Gambling remorse ?

RRfireblade

RRfireblade

Grammer Are For Stupids
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Well ,

I came out pretty far ahead on someone the other night. Played pretty well and had a good night. Well , the guy looks like he's about to cry when we're done. I see him on the phone with 'someone' (wife?) obviously doing serious explaining , then over to the ATM with like 2-3 different cards pulling out as much as he can , then 20 mins of scouriong pockets and his car for the rest.

I felt pretty bad and gave him a $100 back just to make sure he could get home. :eek:

So am I softy ? Did I get played ?

I just felt bad for him. He was quite distrought , I must have lost my killer instinc over the years. :(
 
If you believe his behaviors were sincere, then I don't think you're a softy or have lost your instincts. It sounds like you behaved like a real, honorable person.

If he was faking it then I supposed you were played, but my blind faith in humanity hopes that wasn't the case. :-)

(Yeah, I'm that softy that will feel bad and not want to take money I won too...)
 
If you won enough to give him $100 back, you were probably right in doing so. Many players receive a "walking stick" to make it home on. Now if you only won $300 or so he needs to get a better job or learn a lesson and not gamble. Personally I have never done this, but I try not to play people that can't afford to lose what we are betting.
 
RRfireblade said:
Well ,

I came out pretty far ahead on someone the other night. Played pretty well and had a good night. Well , the guy looks like he's about to cry when we're done. I see him on the phone with 'someone' (wife?) obviously doing serious explaining , then over to the ATM with like 2-3 different cards pulling out as much as he can , then 20 mins of scouriong pockets and his car for the rest.

I felt pretty bad and gave him a $100 back just to make sure he could get home. :eek:

So am I softy ? Did I get played ?

I just felt bad for him. He was quite distrought , I must have lost my killer instinc over the years. :(
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It's kinda like you just gave him a walking stick. He is going to remember that and will most likely want to play you again (more money for you in the long run). I think you did the right thing but it really only matters how you feel about it.

BVal
 
RRfireblade said:
Well ,

I came out pretty far ahead on someone the other night. Played pretty well and had a good night. Well , the guy looks like he's about to cry when we're done. I see him on the phone with 'someone' (wife?) obviously doing serious explaining , then over to the ATM with like 2-3 different cards pulling out as much as he can , then 20 mins of scouriong pockets and his car for the rest.

I felt pretty bad and gave him a $100 back just to make sure he could get home. :eek:

So am I softy ? Did I get played ?

I just felt bad for him. He was quite distrought , I must have lost my killer instinc over the years. :(
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You're a good egg Noonan.:D
 
Good to hear

RRfireblade said:
Well ,

I came out pretty far ahead on someone the other night. Played pretty well and had a good night. Well , the guy looks like he's about to cry when we're done. I see him on the phone with 'someone' (wife?) obviously doing serious explaining , then over to the ATM with like 2-3 different cards pulling out as much as he can , then 20 mins of scouriong pockets and his car for the rest.

I felt pretty bad and gave him a $100 back just to make sure he could get home. :eek:

So am I softy ? Did I get played ?

I just felt bad for him. He was quite distrought , I must have lost my killer instinc over the years. :(
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I think what you did was right. For one the guy did pay you what was owed that says something for his character. He sounds like good action and you'll probably get to play him again. Over all never anything wrong with having feelings.
 
I saw a guy gamble way over his head one night against a friend of mine.
He was in near tears after too.
Admitted he went over his limit.
He quit gambling big after that.
Might have been the best thing that ever happened to him.

If he ever wants to play you again, he better give back the $100 you gave him.
I'm almost sure he won't and you might bust him again.
 
I personally think you should have got up in his face and say, "Yeah, c'mon, CRY! That's right, CRY! Waaaaaaaa"

Or do what you did, either way.
 
I beat a guy out of his truck payment $$$ once something like $450 it was repo'ed a week later, i didnt care he chose to bet, he asked me to play. i didnt know atthe time it was his truck $$$, what did bother me is he was sober for a year and that loss started him drinking again.

About 3 weeks later I beat some kid out of $110, again he asked me to play. he went out behind the pool room and punched the wall he shattered his hand it was in may of 87, he was a model for a advertizing company or something and was suppost to be in the carribean all summer shooting, I was told he was gonna make around $5,000. He lost the job because he HAD to wear a big cast. He really hurt himself bad. I felt bad for him but I didnt give him a refund, it was a bloody mess he went straight to the hospital, he wasnt mad at me, we played a gentalmans game, he had zero chance to win. He asked for the game, bet size etc. I even offered to adjust but he didnt want to, his ego got him is what happened, for $110.

I couldnt careless, I live in Vegas people get busted there everyday and destroy their lives for years to come because they get drunk and max out the credit cards, they lose it all. No casino gives hardship refunds, people have to accept the responsibiluty of losing and what comes with it.

My Ex girlfriend had a gambling problem when I met her, she stopped gambling for 7 years(while we were together), when i left her she blew her 7 years of savings $300,000 in video poker last year, its on her, i feel bad for her kids(not mine) they are not gonna grow up in private school etc because she went off day after day chasing something. People that chose to bet knowing the conciquences of losing i have no sympathy for, now if a person is mentally incapable of understanding whats up, say a real old person or a retard then yeh i feel bad for them and I wouldnt give them action. Its a cold world out there sometimes.

now having said all that if i beat someone out of something big I would give them $100 back for a room etc. now days but when i was on low $$ this differrent.
 
