Well, you want honest? I'll do my best. I have just in the last couple of months picked up the cues again after 10 year stretch of not playing (family, career, house etc etc). I used to play multiple leagues and local tournaments throughout the 90's. Was a Manager/Bartender of a small pool hall (Columbus,Ohio) for 6 of those years. I was a 6 in APA and if memory serves I was a 9 in VNEA and I completely forget how Coin-Op handicaps but I played that league as well.
Back to the main topic:
I have always tried to exhibit good sportsmanship, commend excellent shots by opponents, retrieve the ball when I scratch for my opponent, and say please and thank you all with a smile, trying to be a true class act. The brutal truth is, if I have lost control of the table or failed to nail the speed or contact points and miss or hook myself, I am boiling with internal rage. Some times it's very difficult to contain this inner rage and a few f-bombs may suddenly surface. Never towards my opponent, always directed at myself. If I was ever to punch anyone in the place, I would punch myself first, because that's who I'm pissed off at. This rage turned inwards has been my nemesis, and always has been even in my peak. If I could ever learn to control it, ( I call it turning off my brain ) I could be a very consistent high caliber player I believe. I don't lash out or beat on things but I have drawn back my cue as if I'm ready to spear it across the room, but never have actually thrown one.
So in closing to answer your question of how I act when I lose, I smile congratulate my opponent and extend a hand to shake, it is then their choice whether they want to shake hands back, most do and a few don't and that's ok. After I walk away you would never know it by looking at me, but I am talking to myself like a dirty washrag whore and calling myself every name in the book, even making up a few along the way. In addition this can and does carry over into further matches thus destroying my focus on the match at hand. I then miss because I was mad from before, and now I'm even madder at myself for being mad from before and it's like a snow ball rolling down hill getting bigger as it goes.
I had always in my 20's chalked it up to a maturity issue. Now I'm over 40 returning to the game a much more mature person. There's only one problem though, NOTHING has changed, same internal verbal assault against myself. I'm having problems with visual alignment, contact points and throw that will come back with more table time. I bought a table and currently refinishing the basement for said table, this will be my first pool table I have ever owned. Hopefully I can get the table time I need now to try to get back to or go beyond the level of play I'm accustomed to from so long ago. So there you have it, that's my story and how I act when I lose.
When I win, I do everything exactly the same but the internal rage warfare against myself is much, much tamer. I do mentally replay and evaluate back the mistakes that were had even though I won.
For those that made it this far through the book post, I thank you for your time and any words of encouragement, and/or advice on how to tame this internal mental beat-down I put myself through. Please help me silence the beast...
DOPC