You need to get control of your woman, man..
(Just kidding, just kidding!)
Seriously tho.. When my wife first met me, she knew my whole life revolved around pool, and she saw me playing my best. She's seen that I have generally been unhappy when not able to play for an extended period of time. Plus, it helps that I told her before we got married that pool was still going to be a big part of my life, and she had no problem with that.
So, when the time came that I decided while over in Iraq that I was going to have a pool room in my house one way or the other, she agreed to let go of the garage, and she couldn't be more pleased with the decision now.
She knows that after 9 years of marriage, and never having a pool table in the house, she felt that it was something I really deserved.
Now, as far as your wife is concerned, you and she need to sit down and have a talk. If this is really, really important to you to get back into the game, then let her know that. If you never really made a big deal about the lack of a pool table before now, then you might just have to suck it up until you can move into a bigger house. Any house that has a whole separate room, pool table ready.. Is going to be expensive.
Have you made any big sacrifices for her? In my case, I used to play no less than 8 tournaments weekly, which went down to 1-2 a week right after we got married, and then down to 1 every two months when I went to Germany. So, my wife realizes the massive change marriage played in my day to day life.
Do I regret it? No. I quit playing for lack of practice, more than lack of time to play tournaments. I'm no going to go out there and play 3-4 speeds below where I know I can play. It's just too frustrating.
Feel free to show her this post, and have another discussion with her. For a married pool player who is not rich, there aren't many other options to get a pool table other than taking over the garage.
The main factor in our decision was the comparison between the benefits versus the sacrifices needing to be made.
I bought a mini storage shed for the back yard to store tools, etc.. We get another full room in our house, and a pool table. Lots of people come over to the house now.. The pool table has made our house a social magnet, since we actually did a full renovation on the garage and made it look nice. We closed up the door, and designed the closure to look exactly like the house was made that way. (Lots of people in the neighborhood noticed it as it was being completed, liked that you could not tell it was a garage renovation, and asked who our contractor was...)
The cons: Wifey has to park her car outside. Hmmmmmmmmm... That's pretty much all I can see from here. You really need to let her read this post.
Good luck, man..
Russ