It don't mean a thing if it ain't got that ping.
Thanks, this sounds like the kick in the pants I need. I'm going to start working on this. I don't really care if people like me, but you're right about a lot of things. I don't want to make others unhappy, but I remember a few times I got my ass handed to me and it didn't make me unhappy at all, just made me enjoy the game and try to go deeper into it. Seeing someone play at top form is a treat. You're absolutely right though, people like winners just fine unless they are some kind of poor sports or a-holes. I'll give this stuff a try.have the first edition of "The Pleasure of Small Motions". The first part of the revised edition that had an entire second section added to it is very good. The second part seems a little like filler. The original was little more than a booklet packed with goodness. The second part is anticlimax in my opinion. It seems to focus on not losing which is passive. Winning is active. If you focus on not losing and your opponent focuses on winning they are going to beat you more often than not. Winning is aggressive.
You don't have to be a jerk but it should be plain that you are at an event to win. I have ran over friends many times in competition. Afterwards some were a bit hurt. "You didn't give me a chance!" No I didn't. In competition I am focused on beating the competition. If I can do it without them ever hitting the cue ball or them never having a real chance of pocketing a ball, so much the better! A friend gave me a chance, I ran eight and out on him. He didn't deliberately give me any more chances.
There are times to play around and be social. Those times aren't when cash or a tournament placing are on the line. I am friends with many fellow competitors, friendly with almost all of them. None of us are cutting each other any slack because