JS,
Just in case you read this, realize (as JAM mentioned) there are a few posters here who jump at the chance to fling dirt whenever and wherever possible (even the poster you mention who has fewer than 30 posts here, and seems to have dropped in just for this purpose).
In addition there are also a significant number of members who live in a fantasy world where there is "professional pool" - with rules, regulations, "codes" of conduct, obligations. In the hope that everyone will behave as they wish, they love to criticize any apparent deviation from their ideal.
I would hope that the majority of the true fans of the game realize that if you (or any player, myself included) entered a tournament, then they have EVERY right to drop out ANY TIME they choose - forfeiting their entry fee, but not in any way their honor. The only obligation (IF ANY) to the Calcutta "buyer" would be from the tournament director. Let the gambler beware.
In any case, many reasonable posters couldn't care less about this entire thread; and I doubt any damage has been done to your reputation - this is just an anonymous internet forum - the "haters" will always hate, thats what they do. They have the freedom to say what they want, we have the freedom to ignore them.