Not letting a guy rematch?

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gxman

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So I was shooting, maybe 5 practice games of 8b on a 9ft with this guy I've never met. Looks like he plays better than me. He asked if I gamble. I said No, but I'll play. He brought up race to 5 for 20 and I said sure..

He went up 3-2 and I won the next 3 to win the match. He asked if I wanted to play again, I declined and said, "I've been here too long and am ready to go home." I had already been there close to 5hrs.

So is not letting a guy rematch bad gambling etiquette?

Even though it was only 20, but I think I will be a little irked if I lost to someone and they didnt give me an opportunity to redeem myself.
 
Common question on here.

Responses are split between

"It's nitty and you're bad action and there's no excuse to ever quit winner
and you should always warn someone if you can't play multiple sets."

and

"nobody promised anyone jackshit, it's my money now, not yours anymore,
and I can do with it as I see fit. If you assumed we'd play until I donated it back to you
then you're sorely mistaken, you shouldn't have bet if you can't fade losing it.
That's why it's called gambling."

Just one random opinion in a sea of them:
Whether something is technically 'fair' or 'right', may not be as important as how it will be perceived.

I personally think it's fair to quit at any time, but that doesn't change the fact that some people
will see this as wrong and unfair, and the consequence is that they won't gamble with me anymore
and may even ruin my action with others.

So, if it's important for you to be able to gamble regularly in that area, you might want to strive
to keep your 'customers' happy, even if it seems like bullshit.
 
Should've said something before you started. It's your call though. I would think you're being a bit nitty, but it don't bother me being called a nit, and it shouldn't bother you either. It's only $20, so no sweat man.
 
That's one of the main reasons I don't gamble much. If you get up on someone, it seems your never allowed to quit unless they run out of money. What if your up kinda big and they want to raise the bet?
 
You are not obligated to play again unless a agreement was in place before you started. As a general rule of thumb you should protect yourself from this situation and set the expectation of only playing one race before you start.
 
TheNewSharkster said:
You are not obligated to play again unless a agreement was in place before you started. As a general rule of thumb you should protect yourself from this situation and set the expectation of only playing one race before you start.
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I agree with this. In the pool world, many perceive that quitting winner is wrong. However, if you establish your intentions before starting of only playing one set, then they know what they are getting into, and can choose to do so or not.
 
gxman said:
So I was shooting, maybe 5 practice games of 8b on a 9ft with this guy I've never met. Looks like he plays better than me. He asked if I gamble. I said No, but I'll play. He brought up race to 5 for 20 and I said sure..

He went up 3-2 and I won the next 3 to win the match. He asked if I wanted to play again, I declined and said, "I've been here too long and am ready to go home." I had already been there close to 5hrs.

So is not letting a guy rematch bad gambling etiquette?

Even though it was only 20, but I think I will be a little irked if I lost to someone and they didnt give me an opportunity to redeem myself.
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You warned him a head of time that you don't gamble. You don't owe him anything.

Sounds like the hustler got hustled.:clapping:
 
Or, you could have said you would play one more game, double or nothing. Could have walked away doubling your money or breaking even, and he would know you are leaving after the one game.
 
I'm also in the camp where if you know you have to leave by X o'clock, then you should say it upfront. However, if you're down at X o'clock, and want to blow off your kid's birthday party, your opponent should let you chase your $$.
 
So, you didn't want to gamble, but did. Then you quit while you were ahead. Now you say you wouldn't be happy if someone did that to you?!?! Sounds like you're a one-way nitty-azz dude to me. I could be wrong.
 
Yea thats a good point

So, you didn't want to gamble, but did. Then you quit while you were ahead. Now you say you wouldn't be happy if someone did that to you?!?! Sounds like you're a one-way nitty-azz dude to me. I could be wrong.
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Rhino has something here!

But I do believe that you had no intention to gambling and maybe was talked into it since it was only 20 bucks. Hey the dude insisted on playing, you won and it was time to go.

You don't owe anybody anything.
 
For me it really depends on the situation.

If I'm in a pool room with players I know and respect, I follow the unwritten rules of pool action. I'll give them a chance at their money and I expect the same unless agreed upon prior.

However if I'm at a bar and I get in a game and win a few and my friends are pestering me to leave pool alone and hang out with them or I see a cutie that I want to talk to, I'm out. Or (a fresh example from last night) you are a drunk asshole who keeps losing and then yelling about how if you were sober you'd run me off the table. F you in that situation, I'll quit on principle. Nothing personal but I don't owe you anything in the random "hey we both happen to be here and there is a pool table and some cues" situation. I didn't come in looking for it and I'm not going to act like I did.
 
If you knew ahead of time you were only going to have time enough for one set you should have said so. Also, you told him you didn't gamble and then went ahead and did so. I'd have been pissed.
 
I say f*ck the other guy. You are GAMBLING, this means there is a chance you may lose your money. Gambling has risks, one of which being you may only get one shot at the cash.
 
Does it matter who approaches who? Guy come up and says do you want to play a race to 3 for 20. You say yes and play. Neither of you agreed to anything except the race and amount. I always feel stuck if I am up on someone and want to leave. What if they play slow, or are annoying to play? I say walk away any time you like.
 
You have to say "I can only play one set" or "I have to leave after the next set" ... otherwise your opponent has every right to be pissed at you.
 
Thanks for the comments guys.

I didn't know there could be so much to think about over a 20 dollar match.

So we went to the bar and I paid my table time. 7 and change. Its free pool til 3p with a drink purchase. His bar tab was twenty something. He left in a real nice hummer, so I imagine the guy is far from any kind of hustler.

Any case, I think I've seen him there before b/c they only have 2 9ft tables and a bunch of 8'. I'm usually on one of the 9' if its open and his group is on the other 9'.

If I'm by myself, they will ask to play. He was the 2nd guy from the group I shot with.

I'm not even sure what I will say if I'm by myself and he comes asking to gamble again.

I'm certainly not interested in a long drawn out gambling match with an unknown.
 
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eastcoast_chris said:
You have to say "I can only play one set" or "I have to leave after the next set" ... otherwise your opponent has every right to be pissed at you.
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No he doesn't have "every right to be pissed". His opponent failed in communicating his expectations and the agreed race was completed. If you sit down at a poker table and take down a big pot do you have to keep playing so everybody has a chance to win back the money? F-no! You won fair and square and are not obligated to make another bet.

Lesson learned though. In the future make sure your opponent knows your intentions and the whole thing can be avoided.
 
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