OH NO...Wife is Not Happy with Pool...Help!
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she should just be glad that the only skirts you're interested in chasing are short, heavy, and flat, named Brunswick, Diamond, Olhausen, etc.
Tru Dat !!
The title of this thread is too long. Should have said OH NO Wife not happy PERIOD!!! Everyone would have understood.
The worm has turned boys.... We are now a country of "ball-less" married men. It is a shame. I have young neighbors 2 kids.... The dude does all the cleaning, shopping, baby care, outside work, never ever hangs with the boys. He married a Princess I guess.
Every married guy tries to warn their buddies about it. But there is one phrase either spoken or thought.... "Not my honey". LMAO!!!!
Read this carefully please .... The MAJORITY of women are all the same, some mask
it better than others but they are all alike. They slowly try to take it all away. As a man you have 2 options 1) fight and claw to keep your manhood....... whatever that is, pool, cars, golf, whatever. 2) Uncle Joe it. ..... Here is a link to what I am talking about.
http://unclejoeadvice.blogspot.com/
BTW been married 19 years, 2 kids.... played on 3 leagues prior to marriage, and tourneys. She knew what it was..... AND complained from day ONE. I gave up 2 of the league nights, and most tourneys. Put a pool table and snooker table in my house, taught the kids to play..... She is still complaining!!?
Good luck man...... Marriage ain't easy!!!
Mike
The worm has turned boys.... We are now a country of "ball-less" married men. It is a shame. I have young neighbors 2 kids.... The dude does all the cleaning, shopping, baby care, outside work, never ever hangs with the boys. He married a Princess I guess.
Every married guy tries to warn their buddies about it. But there is one phrase either spoken or thought.... "Not my honey". LMAO!!!!
Read this carefully please .... The MAJORITY of women are all the same, some mask
it better than others but they are all alike. They slowly try to take it all away. As a man you have 2 options 1) fight and claw to keep your manhood....... whatever that is, pool, cars, golf, whatever. 2) Uncle Joe it. ..... Here is a link to what I am talking about.
http://unclejoeadvice.blogspot.com/
BTW been married 19 years, 2 kids.... played on 3 leagues prior to marriage, and tourneys. She knew what it was..... AND complained from day ONE. I gave up 2 of the league nights, and most tourneys. Put a pool table and snooker table in my house, taught the kids to play..... She is still complaining!!?
Good luck man...... Marriage ain't easy!!!
Mike
Give her free time then you take yours.
Give her free time then you take yours.
Give her a day off Then she can't say she don't have equal time.
Then go enjoy yourself. Married 29yrs 5 kids just adopted my 2 nephews 11&3.
Good Luck!
Here we go....
I picked the BasementDweller name for a reason. I basically just play at home when I can find a few minutes here and there. But lately, I've been trying to sneak out and hit a local tournament, or try to find some local action.
Well, I got hit with the "you're playing too much pool" today. I got the call after a package from Seyberts was delivered. That paired with all the talk about me getting a new table, I think put her over the edge.
I've been married for 11 years now and I have 3 kids (ages 7, 6, & 19 months) so it's a bit tough to just take off and go play pool. By tough, I mean if I want to stay married (which of course I do). Pool is the only hobby I have but I think the wife would rather I didn't play at all
I know there have been several threads about this on here in the past but I think it's time for a review. How do you guys handle this?
Give her free time then you take yours.
Give her a day off Then she can't say she don't have equal time.
Then go enjoy yourself. Married 29yrs 5 kids just adopted my 2 nephews 11&3.
Good Luck!
Each person is unique and different. This applies to both men and women, especially when it comes to pool.
What one woman thinks about your hobby, another may not. Many women view a man's hobby as a mistress and this causes lots of stress in the relationship.
You need to have open and honest discussions with your wife about the pool, no matter how painful the conversation.
One of the problems for a lot of people with pool, is that it can be a hobby that the more you play it, the more you want to play it, especially if you have a competitive type personality.
It is up to each man to work out his own salvation. Listen to the advice from all of those who posted but follow your own path.
What one woman thinks about your hobby, another may not. Many women view a man's hobby as a mistress and this causes lots of stress in the relationship.
You need to have open and honest discussions with your wife about the pool, no matter how painful the conversation.
One of the problems for a lot of people with pool, is that it can be a hobby that the more you play it, the more you want to play it, especially if you have a competitive type personality.
