Short fuse?

[JC]

Playing cheap 8 ball last night (20 a set) after league with one of my friends and a couple girls he knows come into the place. He says hey on their way in and the say hey back. A while later it's his shot and he has his back to the table talking to one of them for probably 45 seconds. He turns around and asks if it's his shot. Two innings later I play a safety and get up from the table and he has his back turned to the table again with them at the bar. After 30 seconds of watching this I unscrewed and 15 seconds later when he finally turns around he says, are you quitting? Why? The girls think I'm the biggest ass they've ever seen and my friend wants me to pay the set if I'm going to quit. I declined to do that. I was leading 3-2 at the time and had already won the first set. Neither one of us drink and no, the ladies were not hot. (in case anyone thinks that should be a factor)

IMO if the girls are the ones engaging him in conversation he should posture his body watching the table to signal that this game is his priority. It was his back to the table that pissed me off.

Is this ok behavior and I'm just being an ass like they said?

JC

 

[Koop]

Playing cheap 8 ball last night (20 a set) after league with one of my friends and a couple girls he knows come into the place. He says hey on their way in and the say hey back. A while later it's his shot and he has his back to the table talking to one of them for probably 45 seconds. He turns around and asks if it's his shot. Two innings later I play a safety and get up from the table and he has his back turned to the table again with them at the bar. After 30 seconds of watching this I unscrewed and 15 seconds later when he finally turns around he says, are you quitting? Why? The girls think I'm the biggest ass they've ever seen and my friend wants me to pay the set if I'm going to quit. I declined to do that. I was leading 3-2 at the time and had already won the first set. Neither one of us drink and no, the ladies were not hot. (in case anyone thinks that should be a factor)

IMO if the girls are the ones engaging him in conversation he should posture his body watching the table to signal that this game is his priority. It was his back to the table that pissed me off.

Is this ok behavior and I'm just being an ass like they said?

JC

I wouldn't call you an ass but if he's a friend I think you need to lighten up a little. Sounds like he doesn't take it as seriously as you do and if you value your friendship you may want to take that into consideration.

 

[lbostons]

I am in your camp when it comes to slow play. I have had happen a few times to me as well and handled it about the same way. We go on vacation with a bunch of families. We always play cards and drink beer after the kids go to bed. I have stopped playing cards because the same thing happens here. Oh well, maybe I am just a different breed.

lbostons

 

[michael4]

Playing cheap 8 ball last night (20 a set)
he has his back to the table talking to one of them for probably 45 seconds.
his back turned to the table again with them at the bar.
After 30 seconds of watching this I unscrewed

are you quitting?
wants me to pay the set if I'm going to quit. I declined to do that. I was leading 3-2

no, the ladies were not hot. (in case anyone thinks that should be a factor)

IMO if the girls are the ones engaging him in conversation he should posture his body watching the table to signal that this game is his priority. It was his back to the table that pissed me off.

Is this ok behavior and I'm just being an ass like they said?

the girls not being hot is a factor

You have the right to be annoyed, but I would have talked to him before unscrewing....

something like "hey, do you want to play, quit, or socialize?"

Get him to commit to one of those options before quitting the game unilaterally....
That there was a bet in place (even if small) suggests to me trying to first get a mutual agreement to quit.

You were not way out of line however,....passive-aggressive at most

 

[philly]

Playing cheap 8 ball last night (20 a set) after league with one of my friends and a couple girls he knows come into the place. He says hey on their way in and the say hey back. A while later it's his shot and he has his back to the table talking to one of them for probably 45 seconds. He turns around and asks if it's his shot. Two innings later I play a safety and get up from the table and he has his back turned to the table again with them at the bar. After 30 seconds of watching this I unscrewed and 15 seconds later when he finally turns around he says, are you quitting? Why? The girls think I'm the biggest ass they've ever seen and my friend wants me to pay the set if I'm going to quit. I declined to do that. I was leading 3-2 at the time and had already won the first set. Neither one of us drink and no, the ladies were not hot. (in case anyone thinks that should be a factor)

IMO if the girls are the ones engaging him in conversation he should posture his body watching the table to signal that this game is his priority. It was his back to the table that pissed me off.

