Etiquette Question

Webbs Billiards

Webbs Billiards

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Why do some members here tend to be irrationally defensive or incredibly rude when they disagree with a post or product discussion?

I understand completely if you are being attacked personally, that being defensive is a necessary evil, but it's irrational when your opinion is just different.

Personally and professionally, I believe it to be incredibly rude to bash someone or their subject simply because you don't like it. For instance, you are selling blue squares and you are really excited about it, how would you feel if I replied to your post my hatred of not only blue squares, but both squares and the color blue. Then told everyone that my friend has yellow circles for sell at half the price of your squares and anyone who buys your stuff is an idiot?

This isn't about just my posts, I see it all over the forum.

If you don't like a topic, don't read/respond to it unless the OP specifically asks for good or negative thoughts. There's a sticky for not hijacking someone's thread or bashing their for sale products, but I doubt many have read the stickys.

I'm sure there will be plenty of grammar police, smart-alleck, and rude comments following this post, but I'm pretty sure most of us agree that things would be a lot more enjoyable without the level of rude behavior that seems to run amuck throughout this forum.
 
Webbs Billiards said:
If you don't like a topic, don't read/respond to it unless the OP specifically asks for good or negative thoughts.
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Couldnt agree with this more. I cant believe how often i see people just post "who cares" . It dosent get much dumber than that unless you try
 
There's a lot of truth in what you've said, but also consider that many arguments are started because the poster(s) do not communicate well with the written word. Their posts read as very aggressive, defensive, etc. when they meant to be pretty even-handed.

Not all cases, but many.
 
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Because they can't be smacked. Proximity breeds politeness.

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It's easy to talk trash on a keyboard as a person never has to worry about getting the cowboy shit kicked out of em when they are hundreds, or thousands of miles away. Now face to face, that is a different matter as the tone might be slightly different, or maybe not. The world is full of Aholes and some of them can type, or at least they can peck anyway.:)

Me, I take what I need and leave the rest.
 
Because many people absolutely, positively have to have the last word. Other's consider themselves the world's foremost expert in everything. Other's still consider themselves the worlds foremost expert on cue cases, LD shafts and/or high end custom cues. All seem to be legends in their own mind.

Then there is even the insufferable few that are all of the above. And here, is a world wide soapbox to pontificate.

There are so many of such creatures, only because it's illegal to shoot them.
 
Now this bothers me. Sometimes I'll state an opinion without reading the entire thread, with only the original post in mind, and some members will take offense because I am disagreeing with their opinion, which I didn't even read.

Or how about disputing what someone said...six years ago?
 
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Webbs Billiards said:
Why do some members here tend to be irrationally defensive or incredibly rude when they disagree with a post or product discussion?

I understand completely if you are being attacked personally, that being defensive is a necessary evil, but it's irrational when your opinion is just different.

Personally and professionally, I believe it to be incredibly rude to bash someone or their subject simply because you don't like it. For instance, you are selling blue squares and you are really excited about it, how would you feel if I replied to your post my hatred of not only blue squares, but both squares and the color blue. Then told everyone that my friend has yellow circles for sell at half the price of your squares and anyone who buys your stuff is an idiot?

This isn't about just my posts, I see it all over the forum.

If you don't like a topic, don't read/respond to it unless the OP specifically asks for good or negative thoughts. There's a sticky for not hijacking someone's thread or bashing their for sale products, but I doubt many have read the stickys.

I'm sure there will be plenty of grammar police, smart-alleck, and rude comments following this post, but I'm pretty sure most of us agree that things would be a lot more enjoyable without the level of rude behavior that seems to run amuck throughout this forum.
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and I would like to add, who cares anyway?




:wink:
 
Buzzard II said:
Other's consider themselves the world's foremost expert in everything. Other's still consider themselves the worlds foremost expert on cue cases, LD shafts and/or high end custom cues. All seem to be legends in their own mind.

