How to explain a Cue purchase to the GF/wife
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akaTrigger said:The best way is to not tell them how much it is.
I wouldn't bet on that option, unless I was okay with getting a divorce, if the other half just happened to find out.
That's a lot of money to pay for a cue, but for some, it's just a drop in the bucket. I think the size of your actual savings account might play a part in whether it's okay to spend that much, but not telling the wife or girlfriend... there's only one or two scenarios I can think of that would even come close to being okay, in my books. One is if you are already getting a divorce. The other is if you each earn and spend your own money and neither of you ever discusses where you spend your money.
I think it'd be good to at least discuss the matter. If she is the bookkeeper in the family, you might find out you are about to go bankrupt and that one little cue could do the job.
What if she was planning to buy you a new pool table for Christmas, but there's only enough money for one of those things??
Jimmy M. said:It really is a good system. lol!
You can also try looking at cues that are WAY more expensive than the one you actually want to buy. Then when you "settle" on the cheaper one, you soften the blow.
If you take her with you to see the cues and you go about it that way and she doesn't freak out, then I think that would still be honest enough to keep you out of trouble. But, it's the honesty of her knowing you are buying the cue that makes it okay. You are offering her the opportunity to let you know that you may be without lights and heat for the first 3 months you are enjoying the new cue, or that there is a little one on the way and you'll need every penny you can get and would just have to sell the cue to buy diapers and formula and stuff.
Of course, if you don't tell her you're spending that kind of money on a cue, she shouldn't have to explain what she did with all the money when she took it out of the account to leave with her, either.
Man... This is getting way too deep for me! I gotta go find another thread!
You guys have a great morning!
Jimmy M. said:
I was talking about how MY response was getting way too deep for me!
I liked your idea.
JesPiddlin said:I was talking about how MY response was getting way too deep for me!
I liked your idea.
Funny thing is, I actually, sort of, did this with my wife, but it was completely accidental. I certainly wasn't trying to get one over on her. What happened was that I was looking at mountain bikes that were in the $2000 range. My wife thought spending that much money on a bike was ridiculous and, after much heated discussion over the matter, I decided to hold off for a while and make due with my old bike. So a couple months went by and I can't stand it. I want a new bike. So NOW I start looking at bikes and narrowed it down to a few. The one that I was particularly interested in, after everything was said and done, probably would have cost me around $4000. Now, if you think she wasn't happy about me spending $2k, you can imagine how she felt about $4k, but I was "this close" to pulling the trigger despite her disapproval. Anyway, I continued to look at other bikes and, finally, after riding a bunch of different ones, doing a little research, blah blah blah, I decide on the one that I really like, and that seems best suited to my needs. It turns out this one is "only" $2500. Surprisingly, she offered very little resistance to the $2500 price-tag. I can only assume that 1) $2500 sounded a lot better than $4000+, or 2) she was tired of hearing about it and knew that I was going to buy something anyway.
Perhaps it was a little of both.
i posted yesterday about what i do when i want to buy new cues and the ol' lady biatches about it. i had league last night and bought a brand new predator air along with a jacoby jumper, and i was planning on buying an x-breaker for the ol' collection. The old lady was trippin saying how we don't really have the money for it. i said yes i do, i sold a Jim White and a few other little things...biatch! she still moans and groans. like i said before, the best way to explain the money, is LIE ABOUT IT!
I tell them TOOLS of the TRADE!!!you'll never see (decent)carpenters/mechanics go to Big Lots to buy tools!!They always buy the BEST(even if just in their mind)BEST lasts longer feel better and normally dont break/warp!!!some people never have to pay for a cue out-of-pocket,everyone they play pay for them(LOL)I dont even gamble anymore and only play in a few ''T''s but I likes a good hitting cue to beat around with!!!!!!Just My Humble Opinioncowboyup200560 said:
]Sweet Marissa said:
Marrissa will you marry me?????? LMAO I wish I could find a girl I didnt have to explain my every move to......
cowboyup200560 said:
I have a "don't ask, don't tell" policy with my wife. It works great, but then I've an exceptional wife.
1pRoscoe said:
I like number 2 the best!
akaTrigger <-- going to buy another cue during lunch.
JesPiddlin said:
I was more referring to not telling non-playing friends (the last half of the first post was referring to non-playing friends). When I would tell a friend or coworker how much I've spent on a cue, they look at me real funny. So, I learned not to tell them anymore. I now just say, "yeah, I have three custom designed cues." They are surprised at that and no need to tell them the price of 'em.
As far as when I was married - it was a big hassle when I wanted to buy/design a new cue. He told me I didn't need a new cue (he played also) and I would reply, "Well, I want one and it's my money." I had my own savings account.
my technique
The technique I always used was to show up with whatever I wanted to buy.
"Girl look at this fantastic cue I got for only $7500." She naturally went ballistic!! After she came down off the ceiling after cutting three or four laps up there I told her I only paid $1250. "Oh, that's OK then" totally ignoring the fact that she would have went equally baliistic and stayed spun for days had I told her that I paid $1250 to begin with. No sense mentioning the $20,000 lawn mower she had in the pasture.
Hu
The technique I always used was to show up with whatever I wanted to buy.
"Girl look at this fantastic cue I got for only $7500." She naturally went ballistic!! After she came down off the ceiling after cutting three or four laps up there I told her I only paid $1250. "Oh, that's OK then" totally ignoring the fact that she would have went equally baliistic and stayed spun for days had I told her that I paid $1250 to begin with. No sense mentioning the $20,000 lawn mower she had in the pasture.
Hu
This thread could go on for years!!!
Married 17 years and still haven't figured it out. I have always done the right thing meaning I never spent the mortgage money, but I still don't have the answer.
In the beginning years: Never said a thing about what I spent......................found out later that somehow my wife knew and used it against me to close arguments.
in the middle years: I really figured it out............. it was the THREE TIMES theory. Any amount of money you spend your wife will spend THREE TIMES that amount. So spend $300 she will spend $900. Your cost is now $1,200!!!!
currently: Don't ask don't tell policy is in place. It is cheaper for both of us, less math, and we get along much better!!!!
GOOD LUCK BOYS!!!!
Married 17 years and still haven't figured it out. I have always done the right thing meaning I never spent the mortgage money, but I still don't have the answer.
In the beginning years: Never said a thing about what I spent......................found out later that somehow my wife knew and used it against me to close arguments.
in the middle years: I really figured it out............. it was the THREE TIMES theory. Any amount of money you spend your wife will spend THREE TIMES that amount. So spend $300 she will spend $900. Your cost is now $1,200!!!!
currently: Don't ask don't tell policy is in place. It is cheaper for both of us, less math, and we get along much better!!!!
GOOD LUCK BOYS!!!!