already played 2 night a week, that would be a problem. And these things do not usually get better the more you give up. Give an inch and lose a mile! I am being very serious here.
Just stress how important family is to you and that you need to spend more quality time with your son ( at the pool hall of course!).
I was with a girl for 6 years. She had 2 kids, and refused to work! She may have worked a total of one year out of 6 that we were together (and only when I really pushed her too).
In the beginning, I really had a much different picture of things. Slowly but surely, things began to change. She did less and less, and demanded more and more. I was working many hours and did not want to spend my off time argueing, so let many things go. I finally got rid of her, and am so much better off because of it! Do you know, I actually went about a year and a half without hitting a ball? Terrible choice! I did not quit because she made me, but I doubt I would have taken that much time off if I were single.
Let me tell you something I have learned-
Women look at men the way men look at cars. " Well, it aint much now, but just wait untill I fix this and put a new coat of paint on..."
Jw
3 months? When I first read your post, I was certain that you must be like 20-22 or something. It sounded like a kid with his first crush. The tone just felt like an 18 year old kid who goes to a strip club for the first time! " Dude, this chick totally likes me! You see how she came right up to me? I think I am gonna ask her out!"
I was shocked to find out you are 36 and have a kid! No disrespect intended, I was just suprised. I am 34, so we are about the same age.
I am being 100% serious here. Do not rush into this thing! It is too early to be making drastic changes for either of you ( especially with a kid involved).
I know everything seems perfect and all, but everyone is great at the beginning! Think back about your relationship with your kid's mom. Stop and think about the beginning, and the end. Did you REALLY know ANYTHING about her true personality in the first 3 months? What would you say to your previous self if you could go back in time?
I think that she is being a littl irresponsible for even talking about moving herself and daughter in with a man who she has only been dating for 3 months.
This whole thing almost feels like a setup to me! She is a single mom, with enough free time to be hanging out with your son at your house while you are at work? Does she have a job? Is she living with her parents currently?
Hmmm. Her dad (out of the blue) sets you guys up. Her mom loves you and is helping you guys work things out to stay together. I bet you have a pretty good job.
The parents are trying to get her out of their house and into yours. You get to help take the burden off them ( financially and time wise).
It really seems to me that she is looking for someone to rescue her. She needs to make sure that she can control you. No matter what boundaries you put up, they will be challenged, and challenged again to make sure you meant it.
Now you are giving up an activity that you and your son enjoy for her. So family is important as long as it is hers?
A little recap here. Her dad is a pool player, her mom even thinks she should not try and control you to stop playing, it is something that you and your son do together. You have a good job, and she is a single mom ( who I suspect may not be working). It sounds like you are in a pretty good position to put your foot down on this one! It sounds like you are bring plenty to the table, and she should not be the one making demands or giving out ultamatums.
I bet if you already played 2 night a week, that would be a problem. And these things do not usually get better the more you give up. Give an inch and lose a mile! I am being very serious here.
Just stress how important family is to you and that you need to spend more quality time with your son ( at the pool hall of course!).
I was with a girl for 6 years. She had 2 kids, and refused to work! She may have worked a total of one year out of 6 that we were together (and only when I really pushed her too).
In the beginning, I really had a much different picture of things. Slowly but surely, things began to change. She did less and less, and demanded more and more. I was working many hours and did not want to spend my off time argueing, so let many things go. I finally got rid of her, and am so much better off because of it! Do you know, I actually went about a year and a half without hitting a ball? Terrible choice! I did not quit because she made me, but I doubt I would have taken that much time off if I were single.
Let me tell you something I have learned-
Women look at men the way men look at cars. " Well, it aint much now, but just wait untill I fix this and put a new coat of paint on..."
Jw
I like what you wrote A LOT, not because of whether I agree with you or not but because you speak the uncompromising truth about your addiction. I know you speak the truth because I share the same addiction and traveled a similar road.
Your post and the post of many others shows what a huge addiction pool can be and some of the problems that it can cause. I respect the fact that you are a responsibile (working) parent and husband, providing for your family, while modulating your addiction. I never got my dream table but I will spend my time wishing for yours to come true.
JoeyA
A while ago I was lucky enough to have a girlfriend who loved pool even more than I do, I had to drag her out of the pool hall... and I used to be a 6 nights a week guy. Now it's 4 but anyway it was pretty cool. They're rare but they do exist.
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Whether it's pool, or some other 'hobby' the only thing you have to do is be extremely honest with yourself about how much you're into it. I had a marriage that broke up mostly because I wasn't willing to admit how important it was for me to spend time online and playing pool.
