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How do you have pool And your family? I've got a son and one on the way, my gal drives 200 miles every Wednesday to bowl and that's cool with me, yet some how my Thursday night league can't co-exist. How does everyone else manage? Looking for insight, experience and knowledge, dont want to give up the last remaining hobby and competitive thing i have, cause that's the guy I am. Also don't want to lose her or my boy, help me find balance with your experience AZB.
 
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thehoneybadger said:
How do you have pool And your family? I've got a son and one on the way, my gal drives 200 miles every Wednesday to bowl and that's cool with me, yet some how my Thursday night league can't co-exist. How does everyone else manage? Looking for insight, experience and knowledge, dont want to give up the last remaining hobby and competitive thing i have, cause that's the guy I am. Also don't want to lose her or my boy, help me find balance with your experience AZB.
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Be calm when you talk to her and tell her its not up for discussion. If she leaves you for doing this then I don't think she loves you properly. What would the honeybadger do? I think you know the answer to that because honeybadger don't give a s**t.
I could never be with someone who said I couldn't play pool whenever I wanted to. Its not right.
 
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I've been asked if I'd pick pool or my wife. I would pick pool. Not because I don't love my wife but if she doesn't want me to do something that's been something I love for 25 years then she's not the women for me. I would never stop her from doing things she's passionate about.

Btw my wife never complains about me playing pool. In fact she'll sit at a tournament all day and watch me play. All my friends tell me how lucky I am because there wives do nothing but complain about it.
 
thehoneybadger said:
How do you have pool And your family? I've got a son and one on the way, my gal drives 200 miles every Wednesday to bowl and that's cool with me, yet some how my Thursday night league can't co-exist. How does everyone else manage? Looking for insight, experience and knowledge, dont want to give up the last remaining hobby and competitive thing i have, cause that's the guy I am. Also don't want to lose her or my boy, help me find balance with your experience AZB.
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Gambling and alcohol are addictive, you will give up her and boy too, and all your family. If you are not in that department, dedicate one day long hours for pool- pick a night. Another way, try to find a job where you work from home, at times work load is light you can play during day time. If you can afford a pool table buy one, practice so you do not lose your touch.

Once boy(s) at college you might have more time if your health is good and get your game back..

I am sorry pool & wife do not mix well like water on Greasy fire, you will always be fighting, no matter what-do not change woman-no help there- love your wife, and boy make them a priority-set time for them and less for pool, only chance you have, one life to live, think if you are a little boy would you want dad to be away all the time-sacrifice some time!! on the other hand, pool tables, pool players, the game, the gambling..will never go away

If you sent this post before your woman is pregnant, i would have another advise. Sorry no help here!
 
Your treating the guy like he wants to be out drinking and gambling all night. it sounds like he just wants one night to go out and compete for a few hours. I have one beer when I'm out and don't gamble. It's a myth that the two HAVE to go together. It's only that if you make it that. lol one night to yourself isn't to much to ask. Your right you only have one life to live. You have to find a balance.


naji said:
Gambling and alcohol are addictive, you will give up her and boy too, and all your family. If you are not in that department, dedicate one day long hours for pool- pick a night. Another way, try to find a job where you work from home, at times work load is light you can play during day time. If you can afford a pool table buy one, practice so you do not lose your touch.

Once boy(s) at college you might have more time if your health is good and get your game back..

I am sorry pool & wife do not mix well like water on Greasy fire, you will always be fighting, no matter what-do not change woman-no help there- love your wife, and boy make them a priority-set time for them and less for pool, only chance you have, one life to live, think if you are a little boy would you want dad to be away all the time-sacrifice some time!! on the other hand, pool tables, pool players, the game, the gambling..will never go away

If you sent this post before your woman is pregnant, i would have another advise. Sorry no help here!
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thehoneybadger said:
How do you have pool And your family? I've got a son and one on the way, my gal drives 200 miles every Wednesday to bowl and that's cool with me, yet some how my Thursday night league can't co-exist. How does everyone else manage? Looking for insight, experience and knowledge, dont want to give up the last remaining hobby and competitive thing i have, cause that's the guy I am. Also don't want to lose her or my boy, help me find balance with your experience AZB.
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I made a prenup, I play pool Allot....it will not go away. Sounds like there's an imbalance in your relationship, that needs to be addressed asap for your lifes happiness. I raised two daughters, and split thirteen yrs later, pool was not the reason.
 
trob said:
Your treating the guy like he wants to be out drinking and gambling all night. it sounds like he just wants one night to go out and compete for a few hours. I have one beer when I'm out and don't gamble. It's a myth that the two HAVE to go together. It's only that if you make it that. lol one night to yourself isn't to much to ask. Your right you only have one life to live. You have to find a balance.
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That is not true, i am asking if his strong desires stems from drinking, or ,and gambling; big difference in the way i would respond. If he is a sociable player like you, then he should be able to dedicate more time for family with less stress on himself. Diffidently with a son to deal with, wife's stress level sky rockets and will not see in front of her or give a ..., if he gambles or drink it is a dead end no hope, boy lose.
 
