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NewStroke

NewStroke

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I am married with two toddlers at home so my wife and I compromised that I would play league one night a week and occasionally an additional tournament during the week.

Given that data, I found a BCA team that I would play on, however, my 20 y/o son started an APA team and asked if I would be on that team to help him. He is only 20 and can only play in APA because those places let him in to play. Next year he will be playing BCA with me.

If you have not read my previous posts, I HATE THE APA and the people I have to play, but since he is my son, I want to help him and teach him how to run a team as well as help him get better at the game.

I love teaching and mentoring but I come home each night with a migraine after hearing everyone fighting about rules or what happened on the table.

Maybe I am just venting but I really want drop the APA altogether. I am too old and too impatient for their stupid sh*t.

What do you think?
 
Well, if it was me, I'd suck it up and play with your son.

If you don't, years from now you will probably regret not spending the time with him, coaching him between shots, talking strategy- in a word bonding as Father & son as well as fellow players.

The many (petty) distractions of the league can also help temper your son to better block out these annoyances, which is particularly helpful in playoff or tournament situations.

So, that's my opinion! Hope it was helpful for you!:wink:
 
follow your heart and let those headaches be your guide, why put up with what you know you don't like...at this point in your life, but it sure would be fun with the kid, good luck
 
Playing with your son will be fun no matter what league it is. Think of it as spending time with him rather then giving your 8 bucks to the APA. Have a great night out with your boy.
 
help son?

You can help your son learn pool and how to run a team without joining the apa team. It would probably be better if you were not on the team with your son. Who would be running the team you or him?:rolleyes:
 
I was leaning toward playing with my son anyway. I just get so pissed off at the level of player I am forced to deal with in our league.
 
Lust let the APA BS pass like water under the bridge, but enjoy every second with your son.

Life's too short.

The main reason I say this is because one of my best friend's sons died in a car accident just last week, he had just turned 19.

Sorry if I bummed anyone out, but too many of us take too many of the little things for granted until it's too late and we all need to be reminded of this from time to time.

Trevor........Family Man
 
Why not just bring him up to Doc's tourney on Wednesday? He'll get to play against good competition, see some great pool, he gets at least 2 matches and 3 games each for just $10, and neither of you have to deal with the APA....

just sayin....
 
NewStroke said:
I am married with two toddlers at home so my wife and I compromised that I would play league one night a week and occasionally an additional tournament during the week.

Given that data, I found a BCA team that I would play on, however, my 20 y/o son started an APA team and asked if I would be on that team to help him. He is only 20 and can only play in APA because those places let him in to play. Next year he will be playing BCA with me.

If you have not read my previous posts, I HATE THE APA and the people I have to play, but since he is my son, I want to help him and teach him how to run a team as well as help him get better at the game.

I love teaching and mentoring but I come home each night with a migraine after hearing everyone fighting about rules or what happened on the table.

Maybe I am just venting but I really want drop the APA altogether. I am too old and too impatient for their stupid sh*t.

What do you think?
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I would love to have one more afternoon to play pool with my father. But that won't happen until we meet again on the other side.

Which is more important to you...your son...or your dislike of the APA?

Steve
 
Big Perm said:
Why not just bring him up to Doc's tourney on Wednesday? He'll get to play against good competition, see some great pool, he gets at least 2 matches and 3 games each for just $10, and neither of you have to deal with the APA....

just sayin....
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I'll be showing up to Doc's tourney twice a month like clockwork now. Plus I love playing with you guys :)
 
pooltchr said:
I would love to have one more afternoon to play pool with my father. But that won't happen until we meet again on the other side.

Which is more important to you...your son...or your dislike of the APA?

Steve
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You are 100% right, after writing it, the choice became obvious. I'll ignore the tedious crap and enjoy what matters.

Thanks

Dan
 
12310bch said:
You can help your son learn pool and how to run a team without joining the apa team. It would probably be better if you were not on the team with your son. Who would be running the team you or him?:rolleyes:
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I think this is the best answer. Be on the sidelines if he needs help with anything.
 
NewStroke said:
I am married with two toddlers at home so my wife and I compromised that I would play league one night a week and occasionally an additional tournament during the week.

Given that data, I found a BCA team that I would play on, however, my 20 y/o son started an APA team and asked if I would be on that team to help him. He is only 20 and can only play in APA because those places let him in to play. Next year he will be playing BCA with me.

If you have not read my previous posts, I HATE THE APA and the people I have to play, but since he is my son, I want to help him and teach him how to run a team as well as help him get better at the game.

I love teaching and mentoring but I come home each night with a migraine after hearing everyone fighting about rules or what happened on the table.

Maybe I am just venting but I really want drop the APA altogether. I am too old and too impatient for their stupid sh*t.

What do you think?
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The important question is; what would your personal shaman from the Batak tribe have you do. Only he can guide you to the promised land and answer your question.

Seriously, keep playing and try to have fun. Don't get caught up in the BS.
 
Start an APA Masters team with him. You only need 3 people to play and most the players in the APA Masters division are good players (6s & 7s)

Its a fun race also. You race to 7. Whoever wins the lag can break or choose the game they want to play. You play up to 5 games of 8 ball and up to 8 games of nine ball. There are no handicaps and everybody plays even. You only count games won and there are no tracking of innings or safeties. We generally use 2 tables and are done in less than 2 hours (not the 4 - 5 hours required for Regular APA).
 
12310bch said:
You can help your son learn pool and how to run a team without joining the apa team. It would probably be better if you were not on the team with your son. Who would be running the team you or him?:rolleyes:
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heres a spot of bad advice. my son and i have played league together for a few years (NOT APA). i was captain for a while, now he is. i dont really care. he runs the team. i enjoy the time i can spend with him. i know we wont play league together forever but i am glad we did. i'll miss it when we dont. play with your son even if it is the APA.

brian
 
TWOFORPOOL said:
Start an APA Masters team with him. You only need 3 people to play and most the players in the APA Masters division are good players (6s & 7s)

Its a fun race also. You race to 7. Whoever wins the lag can break or choose the game they want to play. You play up to 5 games of 8 ball and up to 8 games of nine ball. There are no handicaps and everybody plays even. You only count games won and there are no tracking of innings or safeties. We generally use 2 tables and are done in less than 2 hours (not the 4 - 5 hours required for Regular APA).
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Bob has a good idea here.....he can play better players, and you get around most of the APA bs......also, you don't have to manage a big team....
 
Play with your son. Time passes quickly. You won't regret being with your boy, but you may regret not playing with him years from now. Not a guilt trip, just things in perspective.
 
Thanks all. The decision was pretty easy. We'll be playing together as long as he wants to. Everything else is just insignificant. :)
 
NewStroke said:
Thanks all. The decision was pretty easy. We'll be playing together as long as he wants to. Everything else is just
insignificant. :)
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Glad to hear it, Dan. I look forward to our next match.

In the words of the great Batak Shaman, "F*** the BS."
 
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