Is this ok behavior and I'm just being an ass like they said?

JC

It's ok for sure. I am very competitive when playing. When I play pool, I play pool. If you're not into the game don't play. I guess i have a short fuse also when it comes to things like that.

 

[billiardthought]

step up your mental game

OR MAYBE JUST POSSIBLY

use your words next time and tell this person to concentrate on the game if they want to gamble with you.

Welcome to the human race

 

[Chopdoc]

the girls not being hot is a factor

You have the right to be annoyed, but I would have talked to him before unscrewing....

something like "hey, do you want to play, quit, or socialize?"

Get him to commit to one of those options before quitting the game unilaterally....
That there was a bet in place (even if small) suggests to me trying to first get a mutual agreement to quit.

You were not way out of line however,....passive-aggressive at most

I agree.

45 seconds plus 30 seconds? A minute and 15 seconds. But that is cumulative. Neither delay was even very close to a minute.

So, 45 seconds is a delay?


As an example from UPA rules:

11.3 Shot Clock
If it has been determined by a tournament official or UPA representative that a player is taking more than what is considered a reasonable amount of time, or is “stalling,” to shoot/finish their inning, an “Official Warning” by said party should be granted. After this, if the offending shooter continues, then a “shot-clock” shall be utilized for both players for the rest of the match. Each shooting player will be allotted 1-minute for each shot, or a “ball in hand” foul shall be granted to the opponent.

Then there is the matter that it bugged you that he was distracted, not facing the direction you prefer.

Sometimes I intentionally ignore the table until it is my shot. I do this if I find myself too distracted by the other player for some reason. I never thought it would bother somebody. Glad to know it though. Thanks. :smile:

The mental game is huge.

There is the matter of just being sociable. There is only $20 on it.


I do understand being serious about pool. I used to be extremely serious. Now I am only moderately serious at the most. I actually socialize and screw around a lot when playing with my friends. You would probably hate playing me now. But I am pretty confident you would not have enjoyed playing me when I was very serious either...at least not in a social way.


These days to me, a $20 game is just a social game. No big deal.


Clearly you feel different. But now that it is on the internet that it bothers you, you might find your next opponent with his back to the table while you soot.



.

 

[JC]

step up your mental game

OR MAYBE JUST POSSIBLY

use your words next time and tell this person to concentrate on the game if they want to gamble with you.

Welcome to the human race

I used my words afterwards to explain why that was poor etiquette and why he needed to learn it. This guy takes pool just as seriously as I do or more so usually. After I quit he played another of our buddies a couple races to 3 for 100. Didn't see him distracted then. I guess we were playing too cheap to hold his attention. But no chance in hell I will get that kind of action from him or the other guy. It was all good by the time we all left. What was funny is he won the first 100 set and bought those girls and their friend a drink with some of it. Then he lost the second one and they quit and he realized he was the loser of the night with the cost of the drinks and the first set he lost to me. I went home to my wife, he went home to his pit bull.:grin:

JC

 

[SARDiver]

I wouldn't call you an ass but if he's a friend I think you need to lighten up a little. Sounds like he doesn't take it as seriously as you do and if you value your friendship you may want to take that into consideration.

I would agree with this (but that's all I agree with when it comes from a BoSox fan! )

 

[Chopdoc]

I used my words afterwards to explain why that was poor etiquette and why he needed to learn it. This guy takes pool just as seriously as I do or more so usually. After I quit he played another of our buddies a couple races to 3 for 100. Didn't see him distracted then. I guess we were playing too cheap to hold his attention. But no chance in hell I will get that kind of action from him or the other guy. It was all good by the time we all left. What was funny is he won the first 100 set and bought those girls and their friend a drink with some of it. Then he lost the second one and they quit and he realized he was the loser of the night with the cost of the drinks and the first set he lost to me. I went home to my wife, he went home to his pit bull.:grin:

JC

Karma.

LOL!

