Question on how I handled this...

nineballsafety8

nineballsafety8

6ft 5" 285, hits 'em hard
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So last night in my weekly BCA 8 ball league, I was having a decent night but nothing phenominal... and up until my last match had truly enjoyed the overall demeanor of every player on the opposing team. I think it always makes for a good night when the mood is light and you enjoy each game, regardless of outcome.

But, on the last game of the night for me... I was matched up with the best player on their team, and it was my break. So when I approached the table while he was racking, to introduce myself, shake hands and wish him luck... he refused to shake my hand.

So... after try not to blow a gasket... i broke. Dolly Patron. He runs 3 and dogs one. I walk over to him and calmy said, "you can go ahead and sit down" approached the table and proceded to make an seamless runout.

Upon pocketing the 8, i made eye contact, broke down my cue and walked away from the table.

Now, normally I would never be disrespectful in this manner, but felt that if I wasnt due a handshake at the beginning, he wasnt due one on the conclusion.


Dick move, or justified?

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Not really. The Golden Rule applies to pool to.
You treated him like he treated you, altho in the long run, you may have made him feel worse by taking the high road and shaking his hand even tho he didn't afford you the same respect at the first.

In the end, no big deal. You did what you felt was proper under the circumstances.
 
Thanks. Felt right at the time... but has been bugging me all day.

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I probably would have said justified if not for the comment to him about sitting down. To me that takes it to more of a dick level. Nothing is more satisfying than looking a guy in the eye after you cleaned up on him. I guess it goes back to the old saying that two wrongs don't make a right.
 
Yep blue is right shaking his hand would of made him feel like a jackass. And when someone's refuse to shake my hand I said oh well loud enough to make sure he and others heard me.

What you did was make a statement by saying you will not be disrespected an eye for an eye.
 
I did approach him after all games were finnished and shook his hand, but it was that awkward "you know you were a dick" handshake.

Then he wanted to gamble... and I simply said that I had no interest in playing him again, even for a dollar

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I like what you did, if you hadn't runout you would have been a jackass but you did and you put him in his place. Not what I would've done but I'm probably not nearly as good as you either. I don't think you should worry about what people think about it, if you felt you were wrong then learn from it, if you felt you were right then who gives a shit what other people think.
 
nineballsafety8 said:
So last night in my weekly BCA 8 ball league, I was having a decent night but nothing phenominal... and up until my last match had truly enjoyed the overall demeanor of every player on the opposing team. I think it always makes for a good night when the mood is light and you enjoy each game, regardless of outcome.

But, on the last game of the night for me... I was matched up with the best player on their team, and it was my break. So when I approached the table while he was racking, to introduce myself, shake hands and wish him luck... he refused to shake my hand.

So... after try not to blow a gasket... i broke. Dolly Patron. He runs 3 and dogs one. I walk over to him and calmy said, "you can go ahead and sit down" approached the table and proceded to make an seamless runout.

Upon pocketing the 8, i made eye contact, broke down my cue and walked away from the table.

Now, normally I would never be disrespectful in this manner, but felt that if I wasnt due a handshake at the beginning, he wasnt due one on the conclusion.


Dick move, or justified?

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None of us were there, so hard to say. You have to feel the tense air and the mood of what was gong on to know how you felt.
I always extend a handshake before playing. I also shake their hand afterward.
 
nineballsafety8 said:
So last night in my weekly BCA 8 ball league, I was having a decent night but nothing phenominal... and up until my last match had truly enjoyed the overall demeanor of every player on the opposing team. I think it always makes for a good night when the mood is light and you enjoy each game, regardless of outcome.

But, on the last game of the night for me... I was matched up with the best player on their team, and it was my break. So when I approached the table while he was racking, to introduce myself, shake hands and wish him luck... he refused to shake my hand.

So... after try not to blow a gasket... i broke. Dolly Patron. He runs 3 and dogs one. I walk over to him and calmy said, "you can go ahead and sit down" approached the table and proceded to make an seamless runout.

Upon pocketing the 8, i made eye contact, broke down my cue and walked away from the table.

Now, normally I would never be disrespectful in this manner, but felt that if I wasnt due a handshake at the beginning, he wasnt due one on the conclusion.


Dick move, or justified?

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I always take the high road...well almost always.
it sucks when your opponit is a bag..I just take it as if
they're trying a move..I seldom let that type of behavour
bother me..an if they win I say well played..an mean it.
I've played league long enough to know who act like that..
its a shame that the out come means so much , that they
have no compassion for others that they play..some
people just have no idea what real sportmanship is..and
I wonder some times if pool is what gives them meaning in life.
Its sad..and I feel sorry for them..I'll still try an crush their ego
tho...thats my long winded thought.
 
nineballsafety8 said:
So last night in my weekly BCA 8 ball league, I was having a decent night but nothing phenominal... and up until my last match had truly enjoyed the overall demeanor of every player on the opposing team. I think it always makes for a good night when the mood is light and you enjoy each game, regardless of outcome.

But, on the last game of the night for me... I was matched up with the best player on their team, and it was my break. So when I approached the table while he was racking, to introduce myself, shake hands and wish him luck... he refused to shake my hand.

So... after try not to blow a gasket... i broke. Dolly Patron. He runs 3 and dogs one. I walk over to him and calmy said, "you can go ahead and sit down" approached the table and proceded to make an seamless runout.

Upon pocketing the 8, i made eye contact, broke down my cue and walked away from the table.

Now, normally I would never be disrespectful in this manner, but felt that if I wasnt due a handshake at the beginning, he wasnt due one on the conclusion.


Dick move, or justified?

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You did the right thing. Some folks take this game waaaay toooo seriously.

