Does it pay to be a gentleman??

[JoeW]

After 66 years on the planet I have discovered one of the secrets to life.

Whatever you do in life it will come back to you -- usually doubled.

There are so many examples it is difficult to pick one. We often miss them because the returns on our actions may not be seen for many years. It is non-the-less a true secret to life.

Perhaps one example that most everyone can relate to is the way you raise your children (or were raised by your parents). Whatever parents do they get paid back by their children in spades.

It always pays to be a gentleman, you may not see the return to day but it will come back to you.

 

[mlalum]

I really don't understand. Do you accept being burned. It sounds like you do. There is nothing wrong for standing up for what you believe is right, and questioning unacceptable behavior. Being a gentleman does not mean you have to always take it. You have a God given right to question anything that you deem needs to, because you want to be treated with the same respect that you give.

What do you know about being a gentlemen with the avatar you put up in front of the world. In your words I'm exercising my god given right to question anything I think needs to be questioned.

 

[Majic]

What do you know about being a gentlemen with the avatar you put up in front of the world. In your words I'm exercising my god given right to question anything I think needs to be questioned.

GET A LIFE And quit stalking me or.....

 

[mlalum]

GET A LIFE And quit stalking me or.....

Besides not being a gentlemen and not living up to your creed of it being ok to question things now you exhibit a large sized ego to think someone has enough interest to stalk you.

 

[paksat]

Normally, I would say yes, but the longer I live the more I get burned, and
that makes me question my own ethics. This refers not only to pool, but
to life in general. The question is, do I continue to be good and keep on
getting burned?

ask fatboy

 

[Tramp Steamer]

What Joe, Hu, and many of the others are describing is the law of reciprocity. Call it Karma, or good old Christian living, it's all the same. You reap what you sow. What goes around, comes around. Screw with the bull and you get the horns.
It is the wheel of life, my friends. Fight it and your existance here will be nothing but misery. Accept it and your life becomes tolerable and meaningful.
Now if you will excuse me, I must go and meditate now. Peace be unto you all, especially the two young ladies in paksat's avatar. Holy moly. Ohmm. Ohmm.

 

[jackson]

I really don't understand. Do you accept being burned. It sounds like you do. There is nothing wrong for standing up for what you believe is right, and questioning unacceptable behavior. Being a gentleman does not mean you have to always take it. You have a God given right to question anything that you deem needs to, because you want to be treated with the same respect that you give.

What do you know about being a gentlemen with the avatar you put up in front of the world. In your words I'm exercising my god given right to question anything I think needs to be questioned.

GET A LIFE And quit stalking me or.....

Besides not being a gentlemen and not living up to your creed of it being ok to question things now you exhibit a large sized ego to think someone has enough interest to stalk you.

On the contrary Sir....Majic is very much the gentleman as was exhibited in a PM to me apologizing for his post (listed below) on my Thread "Our Own akaTrigger is play'n in the Open!!!..." and saying he would not make further mention of it....which is more than I can say for someone else...

Jackson

Excellent. I was hoping that they could play together in their first Open. :wink:

Please send me an email if donations are being accepted.

I'm sure they'll appreciate the support even though your avatar is very much in bad taste.

Up yours buddy !!!

HEY...HEY...HEY.....not here fellas.....take it outside (i.e. Your Own Thread!!!)....

Jackson

 

[Measle Ball]

In my half-century on this orb, I have found that- in the long run- it always pays to be a gentleman. It seems that whenever I choose not to be so, I may appear to win short-term but over the long haul the negative consequences tend to outdo it by a considerable margin.

 

[joelpope]

not mutually exclusive

I believe that being a gentleman does not mean you are a doormat for users. You can be firm, stand your ground and stay true to your beliefs without being rude.

Often it is the weaker person that reverts to insults and personal attacks... just read a few threads for some examples.

 

[akaTrigger]

Many of the replies in this thread hits home with me. I was told a few weeks ago I was too nice, too helpful. I was like, WHAT? It deeply affected me. And I still haven't gotten over it.

On to the OPs question: I have been burned, too, poolmaster. I like the advice you have received on this thread - Screw me once, Shame on you! Screw me twice, Shame on me!