:grin-square:

 

[DelawareDogs]

I used my words afterwards to explain why that was poor etiquette and why he needed to learn it. This guy takes pool just as seriously as I do or more so usually. After I quit he played another of our buddies a couple races to 3 for 100. Didn't see him distracted then. I guess we were playing too cheap to hold his attention. But no chance in hell I will get that kind of action from him or the other guy. It was all good by the time we all left. What was funny is he won the first 100 set and bought those girls and their friend a drink with some of it. Then he lost the second one and they quit and he realized he was the loser of the night with the cost of the drinks and the first set he lost to me. I went home to my wife, he went home to his pit bull.:grin:

JC

What's this suggesting? That you shoulda got a pit bull???

I'm in your camp as well when it comes to not paying attention to a game. Bear in mind that not looking, and not paying attention are two different things in my camp. He was obviously guilty of both.

Now, you quitting mid-set? I'd call bad form on that one. You leading 3-2 is NOT a big enough swing to even justify why it was alright to quit. And your argument that he was taking an ENTIRE 45 seconds isn't a valid excuse, my friend. I don't care if it's playing for beers or for the title to your house. You pull up..... you pay up...

Unless there's a pregnant pit pull at home, if you don't like the game you made or the person you made it with, you shoulda realized that before you made the game.

 

[JC]

What's this suggesting? That you shoulda got a pit bull???

I'm in your camp as well when it comes to not paying attention to a game. Bear in mind that not looking, and not paying attention are two different things in my camp. He was obviously guilty of both.

Now, you quitting mid-set? I'd call bad form on that one. You leading 3-2 is NOT a big enough swing to even justify why it was alright to quit. And your argument that he was taking an ENTIRE 45 seconds isn't a valid excuse, my friend. I don't care if it's playing for beers or for the title to your house. You pull up..... you pay up...

Unless there's a pregnant pit pull at home, if you don't like the game you made or the person you made it with, you shoulda realized that before you made the game.

LIfe is made up of a series of 45 seconds and then it's over. At some point you get tired of wasting them especially after you can count the ones remaining.

JC

 

[jasonlaus]

It's ok for sure. I am very competitive when playing. When I play pool, I play pool. If you're not into the game don't play. I guess i have a short fuse also when it comes to things like that.

Hold on, I'll be right back

 

[9Ballr]

Playing cheap 8 ball last night (20 a set) after league with one of my friends and a couple girls he knows come into the place. He says hey on their way in and the say hey back. A while later it's his shot and he has his back to the table talking to one of them for probably 45 seconds. He turns around and asks if it's his shot. Two innings later I play a safety and get up from the table and he has his back turned to the table again with them at the bar. After 30 seconds of watching this I unscrewed and 15 seconds later when he finally turns around he says, are you quitting? Why? The girls think I'm the biggest ass they've ever seen and my friend wants me to pay the set if I'm going to quit. I declined to do that. I was leading 3-2 at the time and had already won the first set. Neither one of us drink and no, the ladies were not hot. (in case anyone thinks that should be a factor)

IMO if the girls are the ones engaging him in conversation he should posture his body watching the table to signal that this game is his priority. It was his back to the table that pissed me off.

Is this ok behavior and I'm just being an ass like they said?

JC

Unbelievable wining and complaining that's been going on by some members here.
Complaining about this, people calling fouls just cause someone "coaches" during the 8-ball.
Maybe someone should pick up knitting.
Just get down and shoot dang it.......
Posting it in public asking for advice is simply hilarious.

 

[DelawareDogs]

LIfe is made up of a series of 45 seconds and then it's over. At some point you get tired of wasting them especially after you can count the ones remaining.

JC

Where are we......??? ....... Is this Narnia??

Okay... I'll bite.... if you can count the ones remaining, what are you doing posting here when you could be in some pool hall....... getting ready to quit a set because you don't like the way the guy sneezes and you got places to be.....???:boring2:

I'm betting the girls were smoking hot. He was getting ready to leave with both of 'em. You were jealous that he's allowed to do that, jealous he had a pit bull.......and then....after your up three games.... this guy turns his game on and is getting ready to make it a hill match. And you said...... I WANT MY $20 BACK! And everyone on AZ will defend it!!!

I tried to keep the posts under 45 seconds to read them....in case anyone is counting...