John
 
nineballsafety8 said:
So last night in my weekly BCA 8 ball league, I was having a decent night but nothing phenominal... and up until my last match had truly enjoyed the overall demeanor of every player on the opposing team. I think it always makes for a good night when the mood is light and you enjoy each game, regardless of outcome.

But, on the last game of the night for me... I was matched up with the best player on their team, and it was my break. So when I approached the table while he was racking, to introduce myself, shake hands and wish him luck... he refused to shake my hand.

So... after try not to blow a gasket... i broke. Dolly Patron. He runs 3 and dogs one. I walk over to him and calmy said, "you can go ahead and sit down" approached the table and proceded to make an seamless runout.

Upon pocketing the 8, i made eye contact, broke down my cue and walked away from the table.

Now, normally I would never be disrespectful in this manner, but felt that if I wasnt due a handshake at the beginning, he wasnt due one on the conclusion.


Dick move, or justified?

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I had a very similar thing happen one night. We set up for the lag, I walked up hand out and said "Good luck". My opponent said "I don't need it" and bent down to shoot the lag. Pissed off, I won the lag and the next 5 games straight. When I made the last 8, I walked straight to him, hand out and said "I don't think luck would have helped you either." Of course no handshake occurred again. A**hole move on my part? Yes, but I felt good saying it.
 
You did the right thing, he was a ass to you by not
shaking your hand. :thumbup:
 
My personal opinion is that another person's iniquities aren't going to make me change how I believe behavior should go. I certainly would have been upset by his lack of sportsmanship, but would have tried to shrug it off and just be sportsmanlike. Everyone there knows he's a jerk for acting that way. If you take the high ground, he looks like a bigger jerk. If you stoop to his level, most probably understand why, but in the end don't necessarily think that your that mug better. Jmho.
 
It's sad how things change. When I was a teenager I hung out in a small pool hall run by an 80 y/o man and mostly made up of older gentleman. If you acted out of line you were immediately asked to leave.....in some very colorful language for someone that age LOL

I just recently started on an 8 ball league and in my first match I had someone on the other team, not even the person I was playing, staring me down while I was shooting and actually booing while I was down on a difficult shot.

Personally, I just kept my cool and kept playing, crushed the guy I was playing against, and the hecklers own team finally told him to can it or leave.

Like others have said though, it all depends on the air in the room. I've always believed that you don't dish it out if you can't take it. Was it a dick move on your part? Sure, slightly....but warranted in my opinion
 
15-20 years ago when I was in my early 20's I would have said justified. I still think it was justified, only now I choose which battles to fight. I take my revenge with the winning score. Sometimes when you burn bridges it could make it more difficult the next time you have to play that team.
 
Maybe dick move-maybe not

I find it hard to believe that for no reason, he was just an ass, and decided to blatantly NOT shake, and deliberately disrespect you. I would bet, that if we got the other story from his point of view, we would find out WHY he didn't shake your hand. It wouldn't surprise me to find out that he's a germaphobe...or coke bottle glasses and didn't see your hand extended, or upset about the way another member of your team treated him or someone on his team earlier that night.
Or...maybe he was just an ass...I would have brought it up, it's a white elephant anyway...but short of knowing, I would have just been motivated to stick it to him by running out...I would have shook hands after...cuz I wouldn't want to pass up the opportunity I was afforded to put him on the spot with another handshake...in front of everyone after a game...
That last handshake would have felt really good to me, since I ran em out. I would have been less excited about that last handshake if I had lost.

The comment about sitting down, the eye contact, and breaking down the cue but not approaching him to shake, to me is like poking a bear with a stick...trying to get back at him, seems like it was meant to stimulate hard feelings, stir the bees ...

Take the high road, besides, nothing gets back at someone harder than a nice runout :cool:

Ps...do as I say, not as I do...I got irritated last week at match, at a guy for taking the win after my player scratched on the 8, and raked the cueball...only thing is, you don't lose in my valley league when u scratch on the 8... So I asked him if he wanted to play it out with his ball in hand, and he declined and took the win :mad:
That "scared" comment I said under my breath got him FIRED UP, LOL:cool:

Just my .02
 
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nineballsafety8 said:
So last night in my weekly BCA 8 ball league, I was having a decent night but nothing phenominal... and up until my last match had truly enjoyed the overall demeanor of every player on the opposing team. I think it always makes for a good night when the mood is light and you enjoy each game, regardless of outcome.

But, on the last game of the night for me... I was matched up with the best player on their team, and it was my break. So when I approached the table while he was racking, to introduce myself, shake hands and wish him luck... he refused to shake my hand.

So... after try not to blow a gasket... i broke. Dolly Patron. He runs 3 and dogs one. I walk over to him and calmy said, "you can go ahead and sit down" approached the table and proceded to make an seamless runout.

Upon pocketing the 8, i made eye contact, broke down my cue and walked away from the table.

Now, normally I would never be disrespectful in this manner, but felt that if I wasnt due a handshake at the beginning, he wasnt due one on the conclusion.


Dick move, or justified?

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Follow your gut. If it's been bugging you all day it suggest that you acted in anger and outside of your character. It suggest that your morals are higher than your opponent's and that you stooped to his level rather than holding to your own. Did he deserve it? YEAH! However, what if GOD gave us what we all deserved? Not going to beat you over the head with that commentary but consider that for a little bit. You did the right thing with your cue stick........crush him and make him want another chance at you and then just walk away. :bow-down:
 
Well you are a nicer person than I am. After the initial dismissal I wouldn't feel bad about anything that happened afterwards. I'm pretty much done worrying about what other people think. Feelings are overrated and all too common these days.
But I'm an a$$hole.
 
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