Lorider,
You didn't become a banger... its the leagues structure that "caters" to being a banger. The league wants you to improve so you have to recruit more people (ie grow). It "punishes" you for improving because your team cannot stay together for very long.. If you just be a "banger" then your team can stay together for long periods of time.
I am a SL7 in 8-ball and a SL9 in 9-ball. It is not easy to stay on teams because I help others improve but as they improve and their SL increases, my chances to play decreate due to the "23 rule". I have been removed from teams that I helped qualify for the post season (city) tournament. Its not fun to be in that boat, so thats why there is a stereotype of the league.
Also the team events are capped at SL10 combined... so its targeted at 4's, 5's, and 6's!
Anyhow APA is great for the industry, but it has damaged tournaments (because of all the handicapping) and gambling because everyone in an APA area knows everyone else's ability level within a small margin. In other leagues, the averages are much less discussed because they are not a key element to building a team.
I hope that all makes sense
One additional thought I had, why does handicapping have to make things 50/50? For players who have put years of effort and spend hours of week practicing don't have an advantage over someone who plays just once a week, there should be some advantage. Handicaps give the "weaker" player a "chance" to win but think about bowling handicaps. I bowled years ago when "scratch" was 200 (ie. no handicap) and your handicap was 85% of the difference between 200 and your average. The better player if they performed average would beat the weaker if they performed their average.