 

[JC]

Unbelievable wining and complaining that's been going on by some members here.
Complaining about this, people calling fouls just cause someone "coaches" during the 8-ball.
Maybe someone should pick up knitting.
Just get down and shoot dang it.......
Posting it in public asking for advice is simply hilarious.

Posting on a internet board is absurd in and of it self. So what are you doing here?

Actually my post was encouragement for others who have the same shit happen to them and don't know how to handle it. The "question" was rhetorical. I'm not wrong, I'm not sorry and it's probably going to happen again.

Knit one, pearl two

JC

 

[JC]

Where are we......??? ....... Is this Narnia??

Okay... I'll bite.... if you can count the ones remaining, what are you doing posting here when you could be in some pool hall....... getting ready to quit a set because you don't like the way the guy sneezes and you got places to be.....???:boring2:

I'm betting the girls were smoking hot. He was getting ready to leave with both of 'em. You were jealous that he's allowed to do that, jealous he had a pit bull.......and then....after your up three games.... this guy turns his game on and is getting ready to make it a hill match. And you said...... I WANT MY $20 BACK! And everyone on AZ will defend it!!!

I tried to keep the posts under 45 seconds to read them....in case anyone is counting...

I have no problem spending my limited supply of 45 seconds doing anything that isn't making me uptight.

The girls were lesbians and rugged ones at that. But you can go ahead if it appeals to you.

JC

 

[DelawareDogs]

I have no problem spending my limited supply of 45 seconds doing anything that isn't making me uptight.

The girls were lesbians and rugged ones at that. But you can go ahead if it appeals to you.

JC

Yes,sir.

And everything that people say on the internet is true.....so you're right... those girls couldn't have been hot.

In all seriousness, I'm in agreement with all you say, with the exception of unscrewing without saying a word, then declining to make it right. That's a "bad action" move and has a tendency to get people uptight. Last guy that did that in my pool room was drunk and about to lose $450. He realized mid set that he was in a bad game and got my buddy to drop an F-bomb, then said "I don't have to deal with you cussing me!" and left. But he couldn't find his pool cues for some odd reason.

Bet that got him uptight. I haven't seen that guy since he did that.

 

[EddieBme]

Playing cheap 8 ball last night (20 a set) after league with one of my friends and a couple girls he knows come into the place. He says hey on their way in and the say hey back. A while later it's his shot and he has his back to the table talking to one of them for probably 45 seconds. He turns around and asks if it's his shot. Two innings later I play a safety and get up from the table and he has his back turned to the table again with them at the bar. After 30 seconds of watching this I unscrewed and 15 seconds later when he finally turns around he says, are you quitting? Why? The girls think I'm the biggest ass they've ever seen and my friend wants me to pay the set if I'm going to quit. I declined to do that. I was leading 3-2 at the time and had already won the first set. Neither one of us drink and no, the ladies were not hot. (in case anyone thinks that should be a factor)

IMO if the girls are the ones engaging him in conversation he should posture his body watching the table to signal that this game is his priority. It was his back to the table that pissed me off.

Is this ok behavior and I'm just being an ass like they said?

JC

How many games left in the set?

 

[pdcue]

Playing cheap 8 ball last night (20 a set) after league with one of my friends and a couple girls he knows come into the place. He says hey on their way in and the say hey back. A while later it's his shot and he has his back to the table talking to one of them for probably 45 seconds. He turns around and asks if it's his shot. Two innings later I play a safety and get up from the table and he has his back turned to the table again with them at the bar. After 30 seconds of watching this I unscrewed and 15 seconds later when he finally turns around he says, are you quitting? Why? The girls think I'm the biggest ass they've ever seen and my friend wants me to pay the set if I'm going to quit. I declined to do that. I was leading 3-2 at the time and had already won the first set. Neither one of us drink and no, the ladies were not hot. (in case anyone thinks that should be a factor)

IMO if the girls are the ones engaging him in conversation he should posture his body watching the table to signal that this game is his priority. It was his back to the table that pissed me off.

Is this ok behavior and I'm just being an ass like they said?

JC

Like they said.