macguy: I really liked that post. I've heard (and talked about) the change-has-to-come-from-within stuff before, and it's always true.
I don't lose weight because I truly don't feel my weight is an impending threat to my health or causing me problems in other ways (i.e. socially, looks, whatever). I know it will affect me in like 20 years but I may not care until the problem is staring me right in the face (i.e. when it's too late. Probably similar to the way many smokers think).
The instant I start seeing it as the barrel of a gun I will (hopefully) find the motivation. Until then, I know that even if R. Lee Ermey starts chasing me around with a riot baton, I would just lose the weight temporarily and then put it right back on because I'm not committed to changing my lifestyle.
It's an interesting point frank makes about food being an addiction. There are physical and mental addictions, and while food isn't as physically addicting as heroin or nicotine, mentally it's a beast. It's a "fix" just like any other drug. People use it to fix boredom, depression, low self esteem, emotional issues, and occasionally hunger.
Still, what's the word for it when you make the commitment to stop doing something harmful despite your physical or emotional cravings? What is the force that beats that addiction? I call it "willpower" because I can't see how it could possibly be anything else. Support from outside helps, but as macguy pointed out... only you can make that decision.
Chino: all these dudes talk about the importance of realizing they need to lose weight before it's too late. But your cousin didn't realize the importance of staying single. It might not be too late though! Try your hardest to talk him out of it. Change has to come from within.
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