Count me in. :smile:
Luther Lassiter grave
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Count me in. :smile:
I agree.I restored Wimpys headstone 2 years ago .Im good friends with his nephew and play pool a couple times a year on Wimpys 5x10 shimmed Gandy with 30 year old nap cloth on it. There will be NO headstone replacement I don't think because even though it's a small stone it is with other family members beside it that have matching stones.
As far as Wimpy using 13.5mm shafts.All the cues I have seen of his that were sold or that his Nephew still has the shafts were much thinner at around 12.5-12.8mm.
I believe if they were approached in the right way, and understood what we are trying to do they might not be against it. Also his marker would be moved to the foot of the grave, not entirely removed. Either way thanks for your reply and insight.
It never hurts to try.
Having grown up in this business, this is not a uncommon thing.
You are exactly right and your experience in the business shows.
It most definitely is worth the effort.
Good idea.I have owned a Cemetery company for 6 years and I would have no issue with the idea however I know the Lassiters and I personally don't think it should be asked to them as it irritates them enough all the time when people contact them for various things about Wimpy.I will consider asking them if there is enough serious interest in this project.
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I agree with those who say getting permission from family is the first step, then making sure what's proposed is within any rules of the cemetary.
nice thought to honor him this way.
best,
brian kc
nice thought to honor him this way.
best,
brian kc
First step is to contact the cemetery and find out if they allow such things, and to what extent. Its likely that they will have rules about size and designs etc., especially since its after the fact and not blood relatives wanting to change things.
If they allow changes at all, the cemetery co. will attempt to contact the family for permission. If no contact can be made ( which seems unlikely) they would refuse or make the stone placement " conditional", in the event a family member comes forward to object.
Likewise the design will probably have to be approved by both the cemetery and the family.
Also, I wouldn't be all that surprised if they don't allow two stones on the same grave, so don't count your chickens before they hatch.
Beyond all this, I think it's a noble and kind idea. Just make sure it's being done for the right reasons.
If they allow changes at all, the cemetery co. will attempt to contact the family for permission. If no contact can be made ( which seems unlikely) they would refuse or make the stone placement " conditional", in the event a family member comes forward to object.
Likewise the design will probably have to be approved by both the cemetery and the family.
Also, I wouldn't be all that surprised if they don't allow two stones on the same grave, so don't count your chickens before they hatch.
Beyond all this, I think it's a noble and kind idea. Just make sure it's being done for the right reasons.
I spoke with Hollywood cemetery this morning. Just about any design will be allowed, and size is only dictated by the plot width. Never heard of a cemetery that does not allow a marker to be placed at the foot of the grave. It is a very common practice, and you own the plot. Most rules that dictate whether you can have a upright monument verse a flat (ground level) have to do with the mowing of the cemetery. There are a few details the funeral home receptionist couldn't answer, and I am expecting a call from the director.
Also I would think there would be a better way to approach the family, than to have a funeral home director call them up and say, "Hey, some people wanna change out your relatives marker". As already posted, there are people who know the family, understand what we are trying to do, and could make a better case for us than a funeral home would. Just some food for thought. I understand you are very knowledgeable person, and we're highly recommended to be involved with this. I appreciate your reply.
If there could be a visual of what the plan is, would go a long way in a respectful and professional way in approaching the family. Even if it is not set in stone yet, the idea would be on paper for them to see...words, portrait, style, etc
In the works :thumbup:
When someone draws up everything so it is basically is in a position for the family to say yes or no I will personally call them and ask for their permission since I know them. I think if it's all drawn up exactly where only the family can make changes it could happen but the Lassiter family are calm country folks and may just not want to be bothered by it.