Along the lines of some previous posts.....
Had our 9-ball league last night. My GF is captain of that team this session, which seems to have focused her much more on things, in a good way. So we're playing the current first place team last night, we're in 4th, and it was even after the first three matches, 30-30. They put up their top guy, he's a strong 6, and even stronger here on his home location's table. (all our league locations have tables with "quirks" that make a difference while you're playing)
My GF wants to put our 2 up against him, apparently they were joking with the other team about this before I got there. So I talked with the 2 and asked if she wanted to play, then explained that the first couple racks would be rough, but after he opens a lead, he'll start getting comfortable, and that's when she will start making her points. She played last session so not new, and not a bad shooter, but gets into her own head and gives up way too easily. We were thinking that playing her in a match like this, it would take some pressure off, and just let her relax and shoot. He won the lag, broke the first rack and ran to a 7-9 combo to finish that rack. Second rack, B&R for him. He's definitely in the zone. I reminded our 2 that we talked about exactly this happening, so don't get discouraged. He eventually hooked himself, and gave it to her with an easy cut to the side, but she missed it, too nervous. He made a few then played a defensive shot. She had an easy hit, but no real shot. After standing there for a few seconds, my GF, who was keeping score, said she could call a timeout if she wanted, and the 6 erupted with "THAT'S A TIMEOUT NOW". Ugh, we're going to start this crap now??? I just agreed and went up to help settle her down a little, and go over what her shot should be, which was more about how hard to hit it since there wasn't really a shot. Anyway, long story short, she got crushed. She only made one or two balls, and he got a shutout patch.
I'm a believer in going with the even matches for the most part, especially during the season. It's supposed to be fun, and usually it is. Some lower handicaps rise to the challenge when matching up with higher levels, but some don't. I've lost to lower handicaps and they almost always make me sign their patch when they get it, and I always do. I'm kind of a wise-ass, so that's fair play, and a kind of a compliment actually.
I'm going to have to see what I can do about getting my 2 to relax and just play. She is so focused on all the negatives that she doesn't give herself a chance.