It appears that the APA in your area has failed you. That doesn't mean it's that way everywhere. Is it a shame, certainly.
To your comment about playing 20 years and actually enjoying it, well I'm not to the 20 year mark yet, but I think this is my 15th year, and I like it just fine. Do I agree with everything my LO does, no, but I can usually understand where he is coming from when he does so. I have managed a business myself, so I tend to try and take the long view and try to understand the big picture, if I can. Many times there are things at play that affect other things, and making changes can affect far more than one would think. And I realize that not every LO is the same. Here, its run reasonably well, in my opinion. Is it for everyone? No. But it serves its purpose for a great many of us.
Good luck to you, in finding something that suits you better. I'm sure it's out there, somewhere. There are lots of options.