I want to thank you all for the great replies, just what I was looking for!
Some of the comments about my intentions are a bit off. It can be difficult to articulate your thoughts and goals in 2 short paragraphs, or more in my case

and I think many of you made assumptions that are inaccurate. A few of the comments hit what I think was the issue with my brain, like this one "Safeties are still considered dirty pool". It's the way I grew up playing *shrug*
As stated, I have rarely been in a position where safe play was part of the game. I am about to put myself in a position where safeties are commonly used. I know that because I pay attention to what's going on around me. Base on your comments, safe play is an integral component of the game, and winning. Which is what I love to do.
I currently play position, and pocketing balls. My wife would NOT play if I played safe, and the late afternoon, after playing pool sex, would disappear quickly. When we started playing I had to bank ever ball, she is now at the point where I only have to bank the 8.
My banks, kicks and position play have improved a lot but I am getting a bit bored and would like to join a league... expand my horizons, etc. I am not fighting the idea of safeties, am embracing it.
Thank you again for all of your comments!