Minnesota Phat
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I think it's a very different dynamic for women. She might be thinking you're hitting on her, or she might be thinking that you're underestimating her because she's a woman, because both of those things happen a lot. She might also have a jealous boyfriend.[...]
Sometimes people love the advice, sometimes not. One thing I noticed, most women hate taking advice, while most guys are OK with it. Not sure why but there is something fundamentally different in the thought process because it's a huge and clear difference, I think women take advice as someone pointing out they are bad at a task while men take it as someone pointing out they can be better. Or maybe it's because it's a man giving advice and it's just a general negative kneejerk reaction.
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Women seem to be a small minority among serious players, so maybe the scene is a bit outside most women's comfort zone to begin with, and so when they have the chutzpah to get out and play with mostly guys, their reserves of emotional patience and psychological fortitude may already be running low.
I'm sure women get more unsolicited advice than men get, and women who play a lot of pool could be drawn into uncomfortable situations under the pretense of a guy offering them pool advice.
Even if a woman thinks you're only being nice and just trying to help, which is a big "if," she has all this other mentally-draining stuff in the background that might add up to a general aversion towards guys trying to tell her how she can improve her game.
I'm getting advice-overload, so I can't imagine how sick of advice I'd be, if I were a woman.