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Let it go. You're good.
Bear with me, here: in the absolutely WORST possible scenario, where you saw she was going for the wrong ball, where you knew deep in your heart that she intended to hit the wrong ball first: it's still not wrong to keep quiet. Look at your alternatives.
If you tell her it's the wrong ball and she was merely checking future angles or positions, now you've sharked her- making her feel self conscious and breaking her train of thought. If you tell her and she gratefully takes the advice, going for the correct ball, she will either run out or she won't. If she runs out, you both feel crappy- you because you lost, and she because she didn't really earn the win. If she doesn't get out, you sharked her anyway, making her feel too self conscious and guilty to complete the run. (And it sounds like she's more than ready to blame you for anything, anyway.)
The best is to follow Tom's logic above- you can't tell her it's the wrong ball, the wrong english, the wrong anything. Let her play her game, you play yours.
Our hardest lessons come from our biggest mistakes, and if she could take responsibility for her shooting the wrong shot (instead of putting that blame on you), she will have definitely learned to pay attention.
And don't let other people tell you what good sportsmanship is when they can't be good sports themselves. A good sport in her place would have shaken your hand, congratulated you, and went back to the room to think about how to better focus under pressure.
Sheesh- her behavior is classic blaming the other guy for her loss, plus trying to sour your win because she feels stupid. Don't give her that power over you, your game, your emotions- when it's entirely her problem in the first place. Let it go. You're good.
P.S. I don't know anything about the APA, so if there was a rule or something that would have made a difference here, I wouldn't know it. HOWEVER, I do see it's a team event, in which case if you're helping your opponent, you're also selling out your team by doing so.
Thanks for the posts so far. One thing I didn't mention is that this match was an APA 9 ball match in the National Team Tournament in Las Vegas, so it's not like no one was watching. I was playing and pretty focused on the match but I'm reasonably certain that all the players from both teams were watching pretty intensely. I have been feeling guilty ever since, it was like she was sure I blatently cheated, that just doesn't set to well with me.
Bear with me, here: in the absolutely WORST possible scenario, where you saw she was going for the wrong ball, where you knew deep in your heart that she intended to hit the wrong ball first: it's still not wrong to keep quiet. Look at your alternatives.
If you tell her it's the wrong ball and she was merely checking future angles or positions, now you've sharked her- making her feel self conscious and breaking her train of thought. If you tell her and she gratefully takes the advice, going for the correct ball, she will either run out or she won't. If she runs out, you both feel crappy- you because you lost, and she because she didn't really earn the win. If she doesn't get out, you sharked her anyway, making her feel too self conscious and guilty to complete the run. (And it sounds like she's more than ready to blame you for anything, anyway.)
The best is to follow Tom's logic above- you can't tell her it's the wrong ball, the wrong english, the wrong anything. Let her play her game, you play yours.
Our hardest lessons come from our biggest mistakes, and if she could take responsibility for her shooting the wrong shot (instead of putting that blame on you), she will have definitely learned to pay attention.
And don't let other people tell you what good sportsmanship is when they can't be good sports themselves. A good sport in her place would have shaken your hand, congratulated you, and went back to the room to think about how to better focus under pressure.
Sheesh- her behavior is classic blaming the other guy for her loss, plus trying to sour your win because she feels stupid. Don't give her that power over you, your game, your emotions- when it's entirely her problem in the first place. Let it go. You're good.
P.S. I don't know anything about the APA, so if there was a rule or something that would have made a difference here, I wouldn't know it. HOWEVER, I do see it's a team event, in which case if you're helping your opponent, you're also selling out your team by doing so.
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