Sometimes Why Bother
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Great post!
I tend to assume when someone asks me a question that they are "hungry" for the answer......Its becoming clear that its not always true....I cant count all the times someone has ignored the perfect advice I have given in response to their urgent question (about life, not about pool).
My wife has a high school education and I'm a lawyer, but she regularly tells me I'm wrong about things, even when it has to do with the law!
It seems at times she is more likely to believe what a homeless person tells her than me. In my frustration I have actually said at times "please go find someone you will listen to, because you dont listen to me!".
I will try your method, the next time my wife asks me how many sides on a stop sign, I wont say "8!", I will say "my smart friend tells me its 8"
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Sorry to drift off the topic of this thread, but I think this thread is about why people dont take good advice after asking for it, and what to do when it happens.....(nothing against walking away however!, except my wife follows me when i do it
)You know, sometimes you can't teach folks because they always have an answer why they did what they did. Even after you show them the correct way, or easier way, they still want to argue that if they would have just gotten the "perfect" position they would have won. Call it stuborn, stupid, prideful, or what every you like, they are just built that way. They somehow feel the need to always be right.
I for one am a very open minded person. I am always looking for someone that can teach me something new, show me an easier and more consistent way to play. There are a ton of folks out there that know a heck of a lot more about the game than I do, and I am not afraid to admit it, nor am I ashamed of it. I love for better players to show me different aspects of the game, and sometimes, it isn't even a better player, just someone with a different perspective.
I for one am a very open minded person. I am always looking for someone that can teach me something new, show me an easier and more consistent way to play. There are a ton of folks out there that know a heck of a lot more about the game than I do, and I am not afraid to admit it, nor am I ashamed of it. I love for better players to show me different aspects of the game, and sometimes, it isn't even a better player, just someone with a different perspective.
Great post!
I tend to assume when someone asks me a question that they are "hungry" for the answer......Its becoming clear that its not always true....I cant count all the times someone has ignored the perfect advice I have given in response to their urgent question (about life, not about pool).
My wife has a high school education and I'm a lawyer, but she regularly tells me I'm wrong about things, even when it has to do with the law!
It seems at times she is more likely to believe what a homeless person tells her than me. In my frustration I have actually said at times "please go find someone you will listen to, because you dont listen to me!".
I will try your method, the next time my wife asks me how many sides on a stop sign, I wont say "8!", I will say "my smart friend tells me its 8"
:thumbup:
Sorry to drift off the topic of this thread, but I think this thread is about why people dont take good advice after asking for it, and what to do when it happens.....(nothing against walking away however!, except my wife follows me when i do it
I feel your pain. Sometimes those we love the most, listen the least.
"We teach best what we most need to learn." Words to live by. I know that for myself every time I work with someone at pool I find myself learning right along with them, or at least reinforcing information that I may have forgotten.
I was once married to a therapist, an MFCC (marriage and family counselor). As time went by I realized that our marriage was very much in trouble. She would relate to me similar situations that she had worked on with her clients, and how she had advised them. Our marriage had become a training ground for her therapy practice. Did I become uncomfortable with this? You bet! Did the marriage last? Nope!
I was once married to a therapist, an MFCC (marriage and family counselor). As time went by I realized that our marriage was very much in trouble. She would relate to me similar situations that she had worked on with her clients, and how she had advised them. Our marriage had become a training ground for her therapy practice. Did I become uncomfortable with this? You bet! Did the marriage last? Nope!
I've shown lots of people how to make a closed bridge and most of them are able to make a good and solid one. Seems like 80% of them are back to their donkey bridge the next time I see them. I'll never understand that. They say they wanna be great but..
I practiced that bridge non stop til I had it right. I thought it looked cool lol. First few months I was learning to play I told the guy that was teaching me that I wanted to buy a cue. He said " you don't need your own cue you suck". Which I did.
I practiced that bridge non stop til I had it right. I thought it looked cool lol. First few months I was learning to play I told the guy that was teaching me that I wanted to buy a cue. He said " you don't need your own cue you suck". Which I did.
Would the guy who was teaching you when you first started, want to play you for some paper now?
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What I like to tell people who raise up on the shot all the time and who will never learn is to:
Get naked. Shoot pool with you wife or girlfriend watching. If you move your head then they get to wack you with a stiff belt.
When they look at me with ??????, I tell them that it will help their better half get interested in pool :thumbup: real fast.