From a PC perspective, if a guy does this.. he's a jerk who hasn't outgrown the kid stuff and his priorities are out of whack if he thinks pool (or the computer) are more important than a happy marriage to a great woman. It sounds even worse when there's a kid in the mix, like "...how can you put your silly game over spending time with a sweet two year old girl?"
But the honest way of looking at it... it's not a happy relationship if one of the partners isn't happy. And if cutting back on pool makes you unhappy, the relationship is doomed. Sounds selfish but that's how it is.
Just ask yourself if you're happy playing less and spending that time with them. If giving up 3 nights a week has left you feeling worse off overall than before you met her, you probably should move on. I think the point of relationships is that the sum is greater than the parts. Both people are happier together than they were apart. You can't just have a situation where you donate away a chunk of your happiness to make her happier, and only one of you feels better off.
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Whether it's pool, or some other 'hobby' the only thing you have to do is be extremely honest with yourself about how much you're into it. I had a marriage that broke up mostly because I wasn't willing to admit how important it was for me to spend time online and playing pool.
From a PC perspective, if a guy does this.. he's a jerk who hasn't outgrown the kid stuff and his priorities are out of whack if he thinks pool (or the computer) are more important than a happy marriage to a great woman. It sounds even worse when there's a kid in the mix, like "...how can you put your silly game over spending time with a sweet two year old girl?"
But the honest way of looking at it... it's not a happy relationship if one of the partners isn't happy. And if cutting back on pool makes you unhappy, the relationship is doomed. Sounds selfish but that's how it is.
Just ask yourself if you're happy playing less and spending that time with them. If giving up 3 nights a week has left you feeling worse off overall than before you met her, you probably should move on. I think the point of relationships is that the sum is greater than the parts. Both people are happier together than they were apart. You can't just have a situation where you donate away a chunk of your happiness to make her happier, and only one of you feels better off.
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heads...or tails..........?
Since it's all about compromise, let nature take it's course..... Cut back on playing a little bit, spend more time with her so that you're running about 50/50 with your spare time.
When it gets to the point that you are unconsciously spending more time with one or the other, you know when you made your choice.
You didn't, you just let it happen.:wink:
It's no secret that my whole world revolves around work and pool (especially since they are hand in hand.)
I'm also a workaholic so I'm never stopping for long- which isn't very conducive to the longevity of any of the past relationships, since my world pretty much revolves around pooltables anyway,I've gotten into that debate.
I've even tried over the years to cut back, spend more time at home, and it never worked out. I always end up back around the pooltables or hitting tourneys again.
If she's willing to work it out, get her into pool maybe you'll get lucky and find another one of those rare ones that gets just as addicted to playing as the rest of us hooligans.:wink:
If not....well, you gave it a shot, let nature takes it's course.
If all else fails, you could play her race to 11 to help decide!
But never stop being who you are for someone else.
IF they can't accept you for who you are then they won't ever accept what you do, then nobody's gonna be happy-
Since it's all about compromise, let nature take it's course..... Cut back on playing a little bit, spend more time with her so that you're running about 50/50 with your spare time.
When it gets to the point that you are unconsciously spending more time with one or the other, you know when you made your choice.
You didn't, you just let it happen.:wink:
It's no secret that my whole world revolves around work and pool (especially since they are hand in hand.)
I'm also a workaholic so I'm never stopping for long- which isn't very conducive to the longevity of any of the past relationships, since my world pretty much revolves around pooltables anyway,I've gotten into that debate.
I've even tried over the years to cut back, spend more time at home, and it never worked out. I always end up back around the pooltables or hitting tourneys again.
If she's willing to work it out, get her into pool maybe you'll get lucky and find another one of those rare ones that gets just as addicted to playing as the rest of us hooligans.:wink:
If not....well, you gave it a shot, let nature takes it's course.
If all else fails, you could play her race to 11 to help decide!
But never stop being who you are for someone else.
IF they can't accept you for who you are then they won't ever accept what you do, then nobody's gonna be happy-
If you go into it thinking she'll give in and chage,and she is going into it thinking she'll change you in the perfect mate, YOUR BOTH SCREWED! IT NEVER WORKS. ya gotta them love as they are and she has to love you the way you are! Ya can't do it thinking you gonna change the person. NO ONE WINS!
I'm not saying she's not being controlling, not saying she is either. I'm simply saying that this is not about pool as it is about time together. The OP said he plays five or six nights a week. Now, I'm not sure if that means he's stopping by after work for an hour or if it means he's hanging out the entire night. If he is, it's a little much. That's a typical schedule for someone who is not attached.
Tell her you will stop playing pool when she stops menstruating.
Keep in mind that until this came up, she went WITH me all of this time I was playing pool.