Then there is even the insufferable few that are all of the above. And here, is a world wide soapbox to pontificate.
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That was a cheap shot at me!


:wink:
 
Webbs Billiards said:
Why do some members here tend to be irrationally defensive or incredibly rude when they disagree with a post or product discussion?

I understand completely if you are being attacked personally, that being defensive is a necessary evil, but it's irrational when your opinion is just different.

Personally and professionally, I believe it to be incredibly rude to bash someone or their subject simply because you don't like it. For instance, you are selling blue squares and you are really excited about it, how would you feel if I replied to your post my hatred of not only blue squares, but both squares and the color blue. Then told everyone that my friend has yellow circles for sell at half the price of your squares and anyone who buys your stuff is an idiot?

This isn't about just my posts, I see it all over the forum.

If you don't like a topic, don't read/respond to it unless the OP specifically asks for good or negative thoughts. There's a sticky for not hijacking someone's thread or bashing their for sale products, but I doubt many have read the stickys.

I'm sure there will be plenty of grammar police, smart-alleck, and rude comments following this post, but I'm pretty sure most of us agree that things would be a lot more enjoyable without the level of rude behavior that seems to run amuck throughout this forum.
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I also think it has to do with pool room smack talk and anonymity. It's almost as if the behavior is expected.

We could all use a little tolerance, even in the face of perceived disrespect.
 
See it on other forums... think it's a combination of things:

- Without being in front of someone, it's easy to forget they're a human being with feelings
and problems and stresses, they're not 3D, you're just seeing this tiny 2-dimensional piece of them.

- Without being in front of them, their tone is totally lost, some stuff comes off the wrong way.
Some people can't really type so they tend to make their posts shorter, and often
short is read as curt / terse / rude.

- People can be inherently defensive but in public they are usually with someone else,
a group or friend or spouse, who can rein them in. On the internet it's usually just you in a room
in front of the PC, and nobody else to apply the brakes when you go on tilt.

- Some people treat the forums as sort of a game they have to win. They have to be right
and completely dominate anyone who disagreed. Admitting you're wrong or even might be wrong
feels like losing.

This also leads to last-word-itis, and the sad part is... most people don't want to actually argue indefinitely.
They just don't feel right if they don't reply. Like an unscratched itch.
I think some of them escalate their tone because they actually WANT the argument
to be over, and they know that if they just go straight for the jugular they will bring the confrontation
to a head faster, and can then wrap it up and move on.

- Sometimes you get a mob mentality and otherwise polite people get caught up in
the general hostility, because they enjoy being part of that group.
 
Buzzard II said:
Because many people absolutely, positively have to have the last word. Other's consider themselves the world's foremost expert in everything. Other's still consider themselves the worlds foremost expert on cue cases, LD shafts and/or high end custom cues. All seem to be legends in their own mind.

Then there is even the insufferable few that are all of the above. And here, is a world wide soapbox to pontificate.

There are so many of such creatures, only because it's illegal to shoot them.
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One thing to remember is that some of us are experts in some fields and when people troll us then it's hard to allow their ignorance to trump our factual knowledge.

For example I had one person telling me how instroke cases are built. Insisting and wanting to bet me on it. That's like telling me the birthmarks on my wife's body. Unless you have been there you have zero factual information to use.

I find that there is sometimes a lack of respect for the actual experts.

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About 14 years ago, I was on my regular NHL Hockey message board that I've been on for ages, and someone was talking' all kinds of smack to me. I couldn't put up with his attitude, we arranged for a meeting to "talk" it out and he never showed up. Total wuss. I realized then that on the inter web, people can be the A Hole they can't in real life and they don't/won't/can't back it up. If people really were actually accountable for their comments on the inter web, they wouldn't talk the smack they do. Anonymity makes people very brave. I learned a big lesson that day, many years ago. Times have changed. When I was younger you backed up what you said. Today? Not so much.
 
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