Bear in mind my point about letting the customer stew was AFTER the thread was started on the internet.
I completely disagree with "go with it or go under", quite simply cue makers do not charge enough for custom orders. A good friend of mine makes cues, top end snooker cues.
He makes them, you buy them. That's it.
If you don't like it the way he has made it you can have it altered at a cost.
If you want a custom order, get your wallet out and be prepared to wait and DO NOT bother him in the meantime. His options are ignore you or employ someone to deal with the queries. There is only one option unless the people with the queries want to pay the wages.
This is the only business model that works.
Cues are cheap, $2,000 for something you might use for 30 years? Break the cost down versus use.
Players replace golf clubs annually.
The problem cue makers have is they have to deal with cue sport players who either have no money or an inflated sense of their worth or worse and inflated sense of what half an ounce in the but or quarter of a mill on the ferrule will do for their game.
The golf industry has it right, accept these guys fads, accept that they are idiots, accept they know nothing about the game, smile, offer them a "free fitting" service, and charge them through the nose.
Well, the pool cue industry has a glut of options with something like 700 makers in the USA alone. So they can't exactly follow your friend's business model in that climate. Only a few cuemakers in the USA have the prestige and following to be able to be that way with their customers. Most of the others are caught in the space where they have to take on any customer they get and take all the "conversation" that comes with it.
I have fired customers for being too pushy and they have fired me for being unavailable. Other customers have been patient, some far too patient, and I try to make it worth the wait.
Once a craftsman has achieved stature then people will wait and will be deferential. It's good for your friend if he has that status, most don't. And I should add that pool cues are much more complicated than snooker cues when it comes to construction and decoration options, thus having more to discuss.
I also don't feel that customers are idiots. Some of them clearly have less experience than others but at the end of the day they are wiling to part with their cash for something that they desire built by a craftsman or a small shop. They simply want what they want and can't really be faulted for their anticipation of getting a cue or case that was made just for them.
It's a balance for the maker to juggle the needs of the customer with the time spent on design and chit chat. Some handle it extremely well and others not so well. You might be unfamiliar with it but in the USA we have an alternate measure of time called cuemaker time. That's where a week=a month and a month equals a year, etc...
Shops and makers who can produce on a schedule promptly generally are able to do well in this business providing they deliver a quality product. Even if their product isn't great quality delivering on time goes a long way to gloss over the lack of quality.
Ernie Gutierrez, Gina Cues, agrees with you. He tries to get customers off the phone as quickly as possible, but if money is no object......"keep talking" Ernie says.
John - still trying to figure out a calendar.....