That's not such a great idea, I'm sure the original poster would like to continue pool after he turns 50ish
Alot of the guys on here will urge you to discard the girl and move on but I think their opinions are the reasons why we have so much divorce in this country. If you truly love the girl, adore her kid and like being a father in that child's life, then I would tell you that its dead nuts stealing that you will find a level of satisfaction in finding ways to compromise and maintain this relationship that will equal the satisfaction you get from running a rack of nineball. Pool is great no doubt but keep a level head and see it for what it is, just a part of your overall life and while an important part, its not worth giving up on human connection to people you love.
My friends who know me, know I have serious issues with my wife about pool. My wife doesnt play pool. In fact in the 14 years I have known her (10 of which married) she has seen me play in a tournament one time and matched up gambling one time (our first date 14 years ago when I busted a ring game at a sportbar in cocoa beach).
I have all kinds of problems with this. First she views my time at a tournament or league as being time "out" much akin to how she might go "out" with her girlfriends to dinner and then a club and then maybe a bar or two. I do see her point in that out is out of the house and not home with our two young kids and that while I am out she is at home carrying that responsibility. I love my kids more than pool so if it comes down to it I choose my kids over pool. Right now too they still want to hang out with me and want to be with me, something that I foresee will change when they become teenagers, so I am basking in this action while its available so to speak.
Marriage without even considering pool as an issue is really a balancing act of compromise and respect for your spouse. Despite not knowing a nit from a knock, my wife does know that pool is not going away and it will be part of me for the rest of my life. She doesnt try to kill that part of my life but does try to remind me to practice moderation and show her as much attention as I do my cuestick. Sometimes her methods of communicating this to me are harder to understand than other times and I think that has alot to do with how men and women communicate.
My friends who know me, know I have serious issues with my wife about pool. My wife doesnt play pool. In fact in the 14 years I have known her (10 of which married) she has seen me play in a tournament one time and matched up gambling one time (our first date 14 years ago when I busted a ring game at a sportbar in cocoa beach).
I have all kinds of problems with this. First she views my time at a tournament or league as being time "out" much akin to how she might go "out" with her girlfriends to dinner and then a club and then maybe a bar or two. I do see her point in that out is out of the house and not home with our two young kids and that while I am out she is at home carrying that responsibility. I love my kids more than pool so if it comes down to it I choose my kids over pool. Right now too they still want to hang out with me and want to be with me, something that I foresee will change when they become teenagers, so I am basking in this action while its available so to speak.
Marriage without even considering pool as an issue is really a balancing act of compromise and respect for your spouse. Despite not knowing a nit from a knock, my wife does know that pool is not going away and it will be part of me for the rest of my life. She doesnt try to kill that part of my life but does try to remind me to practice moderation and show her as much attention as I do my cuestick. Sometimes her methods of communicating this to me are harder to understand than other times and I think that has alot to do with how men and women communicate.
each doing your own thing
A friend of mine worked four ten hour days a week and he also played poker like many of us play pool meaning that he might sit down at the table Thursday evening straight from work and get home Sunday afternoon besides playing some other nights. One Sunday he had done just this so when he got home he figured it was time to mend fences and asked his wife if she would like to go out and have a drink. She was agreeable and they went to a nearby spot.
This place was long and narrow with a few tables and a pool table or two in the back. As they walked past the bar to go sit at a table several men greeted his wife. "Hey Debbie", "Hey Baby", "Hi Honey", a few more similar greetings.
My friend was curious and a bit warm under the collar and asked his wife what the deal was as soon as they sat down. She said, "remember you have been in the streets three days, I was too!"
J said "You knew where I was and that I was playing poker."
His wife simply told him, "you did what you wanted to do, I did what I wanted to do."
A true story and food for thought for the OP and those that neglect things on the homefront.
Hu
A friend of mine worked four ten hour days a week and he also played poker like many of us play pool meaning that he might sit down at the table Thursday evening straight from work and get home Sunday afternoon besides playing some other nights. One Sunday he had done just this so when he got home he figured it was time to mend fences and asked his wife if she would like to go out and have a drink. She was agreeable and they went to a nearby spot.
This place was long and narrow with a few tables and a pool table or two in the back. As they walked past the bar to go sit at a table several men greeted his wife. "Hey Debbie", "Hey Baby", "Hi Honey", a few more similar greetings.
My friend was curious and a bit warm under the collar and asked his wife what the deal was as soon as they sat down. She said, "remember you have been in the streets three days, I was too!"
J said "You knew where I was and that I was playing poker."
His wife simply told him, "you did what you wanted to do, I did what I wanted to do."
A true story and food for thought for the OP and those that neglect things on the homefront.
Hu