Johnny-thanks for taking the time to read everything and thinking about it. De-incentivizing the smash-break is key. Take the ball on the break out of the mix and the goal then becomes controlling the cue ball, controlling the 1-ball, and getting a good spread on the balls, all while hitting a random rack with ample force to meet the middle string requirement. This is good enough. There is much skill in all of this.
Because of the potential damage and danger, a cue ball rocketing off the table on the break should be met with the harshest penalty: Loss of game.
This argument suggests then the only thing that should be eliminated is pattern racking. If I can still hit them as hard as I want, assuming the CB stays on the table, I'm all but guaranteed a good spread. The only variable left is the position of the balls. And even pattern racking doesn't guarantee that. It only suggests that some balls will head in certain directions, barring any kisses off other balls; which *always* happens.
Controlling the CB is the key to breaking right now anyway. Watch one of those Donny Mills TAR matches, specifically the one against Shane... He makes the wing ball, literally 99% of the time (I forget the exact number, but it's something like 85 out of 87 times) and he gets a good spread on the balls. He's not soft breaking, but he's not HULK-SMASH-ing the rack either.
I can definitely understand your frustration though; as someone who's playing on the next table I don't want to have to worry about some idiot's cueball flying over and hitting me or my table. There's a group of guys that come in and fire every ball as hard as they can all night long; to the point where object balls fly off the table. But, I dont think there's any rule that can or should be put in place to rectify it. And I don't agree that losing the CB like that should result in loss of game. The fact it... it happens. It's like saying a baseball player should be out if he hits a foul ball, or a golfer should be penalized 10 strokes for slicing a ball. It's just a matter of life.