How do you respond to your wife when she threatens divorce because you obsess over pool? Do i find a pool playing judge? I admit I do spend a lot of time with the pool table, etc. What started this recent round of 'discussions' is when she noticed I was ordering new cloth and cushions for my table. She thought i was ordering her a Christmas gift.
how do you respond to your wife....
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Sounds like you picked the wrong wife, jk 
I guess you would have to weigh how much you love your wife versus how much you love pool. Would you rather cut down on your playing and keep your wife, or cut out your wife and play whenever you want?
I'm really lucky that my wife is very supportive of my pool playing. I practice a few hours a day and go out to play probably three times a week. She wants me to do well and supports me. She knows I have a very obsessive personality.
Something that really helps is when you are with your wife, focus all your attention to her. If she feels like she gets concentrated time with you, she may be more inclined to feel better when you're gone.
I hope you can get things worked out one way or the other. Good luck.
-Brandon
I guess you would have to weigh how much you love your wife versus how much you love pool. Would you rather cut down on your playing and keep your wife, or cut out your wife and play whenever you want?I'm really lucky that my wife is very supportive of my pool playing. I practice a few hours a day and go out to play probably three times a week. She wants me to do well and supports me. She knows I have a very obsessive personality.
Something that really helps is when you are with your wife, focus all your attention to her. If she feels like she gets concentrated time with you, she may be more inclined to feel better when you're gone.
I hope you can get things worked out one way or the other. Good luck.
-Brandon
The Game is addicting but it is that just a game.Come to some kind of terms
but dont ever put pool before Your wife she has a lot more to offer.:wink:
Buy her a cue! Actually I hate to say this but you have a problem many of us have faced. Speaking from experience (and I'm serious for once), take the time to do something that she really enjoys with her as well. That's about your only hope. 
Do the expensive purse thing that Mike said, maybe Coach or Kate Spade, does wonders when I piss off my wife!
Also, try getting her to play pool! Even if it involves playing APA or some league that is more tailored towards weaker players. Learn how to make pool fun for her and for you. Might not work to try to teach her yourself (my wife hates when I try to teach her pool) but purchase her lessons from someone. A few years ago I got my wife a cue and 4 hours of lessons as part of her Christmas gifts (not the only ones!).
Marriage is about compromise and trying to find things in common that you can do together.
Brian
Also, try getting her to play pool! Even if it involves playing APA or some league that is more tailored towards weaker players. Learn how to make pool fun for her and for you. Might not work to try to teach her yourself (my wife hates when I try to teach her pool) but purchase her lessons from someone. A few years ago I got my wife a cue and 4 hours of lessons as part of her Christmas gifts (not the only ones!).
Marriage is about compromise and trying to find things in common that you can do together.
Brian
Those have to be the ugliest Coach handbags imaginable! The wife must be costing you a fortune!
Back to the OP, buy her something special she'd like for X-mas. And give her flowers from time to time too.
I told mine I was a sex addict and this was therapy, she said what are you doing humping the table. She does understand it has paid the bills quite a few times and doesn't say much now......now I wonder what she's doing.
Yeah you're going to have to negotiate time management with her.
Yeah you're going to have to negotiate time management with her.
Look at it this way. She threatens you with divorce because she loves you. If she didn't, she would just file.
If things get real bad, I mean really bad, and if you would miss her, finally give in-offer to take those ballroom dancing classes with her that she has been badgering you about. I know, I know-but look at the bright side-you meet other women and get to hold em-and it's OK.
Just don't practice the Tango at the poolroom.
Good luck, bud.
btw: I have an ex-wife. And I don't dance.
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I guess I'm the one who has to say this.
Dude, pool is just a game. There are more important things in life. In most cases a marriage is one of those things. You need to examine your priorities.
Hope it works out.
Dude, pool is just a game. There are more important things in life. In most cases a marriage is one of those things. You need to examine your priorities.
Hope it works out.
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My girlfriend told me yesterday that I’m more excited about my beautiful new cue that is on the way from Al Bautista than I am about her.
I whipped out her Christmas present a diamond ring and she was very happy.
I explain to her that I’m excited about the cue because it is a new toy, that’s all but that it cannot compete with her.
We went to my Christmas party and my coworkers husband turned out to be a strong master, we are going to work on my stroke, I kind of forgot about my woman for a moment.
However, I regained my senses and I danced with her and all was good.
Earlier in the week I suggest we spend the New Years Eve at my pool hall. It didn’t go over very well.
However, quick thinking and a statement - ‘It doesn’t matter what we do as long as we do it together’, worked. Ohh, we compromised and the pool hall for NYE is out.
Balance is important. Hehehe
I whipped out her Christmas present a diamond ring and she was very happy.
I explain to her that I’m excited about the cue because it is a new toy, that’s all but that it cannot compete with her.
We went to my Christmas party and my coworkers husband turned out to be a strong master, we are going to work on my stroke, I kind of forgot about my woman for a moment.
However, I regained my senses and I danced with her and all was good.
Earlier in the week I suggest we spend the New Years Eve at my pool hall. It didn’t go over very well.
However, quick thinking and a statement - ‘It doesn’t matter what we do as long as we do it together’, worked. Ohh, we compromised and the pool hall for NYE is out.
Balance is important. Hehehe
she sometimes threatens to burn my cues. she has no idea how much i spent on them. literally. i did not tell her how much $$$s i spend on anything pool related. if i did, i think it would hasten my demise. i pay cash for just about everything so my spending can not be tracked.
I showed my wife these bags and she said they are the ugliest Coach bags she's ever seen; no offense. However, I've never had to buy her gifts to accept my hobby; I treat it as a social thing. 4-6 hrs a week. League once a week, 3-4 local large tourneys, and 2-3 big events like DCC or BCA Vegas. She loves Vegas, but only watches me play at this event. Never comes to league. She's happy I'm out enjoying time with the guys. You will need to find a balance. Good luck.Finally! Champ and I agree on something. I buy about 6 of these a year.
Nick
Cheers, Mark
The best solution: Get rich. If she knows she can have anything she wants at any time, she won't give a CRAP about what you're doing
Next best: Follow the advice of others in the thread--a nice present once in awhile, some thoughtfulness, or making sure to spend quality time with her will make her feel she's given the attention she wants.
Another good tack: Tell her "men gotta have a hobby." You work, you treat her well, you take care of your kids--so you gotta have an interest for yourself, too.
What NOT TO DO: Allow her to destroy your enjoyment in life--out of your sense of duty. You'll only end up hating her anyhow.