It is up to each man to work out his own salvation. Listen to the advice from all of those who posted but follow your own path.
hey tk...
sooooooooooooo funnnnnnnnnnny
tks for the laughs my friend!!
all the best,
smokey
sooooooooooooo funnnnnnnnnnny
tks for the laughs my friend!!
all the best,
smokey
hey JoeyA...
yup... you said it all = P E R F E C T L Y
while tk gave me/us a lot of laughs, you said it best
my compliments my friend,
smokey
yup... you said it all = P E R F E C T L Y
while tk gave me/us a lot of laughs, you said it best
my compliments my friend,
smokey
This is exactly why I am not better at pool. I love go play and am a very competitive person, so I would love to go down in my basement and just drill everyday. However, my wife and kids are my true priorities, so I am resigned to only being as good ask can given the time I have after work wife and kids.
When I look back on life, I will see my relationship with my wife, the memories I have with my kids and the way they turn out as much more. Valuable than my personal level of pool playing. I still have to temper my desires to run off to the basement at times, and sometimes it gets he best of me, but heir will never be a question of what comes first when I need to decide what I will emphasize in life.
My 3 girls love to play pool with me, and the time will come when we can actually play real games together. For now, it is just a way I can spend some time with them and allow them to learn to enjoy the game.
I am sure we all deal with this. My answer to the question would be to take an honest look at your time and see if pool has more than its fair share, then adjust accordingly. Any man fortunate enough to find a woman that he truly loves, and to have he joys and challenges of kids, would be an idiot to throw it away for pool or other game/materi thing.
My wife just recently (2wks ago) had to have brain surgery for an aneurysm that was found on accident. Fortunately everything went well and she is recovering well so far. Its very interesting how trivial other things (including pool) seem when you are faced with something like that.
I'm a big believer In keeping a good balance in life. Having some time to do your own thing is important in that, but should never take priority over wife and kids.
Please excuse he typos as I sent this from my phone
Good luck
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So are you going to US Bar Box with me.
Wow...thanks for the reminder Mantis. Glad to hear your wife is doing well. Pool really isn't that important.
I feel the same! When life gets to its end, I'd rather bask in the love and beauty of my family than remember the time I fired a bank in and busted open the stack and ran out for the hill-hill win...even if my opponent's game winning ball was in the jaaaaaws!
If you love her...Never take her for granted. Always kiss her good night and tell her you love her...and then get your ass outa there and go do some things she likes to do. Don't be so self centered. I can speak on this. I'm an expert in the field... with 40 years experience:wink:
well.....wait a second there.....their winning ball was in the jaws???....that would be a great out.....hmmmm.......she would be so excited to hear about it when I got home........oh wait......no she wouldn't.......she would just roll her eyes......I guess you're right Black-Balled. :thumbup:
Tell her it's better to go after pool table holes than any other kind... 
I see several options to try, but as you know nothing is guaranteed.
Option 1- Ask for one night that you can go out and play and in return tell her that she can have a night as well. You have very young children and although you love them with all of your hearts, you both need a chance to relax, unwind and de-stress.
Option 2- See if she would be interested in sharing in your hobby. You may want to include her and if she sees firsthand that pool is fun, she may be more easily persuaded to let you have a night out by yourself. Maybe you could join a league and play on a team together.
Option 3- Make sure that you show her that although you would love to be able to spend time playing pool, her and the kids are more important. Designate a date night for you and your wife so that it's just the 2 of you, and also make sure that you go out as a family. Take the wife and kids to a park and have a picnic. That's an easy "A" on your husband and father report card!
You've gotten a lot of feedback, hopefully it's all been helpful. Just remember communication is the key. There is no need to have a fight over this. You should be able to talk calmly and reach some type of agreement. I wish you the best of luck.
Option 1- Ask for one night that you can go out and play and in return tell her that she can have a night as well. You have very young children and although you love them with all of your hearts, you both need a chance to relax, unwind and de-stress.
Option 2- See if she would be interested in sharing in your hobby. You may want to include her and if she sees firsthand that pool is fun, she may be more easily persuaded to let you have a night out by yourself. Maybe you could join a league and play on a team together.
Option 3- Make sure that you show her that although you would love to be able to spend time playing pool, her and the kids are more important. Designate a date night for you and your wife so that it's just the 2 of you, and also make sure that you go out as a family. Take the wife and kids to a park and have a picnic. That's an easy "A" on your husband and father report card!
You've gotten a lot of feedback, hopefully it's all been helpful. Just remember communication is the key. There is no need to have a fight over this. You should be able to talk calmly and reach some type of agreement. I wish you the best of luck.