how do you respond to your wife....

Simply tell her that your girlfriend does not mind you playing pool. Okay maybe that is not such a good line to start out with. On a serious note I have been married eleven years now to the same woman with two kids. The one thing I can tell you is that buying gifts is not a substitute for what she is looking to get out of you. She wants quality time to spend with you it sounds like. Women naturally do not like things they consider competition and your time spent playing pool is exactly that to her in a sense.

I suggest as some others did, you weigh out what means the most to you. A happy life with your kids running around, and your wife telling you she loves you each morning.......or a pool hall with your friends. Either way they are your choices to make. Compromise is about your only solution. It is really not that hard you just have to schedule yourself. I still manage to work, spend time with wife, and play pool about 3 hours a day.

No offense to anyone on here but gifts are exactly the same as our cues.....new toys. The new wears off, and will never replace quality time with loved ones. Most sane people only want a few moments of our day....not what we can buy them. I did say most, as I know they are some women in life that are only out for the money. My suggestion to you then would be buy her 10 coach purses it's cheaper than divorce...lol.
 
nobid said:
How do you respond to your wife when she threatens divorce because you obsess over pool? Do i find a pool playing judge? I admit I do spend a lot of time with the pool table, etc. What started this recent round of 'discussions' is when she noticed I was ordering new cloth and cushions for my table. She thought i was ordering her a Christmas gift.
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There needs to be balance in some things and zero balance in others.

My wife has always known from day one how important pool is to me. But she has also always known that she and our relationship are more important.

When my wife "allowed" me to order a Gina for our tenth anniversary, I made sure to get something "custom" going for her: a one caret diamond with six baguettes in a gold tension-setting. $-wise she came out ahead, but the point was that we both got something special, not off a shelf or rack.

Our 25th is coming up next year and she said to go get the second Gina made up and Ernie already has the order :-) But there are some very special diamonds in the works for her.

Sooo, my advice is to make sure you take care of her and her special needs and buy her a toy for every one you buy yourself. But most importantly: make sure that she never loses sight of the fact that she's more important to you than pool.

Lou Figueroa
 
nobid said:
How do you respond to your wife when she threatens divorce because you obsess over pool? Do i find a pool playing judge? I admit I do spend a lot of time with the pool table, etc. What started this recent round of 'discussions' is when she noticed I was ordering new cloth and cushions for my table. She thought i was ordering her a Christmas gift.
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That is too easy. You should have just said that the surprised is ruined; Merry Christmas.

I think it was in a Honeymooner or maybe Simpsons where Ralph or Homer bought his wife a bowling ball for Christmas and it just happened to have his name on it.

Here is a way to get around the pool thing. Wake her up early in the morning and tell her that you are going to shoot some pool unless she wants you to stay in bed for sex. Chances are you will end up playing pool. If not :happydance: Either way you win.
 
nobid...No offense, but spending time with your kids is not about trying to teach them to do something you obsess over...it is about spending time doing things THEY like to do (read together, play a game, go shopping for Mom's Xmas presents, etc).

Scott Lee
www.poolknowledge.com

nobid said:
well, i am trying to spend time with the kids by teaching them the game.
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Some really great advice here...particularly the last paragraph! Choose "wisely" nobid! :D As for me, I am lucky enough to have a wonderful wife, that I love more than pool. That said, she knows pool is my own obsession...but it's also my job...so she is cool with it. I also make time to go do things with her, that she likes.

Scott Lee
www.poolknowledge.com

tshughes said:
Simply tell her that your girlfriend does not mind you playing pool. Okay maybe that is not such a good line to start out with. On a serious note I have been married eleven years now to the same woman with two kids. The one thing I can tell you is that buying gifts is not a substitute for what she is looking to get out of you. She wants quality time to spend with you it sounds like. Women naturally do not like things they consider competition and your time spent playing pool is exactly that to her in a sense.

I suggest as some others did, you weigh out what means the most to you. A happy life with your kids running around, and your wife telling you she loves you each morning.......or a pool hall with your friends. Either way they are your choices to make. Compromise is about your only solution. It is really not that hard you just have to schedule yourself. I still manage to work, spend time with wife, and play pool about 3 hours a day.

No offense to anyone on here but gifts are exactly the same as our cues.....new toys. The new wears off, and will never replace quality time with loved ones. Most sane people only want a few moments of our day....not what we can buy them. I did say most, as I know they are some women in life that are only out for the money. My suggestion to you then would be buy her 10 coach purses it's cheaper than divorce...lol.
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Just think about it, you lose your wife and you'll be playing with something else in your hands other than your beautiful cue. I miss my wife sometimes ;)
 
nobid said:
How do you respond to your wife when she threatens divorce because you obsess over pool? Do i find a pool playing judge? I admit I do spend a lot of time with the pool table, etc. What started this recent round of 'discussions' is when she noticed I was ordering new cloth and cushions for my table. She thought i was ordering her a Christmas gift.
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I think you already know the answer to your question, and I also think you have to make a desicion. What is more important to you your Wife, and Kids if you have any or Pool.

Pretty simple isn't it!:)

Ho Ho Ho Merry Christmas
 
Wow! LoL!

I count myself lucky that I do not have this problem...we both play, and have since day 1...met over a table. However, my passion for the game is a bit more intense than his, and so I get out to play more than he does. He is totally cool with this, as he prefers to play at home anyways.

I offset my going out to play with him having several times a month the 'boys' over to play Risk. They sometimes go all night...and I stay out of the gameroom and leave them to it. It's only fair. He says nothing when I am getting ready to order a cue, and I say nothing when he buys another tool.

He suffers me watching pool on tv, and I suffer him watching the same episode of Two and a Half Men for the umpteenthmillion time...LoL!

COMPROMISE.

Lisa
 
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ridewiththewind said:
Wow! LoL!

I count myself lucky that I do not have this problem...we both play, and have since day 1...met over a table. However, my passion for the game is a bit more intense than his, and so I get out to play more than he does. He is totally cool with this, as he prefers to play at home anyways.

I offset my going out to play with him having several times a month the 'boys' over to play Risk. They sometimes go all night...and I stay out of the gameroom and leave them to it. It's only fair. He says nothing when I am getting ready to order a cue, and I say nothing when he buys another tool.

He suffers me watching pool on tv, and I suffer him watching the same episode of Two and a Half Men for the umpteenthmillion time...LoL!

COMPROMISE.

Lisa
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wdf? :confused::confused::confused: lol
 
manwon said:
I think you already know the answer to your question, and I also think you have to make a desicion. What is more important to you your Wife, and Kids if you have any or Pool.

Pretty simple isn't it!:)

Ho Ho Ho Merry Christmas
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You hit the nail on the head. Wife and kids always come first. But there is compromise.
 
champ2107 said:
haha, just kidden around, my wife loves to play also and captains two teams, an A,B team, there called '8 balls and a rack' ;)
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Yep, I typically captain two or three teams a year. We wear tie-dye and call ourselves the 'Hippie Hustlers'...LoL!
 
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