This can't be the best place to seek counseling, so, with that in mind, I'd say you are overlooking that the most important game for a women is breaking our balls. You may not have to look any deeper into it than that!

While pool is your passion, crushing our stones is their's. You have a son you love, that's like giving them the 5 and out for their game.

If she has a boyfriend at that 200 mile away :rolleyes: bowling alley, you're being hussled. If not, tell her to stop *****ing, cause you're still going.

Now, as a side note, she might be the only wife in the world that travels 200 miles every week for a bowling night, so I may make that little issue my first concern. Know any good private eyes? :cool:
 
I cannot provide advice that would help answer your question.

If you have the means and space, perhaps a table at home would meet some of your needs.
 
Women b***h and moan to get what they want all the time but its usually only a bluff charge. Do you really think she will leave you over one night a week of pool? this is no life to live. Think of what your teaching your son. Shes got to learn how to compromise.
 
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Sealegs50 said:
I cannot provide advice that would help answer your question.

If you have the means and space, perhaps a table at home would meet some of your needs.
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Wouldn't his wife need a bowling alley at home as well? IMO life and marriage should be a 50/50 proposition. Both should have equal time together and apart with full trust between the two. If you don't trust each other in love and life that cannot be good. I have recently watched a person I know behaving in a manner that will likely lead to serious problems in their marriage but it's none of my business to intervene. I give credit to the OP for looking for help and insight in any way he feels necessary. Hope it works out positively!
 
You have to decide whats important.

I didn't do a whole lot of "me" stuff when my boys were younger. Partly because my job required that I work more than I cared to, plus the commute added more time lost, so I was only home for a few hours a day while they were awake.

Funny thing about kids, they tend to grow up on you. They tend to get their own things to do that don't include you, believe it or not. :p Then you find that you have more time to do "me" things.

Now if it's an issue between you and your wife, that's solely another matter. If she can do what she wants on one night, and you can't....well then you just might have a problem. Talk it out.

Good luck.
 
If you cave to this woman, then please do us all a favor and change your Avatar. The honeybadger, in my opinion, is the meanest thing on 4 legs. You just don't mess with him. So, if she is messing with you and you are asking advice from us, then your disposition matches that of a pussy cat not a honeybadger.

For Chist sake's man, you can't even think about giving up pool. Any judge in their right mind (make sure he/she is a pool player) given the circumstances would award you the children.

Case closed, now grab your cue and go hit some. Maybe you'll run into a judge. If you do, keep it close, but you'll know what you will have to do.
 
vapoolplayer said:
Are you saying she is fine with her bowling on Wednesdays, but doesn't like you playing pool on Thursdays?

If so, is there a particular reason? Do you do other things during the week besides pool on Thursdays, do you drink too much when you play pool, or any other reason she may not want you going out that day?

Is it just Thursday that's a problem, or any day of the week?
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I'm with vanpool player here...
Is it just because you play on Thursday?
Would any other night be okay?

It isn't fair if she just doesn't want you going out to play. She goes and bowls, right? She should give you at least one night out a week at least if she gets one to bowl.

My wife understands my addicition to pool. With 3 kids (15, 12 & 9) I am allowed to go play at least one night per week. Also once a month I get to go play two times during a week.

Just sit down with her and talk things out.
Good luck.
 
If she goes out Wednesday night, do you have to stay home with your boy, and the same for her if you go out Thursday night? This is what one couple does, Hubby plays Team 8-ball Tuesday night pool and Wife plays Wednesday night so they can take turn watching the kid. Comes playoff time, they may need to look for a baby sitter if their teams play each other.

If you don't need to watch your boy Wednesday night, then would your wife have problems you playing pool on the same night she's out bowling. If she objects to both, then you have deeper issues to resolve, not just balance and fairness.
 
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Just be unbearable to be around until you get your own way. When your son is here split your attention between pool and him... jk:o i just had a son and its killing my table time. i just suck ass and bust my ass.if she bowls and u cant play thursday night u should snap on her though.
 
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