Nineballsafety8, it's difficult to unravel this entire soap opera but let me see if I have the important points:
You may have spoke a bit out of turn with your challenge to Rhea.
Rhea calls you out. You, realizing how this could negatively impact your family, back peddle a bit.
Rhea posts private communication with her which sort of embarrass you.
Your testosterone levels up, you now challenge Rhea again.
Does that sound about right? Now if you explained to your wife and she endorsed this little match, great. However, if you let a little cyber woofing cause your ego to over ride your better sense, bad decision imho.
As I read through this and saw what happened with you, I didn't think badly of you. In fact, I admired your courage and integrity for coming clean and making what sounded like the right decision.
Perhaps I'm misunderstanding something here and if so, I'm apologizing. Just to be clear, you don't owe Rhea, or anybody on this website, anything. I would encourage you to continue to prioritize your family.