What do you consider having a gambling problem?
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Ditto that.... time lost is time that will never come again.
She might just see it as you don't play for "fun" any more that you do it for the money now. And she might just be over thinking that sure you're winning say $100 every time you play now but in months from now what will you do when the gains become into loses, and you continue because you always used to come home with a couple extra bucks. Women tend to over think a lot of things, things we wouldn't even bother complaining about, like you coming home with extra money here and there.
That being said just do what makes your wife happy.
"A happy wife, equals a happy life!"
That being said just do what makes your wife happy.
"A happy wife, equals a happy life!"
when you dont know how to match up and lose lose lose.......get a job.
Your wife is no different from most people.
They don't understand gambling and it scares them.
I would imagine that if you asked her what her biggest concerns were.
It would be that you would be gone when you didn't need to be, and could be doing something with her,
Or that one day someone will get your nose open and you will endanger both of your futures { don't be smug about this and say it can't happen to me , it can happen to anyone} .
These are legitimate concerns and if you love her you will take her seriously.
If you don't, have fun and do as you like.
They don't understand gambling and it scares them.
I would imagine that if you asked her what her biggest concerns were.
It would be that you would be gone when you didn't need to be, and could be doing something with her,
Or that one day someone will get your nose open and you will endanger both of your futures { don't be smug about this and say it can't happen to me , it can happen to anyone} .
These are legitimate concerns and if you love her you will take her seriously.
If you don't, have fun and do as you like.
if you described your situation accurately, then no, I don't believe that you have a Gambling Problem.
Your wife is just doing the natural Women thing. Women get like that as they get older.
She is feeling left out regardless of you offering to take her with you, which is very considerate.
She is intruding in on your fun and she needs to be the center. So she just made something up to make you feel guilty.
As much as it may hurt you to do this, the next time you are scheduled for a Tourney, say to her, ya know, I don't feel like playing pool tonight, how about you pick a place that you would like to eat and then pick a movie and we will go.
Do that on occasion and I think that you will see a different Women in your life.
See, thats why I take my wife fishing. She loves it and I make her feel like she is my Best Buddy. I make her feel that being the First Mate on the boat is an important job and I couldn't put the boat in the water or take it out without her help.
When Life gets Tricky, just reach into your own Bag O Tricks and pull something out.
Your wife is just doing the natural Women thing. Women get like that as they get older.
She is feeling left out regardless of you offering to take her with you, which is very considerate.
She is intruding in on your fun and she needs to be the center. So she just made something up to make you feel guilty.
As much as it may hurt you to do this, the next time you are scheduled for a Tourney, say to her, ya know, I don't feel like playing pool tonight, how about you pick a place that you would like to eat and then pick a movie and we will go.
Do that on occasion and I think that you will see a different Women in your life.
See, thats why I take my wife fishing. She loves it and I make her feel like she is my Best Buddy. I make her feel that being the First Mate on the boat is an important job and I couldn't put the boat in the water or take it out without her help.
When Life gets Tricky, just reach into your own Bag O Tricks and pull something out.
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This is the right answer.
And yes, if you're out playing pool over a dozen times a month, your wife might wonder what's going on. I'd guess that she doesn't go out with friends that often, and I'd guess that you don't go out with her that often.
high risk move
Different women in your life are nice but it is best to not have the wife along! Most wives just don't understand about a little on the side.
I suspect that the real issue is time. From what little we know there isn't enough to say OP has a gambling issue, he is headed towards a relationship issue. We could sort him out on that but then how would Dear Abby make a living?
Hu
Different women in your life are nice but it is best to not have the wife along! Most wives just don't understand about a little on the side.
I suspect that the real issue is time. From what little we know there isn't enough to say OP has a gambling issue, he is headed towards a relationship issue. We could sort him out on that but then how would Dear Abby make a living?
Hu
Hahahaha, Hu. I have tears in my eyes now.
You always find something to twist my words and make me laugh.
Yeah, I could have worded that one a bit different.
You always find something to twist my words and make me laugh.
Yeah, I could have worded that one a bit different.
Don't confuse being addicted to action with having a gambling problem. Making the game mean something puts the life into life and keeps your competitive spirit alive.
People who have gambling problems are the ones who have to risk more and more to get the same rush and then raise the stakes to try and recoup their losses.
If you are the type of person who has to put an oil change on a credit card, don't gamble. If you have extra cash and don't need it...let it ride! :smile:
People who have gambling problems are the ones who have to risk more and more to get the same rush and then raise the stakes to try and recoup their losses.
If you are the type of person who has to put an oil change on a credit card, don't gamble. If you have extra cash and don't need it...let it ride! :smile:
To a non-gambler, they are always gonna say you have a gambling problem if you are always playing with something on the line... whether it's cheap, expensive, extra money, or money needed elsewhere.
No way anyone reasonable says you have a gambling problem, with the caveat of course that, as others have said, you've described things accurately.
At this point I'd be wondering what problem your wife has with pool. It's pretty strange to me that you do most everything else together, you're home when you need to be, should be, you're out at tournaments when its known that's what you're doing.. No money is generally being lost, certainly not to the point that bank accounts are retreating.
Y'all have been together for quite a long time. Something's working right, that's for sure.
If you're doing right by the kids and the wife, foods on the table, etc, then I think somehow your wife has an issue with pool, or something pool related (that has nothing to do with smoke).
At this point I'd be wondering what problem your wife has with pool. It's pretty strange to me that you do most everything else together, you're home when you need to be, should be, you're out at tournaments when its known that's what you're doing.. No money is generally being lost, certainly not to the point that bank accounts are retreating.
Y'all have been together for quite a long time. Something's working right, that's for sure.
If you're doing right by the kids and the wife, foods on the table, etc, then I think somehow your wife has an issue with pool, or something pool related (that has nothing to do with smoke).
If you are under 25 and having issues with this in your marriage, your gonna have to weight your marriage against your pool playing. If you can't find a compromise that you both like, call it a day and play 7 nights a week!! No kids at stake so screw it!! Of course, maybe this is why I now am divorced and lost everything I had....lol!!
What do you consider having a gambling problem?
If you have wagered more than 1% of you monthly income in a single day over the last year, you have a gambling problem; in my opinion.
If you have wagered more than 1% of you monthly income in a single day over the last year, you have a gambling problem; in my opinion.
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Eh?!
So, if I bet more than $20 in a day, I have a gambling problem?
What if I wagered half of my monthly income in an 8 hour period?
If I make more than 1% of my monthly income by gambling, does that mean I have a work problem? :grin:
Lastly, is there a difference between playing for money and gambling?
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I was wondering the same thing. And if playing for money is gambling, how is that different from playing in a tournament with an entry fee and prize money?
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