DaveK said:
My pleasure.
I do not apply meaning to single shots very often. While they may be significant in the context of a single game, they are often insignificant in a match and are certainly insignificant in my overall assessment of my game. It's the sum of all shots that is significant.
Think maybe, but think correctly, completely and with resolve to correct problems, not likely. Believe it or not there are some human minds that cannot think their way out of a wet paper bag. Some have difficulty with higher levels of abstraction. Sure, maybe you could teach then better techniques, but by the time they learn they'll be dead, and how much self-improvement can a corpse expect ?
No, you've been sharked. And you did not give me permission. That is the point, the "then what" part is meaningless, the point was about the here and now shark without permission. This was a direct rebuttal to your comment about sharking without permission, not a self-help enlightenment exercise.
I read it, but type is cheap. I would be curious as to how blissful the authors life truely is ... but we'll never know (her childhood sounds quite fked up), so I'll just stick to my own path for now.
Dave
At lot of points to address here, so bear with me...
First and foremost, your final paragraph demonstrates what I've been trying to convey: YOU chose to not let my ideas affect you.

I am NOT omnipotent after all, am I?
OK, now for the details...Your evaluation of the sum of all shots also reinforces the fact that you choose how to let reality affect your emotions. No problem with that from me.
Any conscious being can choose his/her reaction, regardless of intelligence or effort. In fact, ALL do it even if they don't know it. That's a fact, not an opinion. Now people may choose to go back into the womb and pretend to no longer be conscious, but once conscious, there's no going back....ever. That's the essence of self--until death anyway. And all DO choose something, even if it is to follow others' wishes and influences with their bad results.
Yes, I would be sharked if you waited until my final stroke and e.g., lit a crank lighter in my face like the story I told in another thread. You said that was THE point, but it is not. THE point of this thread is how hot someone gets by reacting to someone else's behavior. So, THE point takes place AFTER the shark, ie, the
reaction is THE point here. Therefore, MY chosen reaction to the shark determines the hotness of my emotions, correct? When the crank lighter incident happened, I laughed & felt sorrow for the crankhead, but my teammates were pissed and expressed it. Two completely opposite reactions to the SAME event! How could this be? Yes, I might lose the game, match, tournament even, from the shark, but I STILL choose my reaction to that whole mess. As you said, you combine all the shots into your evaluation of the game, not just one.
And finally, I don't know the women who wrote the article, but her crummy family history was put into her article, imho, to demonstrate how she has gone beyond those
self-imposed limits and found more happiness by adopting this paradigm of not letting others control her emotions. At least that's the message I got from it and the point I'm trying to convey.
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