However, I use everything in life as a learning experience. Keep being a gentlemen, but be aware not everyone else is.

 

[gerard soriano]

I think that being a gentleman is certainly very important, and I also believe in Carma. I normally try very hard to treat others how I want to be treated and under normal circumstances this works very well. During my time in the US Army, I was confronted with many situations where this kind of behavior could and would get you killed unless you understood that even while you were dealing with Human Beings you never completely let you guard down. Now in my opinion you can do this and still be a Gentleman, so long as you never forget that what you say to need to do or you should not say it in the first place.

The hardest place to be a gentleman is on the INTERNET, because you are not dealing with others face to face, and directly because of this people will do and say anything because they think there are no consequences. In these cases I would like to be the bigger man and turn the other cheek, however, my pride will not allow me to do this in far to many cases and this is something I do regret. I have lived a life where you said what you mean, and you do what you say and I have had a learning experience since I started using the INTERNET and I have kinda lost my bering's at times.

But as I reflect on these experiences, it comes around full circle and I again find that you can not be a gentleman or even a man if you do not live by the premise that you must mean what you say and do exactly what you say you will do. I think this is the problem in general and I also think this is what our Nation lacks today. Action always speaks louder than any words spoken, and I think that when people understand this there will be far more gentleman and far less nonsense when dealing with others.


JIMO

Spoken like a true gentleman
I agree lack of self is what the people today have lost track of
Thank you for your service to our great country
and MAY GOD BLESS YOU

 

[peteypooldude]

There is an old saying that no good deed goes unpunished . It is more important to me to hold true to my values though .
I try to make a point to do the right thing , even though it cost me a lot of times . I am more cautions of certain people ,and of situations.
No need to live by a certain set of standards your whole life and then throw in the towel now .

 

[InTheCloudzzz]

Integretity - doing what's right even when no one is looking.

This SUPER important quality is what seperates "good" people from "bad" people in my opinion.

Integrity should NOT ever be negotiable.

Ryan

 

[ironman]

Many of the replies in this thread hits home with me. I was told a few weeks ago I was too nice, too helpful. I was like, WHAT? It deeply affected me. And I still haven't gotten over it.

On to the OPs question: I have been burned, too, poolmaster. I like the advice you have received on this thread - Screw me once, Shame on you! Screw me twice, Shame on me!

However, I use everything in life as a learning experience. Keep being a gentlemen, but be aware not everyone else is.

you are a kind and giving soul. If anyone ever tampers with that, let me know and I will snatch their lower lip off!!LOL!

 

[Pushout]

After 66 years on the planet I have discovered one of the secrets to life.

Whatever you do in life it will come back to you -- usually doubled.

It always pays to be a gentleman, you may not see the return to day but it will come back to you.

I believe in the law of three: "Whatever you give out will come back to you three times over."

 

[manwon]

Integretity - doing what's right even when no one is looking.

This SUPER important quality is what seperates "good" people from "bad" people in my opinion.

Integrity should NOT ever be negotiable.

Ryan

Ryan, I totally agree Integrity is never negotiable and this is another reason why it is so difficult for me to not speak up when challenged on the INTERNET. Like I said in a previous post self control On line is not always my strong point, however, it is a problem that I am personally addressing and working on correcting. But, what many people do not understand or even see is that not everyone who argues with some one on line will always just let things ride. This is why being a gentleman is so important especially when dealing with those on line, like Forrest Gump's Mama said life is like a box of Chocolates you never know what your going to get.

JIMO

 

[enzo]

it pays if u never want to get "ahead" in life

 

[poolmaster]

Thank you all for your comments. It's good to know, that there are still
people out there who believe in being good.

 

[Koop]

It is so true what you've said. Being good is often translated to be weak. How pathetic
is that? I guess this is the reality of the world, and we have to live with it, don't we?

That is why one of my favorite quotes is:
Don't mistake my kindness for weakness!

 

[Budley]

If we're trying to be a gentleman for any other reason than "to be a gentleman", life will be a disappointing endeavor.

The golden rule is "treat others as you would have them treat you". There is no stipulation for when we "feel like it" or whether we "think they deserve it". Any other interpretation is "giving to get", which just happens to be what everyone else is doing.