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I think what you did was right and there is nothing wrong for feeling sorry for the guy,but usually i base things on the other person,whether he would do this for you or not is another story. :cool:
 
depends why -you- gamble too. If you're in it to make a living, it's not on you to feel bad cause he went past his limit. But if you're out there to have fun and you enjoy the couple extra bucks to buy drinks or some such then yeah, there's something seriously dissatisfying about keeping it all in a situation like that.

I work, I play poker and I gamble on pool and golf. I never give back poker winnings because it's always in a casino setting and because it's a serious compliment to my income. Pool and golf more often go back to the loser (and in these it's often me that's losing) either in the form of double or nothing til the other guy pulls it off or at least in food and drinks... but only if the guy pays up first, don't welch!

Anyway, yeah it sucks to take a guys rent money, but if it's your rent money too I think that instinct is part of the game. If it's your fun money giving a kickback is, in my opinion, the better route.
 
JoeyInCali said:
I saw a guy gamble way over his head one night against a friend of mine.
He was in near tears after too.
Admitted he went over his limit.
He quit gambling big after that.
Might have been the best thing that ever happened to him.

If he ever wants to play you again, he better give back the $100 you gave him.
I'm almost sure he won't and you might bust him again.
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Wise! I don't gamble..period! Oh, I might go crazy and spend a whole dollar :eek: on a lottery ticket when the prize gets huge, but generally, I don't gamble.

You see, a friend talked me into going to Reno for my 21st birthday. I had little money then, but I lost all I had...$600 or so. I had a long broke drive home, using my dad's gas card...money I knew I'd have to pay back.

And the real capper? My buddy, feeling sorry for me after I'd lost everything, treated me to a lounge act...topless show girls. After I'd had my 2nd drink, he clapped me on the back, and said; "Just think, Paul...with the money you just dropped on the tables, you could have had a girl like that as a birthday memory!"

I learned my lesson. Gambling is a business. I'm not in that business.
 
RRfireblade said:
Well ,

I came out pretty far ahead on someone the other night. Played pretty well and had a good night. Well , the guy looks like he's about to cry when we're done. I see him on the phone with 'someone' (wife?) obviously doing serious explaining , then over to the ATM with like 2-3 different cards pulling out as much as he can , then 20 mins of scouriong pockets and his car for the rest.

I felt pretty bad and gave him a $100 back just to make sure he could get home. :eek:

So am I softy ? Did I get played ?

I just felt bad for him. He was quite distrought , I must have lost my killer instinc over the years. :(
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I think you did a good thing. If you busted him for everything he had, then you're not a softy, nor are you lacking any killer instinct. When you gave him some back to make sure he got home okay, that's just being a kind person with a killer instinct, rather than a selfish person with a killer instinct.

-Andrew
 
i have played in Mexico a dozen times and awalys won and awalys gave back the $$$, in Thailand I got beat i didnt get a refund.

Giving a guy walking $$$ like Mike said is cool but I dont feel bad for them, but prehaps i'm jaded. I do nice things for strangers but id someone wants action with me they dont have good intentions so its hard for me to soften up.
 
PKM said:
I personally think you should have got up in his face and say, "Yeah, c'mon, CRY! That's right, CRY! Waaaaaaaa"

Or do what you did, either way.
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You're damn straight
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I guess you did a good thing, but he'll still be stupid tomorrow and just blow his wad with somebody else.
You might guess I'm not a gambler, never understood why people are. If I gambled and won I'd feel bad, if I gambled and lost I'd feel worse.
 
fireblade, just think, he's gonna spend that hundo on stupid shit like food or rent. If you would have kept it you could have changed it into ones went to a club and made it rain. I want you to think about that next time you want to take it easy on someone:D
 
Yeah , right. :D

Well I feel better now , thanks.

I'm not a big gambler either nor do I consider any of it 'income'.

It all started out with us playing a few sets , he looks pretty sharp but seems a tad off. Then he goes into how he just doesn't have the same focus if it's not a Tourny or there is a little something at stake to make it interesting.

So I figure , ok , here it is. The big set up. :) But I'm playing pretty strong so I figure no matter how much better he get's , it shouldn' be to bad. We start out slow but I take him a few early. He get's hot like a rack at a time and then falls off again so I'm taking say , 3 to his 1. Now he wants to up the bet.

I'm like ok , now THIS must be the big set up and agree since I now have plenty of wiggle room. He doesn't get much better , in fact as I stretch it out I'm getting even more relaxed and closing out any table he leaves me. His hole is getting deep and he looks panicked. I figure at that point he must be over his head already. I ask him how far he wants to go and I won't be upset if he's had enough , really. It's no big deal. He wants to go a few more racks so give him some time to fight back but I think we are just where we are at and I'm not giving up any more weight as I'm already giving him all the breaks and he has ran out a rack here and there. Plus , he's not asking for more anyway.

Eventually , I give him a time I have to go. He agrees and we run till then.

He goes down pretty hard. The C I give him back was a drop in the bucket , I almost gave hime more but he was very greatfull to get that. So we even up , shake and off he goes.


:cool:
 
RRfireblade said:
Well ,

I came out pretty far ahead on someone the other night. Played pretty well and had a good night. Well , the guy looks like he's about to cry when we're done. I see him on the phone with 'someone' (wife?) obviously doing serious explaining , then over to the ATM with like 2-3 different cards pulling out as much as he can , then 20 mins of scouriong pockets and his car for the rest.

I felt pretty bad and gave him a $100 back just to make sure he could get home. :eek:

So am I softy ? Did I get played ?

I just felt bad for him. He was quite distrought , I must have lost my killer instinc over the years. :(
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you don't gamble with what you don't have - if you do, you have a problem. if he was sincere, i am sure that was not the first time wifey got a call like that.
 
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