What Would Happen If...

I poured a glass of wine for the wife and we talked about this scenario.

To my surprise it wouldn't be an automatic trip to a divorce. Interesting to note she would have an easier time getting over an extra marital affair than dumping $40K.

We talked about me getting a side job to compensate- and then (not being a gambler) it hit me:

  • You can never make up a loss in gambling without gambling more,, which is the dark side, slippery slope of gambling.

If I got a part time job and made an extra $40K, I'm still down $40K- in a true, technical sense due to the fact had I not lost gambling I'd have $80K.

It was an eye opening discussion.
 
I poured a glass of wine for the wife and we talked about this scenario.

To my surprise it wouldn't be an automatic trip to a divorce. Interesting to note she would have an easier time getting over an extra marital affair than dumping $40K.

We talked about me getting a side job to compensate- and then (not being a gambler) it hit me:

  • You can never make up a loss in gambling without gambling more,, which is the dark side, slippery slope of gambling.

If I got a part time job and made an extra $40K, I'm still down $40K- in a true, technical sense due to the fact had I not lost gambling I'd have $80K.

It was an eye opening discussion.
On the bright side, sounds like you've got a free pass to take on a side girl.
 
I think I understood JB and "Austin" started at $100 race to 7.
Did Austin collect anything or did JB just walk out with what he walked in with?
 
I poured a glass of wine for the wife and we talked about this scenario.

To my surprise it wouldn't be an automatic trip to a divorce. Interesting to note she would have an easier time getting over an extra marital affair than dumping $40K.

We talked about me getting a side job to compensate- and then (not being a gambler) it hit me:

  • You can never make up a loss in gambling without gambling more,, which is the dark side, slippery slope of gambling.

If I got a part time job and made an extra $40K, I'm still down $40K- in a true, technical sense due to the fact had I not lost gambling I'd have $80K.

It was an eye opening discussion.

If you had the original 40 you wouldn't need the part time job.;)
 
Really, you don't get it? It was loud and clear to me.


If I follow you correctly I think you're implying some sort of mal-intent on my part in starting this thread.

And that is absolutely not the case, though I now do see how some might interpret it that way. In the "How much did he lose" thread, haystj wondered about what would happen in his relationship given similar circumstances:

Whoops,, I totally missed that,,, I guess this lockdown situation is affecting all of us, obviously me included.

This JB story gives me a horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach and I am not involved in any way other than I watched some of the stream as it was happening.

I wish/would hope my marriage was as strong as his,,, if I did this I can honestly say my relationship might not survive.

I said that I thought that was an interesting question and started this thread. It was purely an intellectual exercise and, given the number of introspective posts it's generated, others obviously thought so as well. It wasn't to get under anyone's skin. If I wanted to do that, there are far better ways ;-)

Lou Figueroa
 
If the cash was not posted for this "match" it would make an interesting discussion. It sure is a lot easier to talk about money in just numbers than actually pulling that cash out of your pocket. Kinda the same when purchasing something, it sure is easy to sign a piece of paper to complete a sale for $3500, taking that $3500 in cash out of your pocket at time of sale rally males you think about it, at least for me. I cant help but wonder if thats what went on here.
To stay on topic, I dont think my wife would divorce me but I would be in a heap of $h1t for an extended period of time and she would never let me forget about it. I would also be busting my butt to get every penny back and then some for my poor decision making.

P.S. does anyone know if this match is on video and where it can be found??
 
I would also be busting my butt to get every penny back and then some for my poor decision making.

I'm curious,,, not looking for specifics by this question,, but how would you get it back?

Gamble more or get a side hustle? (job)

I don't see how a person "gets it back" by doing anything other than gamble more.

I'm probably not looking at this the way everyone else does, but when the money is gone it is gone.

Reminds me of the time I offered to pay dinner bill for my retired father who normally treats. I told him I'd get it, that he is on a fixed income.

He told me to wake up- everyone is on a fixed income. (so to speak)
 
I disagree. Everybody is not on a fixed income.

The ways to "earn" extra cash, honestly, without punching a clock, can be limitless.

It will require time and effort, maybe capitol. But opportunities exist to supplement your income doing something you enjoy. You just have to want it.
 
...you came home and told your significant other that you had just lost $40,000 playing pool?

I think, in my case, there would first be a quiet, "You did what?"

Then there would be a series of questions as to the exact circumstance of the loss, which would eventually devolve into higher pitched, "What were you thinking?" and then general derogatory comments concerning my mental health and moral fiber.

If I'm lucky.

I think we'd eventually be OK but I would be in for an extended stay in the Dog House and if I ever so much as mentioned gambling at pool again, huge heaping piles of scorn and derision would be hurled my way.

IOWs, I want no part of it.

Lou Figueroa

Nothing, cause it wouldn't happen.

I learned my lesson in life for way way way less.


If you're the type person who can take from your family( unless your rich) you might wanna rethink your priorities

People are amazing. .
 
IMO of course...

If the wife is a square, she will be hurt, shocked, surprised, sad, angry, and probably divorce you, or never let you forget about it, and guilt trip you into ruining their lives.

If the wife is a pool room degenerate, she will probably kick you in the nuts for donkeying off the stake. Not pulling up when you knew you were in a bad game. Getting into a game without her there to steer you. There might also be some of her that is glad you lost, to prove how much of a loser you are. I've seen the latter personally!

I know of a few Greeks who didn't come home from the coffee house for a couple days (poker house), and their wives would show up at 5am to see wtf they were doing. They'd lose their pizza places and their wives because they were sucker gamblers.

When I was 17 or 18 my mom came to the pool hall at 5am. I never made that mistake again!
 
I'm curious,,, not looking for specifics by this question,, but how would you get it back?

Gamble more or get a side hustle? (job)

I don't see how a person "gets it back" by doing anything other than gamble more.

I'm probably not looking at this the way everyone else does, but when the money is gone it is gone.

Reminds me of the time I offered to pay dinner bill for my retired father who normally treats. I told him I'd get it, that he is on a fixed income.

He told me to wake up- everyone is on a fixed income. (so to speak)

I do work out of my home shop besides putting in my 40 hours at work but I only work at home when I feel like it, this would force me to put more hours in at home.
 
I once put $25000 in a stock trading account. I turned that $25000 into $10000 and got out. The wife did not say much then, but if I ever brought up trading stocks after that she would let me know I was talking like an idiot.
 
If you are the type of person who would do that either you don't have a wife or your wife is a willing participant and wouldn't say anything.
 
If I follow you correctly I think you're implying some sort of mal-intent on my part in starting this thread.

And that is absolutely not the case, though I now do see how some might interpret it that way. In the "How much did he lose" thread, haystj wondered about what would happen in his relationship given similar circumstances:



I said that I thought that was an interesting question and started this thread. It was purely an intellectual exercise and, given the number of introspective posts it's generated, others obviously thought so as well. It wasn't to get under anyone's skin. If I wanted to do that, there are far better ways ;-)

Lou Figueroa

You can't possibly be as obtuse as you are acting.
 
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Biggest roookie error I have witlessed in a long time.

But
 
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