EX - Girlfriend wants me to stop playing pool
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EX - Girlfriend wants me to stop playing pool
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EX - Girlfriend wants me to stop playing pool
Girlfriend wants me to stop playing pool
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JennyPav
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Justin, my situation is somewhat similar to yours. I moved from MT to TX and in with my boyfriend (after 4 yrs of a long distance relationship). Like you I'm obsessed with pool. I was very active in the leagues back home (playing 3 nights a week and 1/2 tourneys a month) and planned to be just as active in TX. For one, it would feed the beast (so to speak) and two, it would be a way to meet people, make friends, and get to know the area.
My first mistake was agreeing that one night of league and one night of practice would be enough. It wasn’t. My BF and I have had many arguments over the past 2 years about how much I play pool (currently 3-4 nights a week and 1-2 tourneys a month) and why, in his words “I’d rather play pool then spend time with him.” As a result, we both carry a little resentment toward the other and that resentment has definitely seeped into other parts of the relationship. After quite a few “heart to heart” talks, we are breaking up. Oh, my BF also has two young children from a previous marriage. And although he only has joint custody, I’ve been a part of their lives for the last 2 years as well.
Neil and JoeyA have some great advice. My advice is to take it slow and not move in with your girlfriend just yet. Spend more time getting to know one another and if you’re able, try to be honest with what the two of you are looking for in each other, both right now and in the future. If she’s already looking down the road to marriage and having a “father” for her daughter, and you’re not looking that way yet, I don’t see a happy ending.
My first mistake was agreeing that one night of league and one night of practice would be enough. It wasn’t. My BF and I have had many arguments over the past 2 years about how much I play pool (currently 3-4 nights a week and 1-2 tourneys a month) and why, in his words “I’d rather play pool then spend time with him.” As a result, we both carry a little resentment toward the other and that resentment has definitely seeped into other parts of the relationship. After quite a few “heart to heart” talks, we are breaking up. Oh, my BF also has two young children from a previous marriage. And although he only has joint custody, I’ve been a part of their lives for the last 2 years as well.
Neil and JoeyA have some great advice. My advice is to take it slow and not move in with your girlfriend just yet. Spend more time getting to know one another and if you’re able, try to be honest with what the two of you are looking for in each other, both right now and in the future. If she’s already looking down the road to marriage and having a “father” for her daughter, and you’re not looking that way yet, I don’t see a happy ending.
I consider myself to be a very neutral person... I will look at both sides and make my decision...
In your case... I am understanding your passion for pool and your passion for your girl.
It's not an easy decision, but I also don't think you should have been given this decision to make. I think if you quit completely... you will come to spite her for it over time. But I also think if you leave her, you may come to think you may have let "the one" go.
So... I think the two of you should have a *sit down* and you should let her know how this ultimatum made you feel... and that you would be willing to come to a comprimise in order for *both* of you to be happy. Give yourself a few days a week to play pool and a few days a week for family. Also, invite her to come with you to play, in order to spend extra time together. If you make this attempt to come to a comfortable agreement with her and If she cannot come to a comprimise with you or thinks that you should completely give up something that makes you happy... then she obviously doesn't really care about your happiness, and that is NOT fair to you. You will not be a happy, healthy person or couple. You are obviously concerned about her feelings and want to meet them... she should be just as eager to support YOU.
Coming from Me... someone who has been in both situations and decided in favor of MY happiness... and it was the best decision I ever made for myself
Wishing you the best...
<3
Experience is the best teacher
I was with a group of friends having fun and there was a gal that caught my eye and vise versa. I asked her coworker who I knew very well if I could get her ph # she said 'sure', I said do you think you should ask her first, she said it should be ok. I called, we talked and I asked her to go for a walk, she said it was too cold and it kinda was, but in CO its usually cold in the winter. We finally got together the next week with some friends and intereacted allot and matters progressed, I got up to leave and she bounced up quickly and gave me a nice huge BUT she said, "your kinda skinny", (&*^%(*&^_(&*_(* and bells went off but I kinda let that comment slide, but not really. The next week we got together, sat together/talked and she asked me my weight, I'm 6'6''/210 & I asked how much she weighed.
Was she checking out the tuna or what, these two instances which had nothing to do with developing a relationship made me cut bait and her ph # is now in the trash. Been down this road before, ain't goin there again. If it doesn't feel right it's not.
I was with a group of friends having fun and there was a gal that caught my eye and vise versa. I asked her coworker who I knew very well if I could get her ph # she said 'sure', I said do you think you should ask her first, she said it should be ok. I called, we talked and I asked her to go for a walk, she said it was too cold and it kinda was, but in CO its usually cold in the winter. We finally got together the next week with some friends and intereacted allot and matters progressed, I got up to leave and she bounced up quickly and gave me a nice huge BUT she said, "your kinda skinny", (&*^%(*&^_(&*_(* and bells went off but I kinda let that comment slide, but not really. The next week we got together, sat together/talked and she asked me my weight, I'm 6'6''/210 & I asked how much she weighed.
Was she checking out the tuna or what, these two instances which had nothing to do with developing a relationship made me cut bait and her ph # is now in the trash. Been down this road before, ain't goin there again. If it doesn't feel right it's not.
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He posted his cues and case in the Wanted/For Sale!
I think he should pick out the one thread he likes the best, maybe give us a selection of his top ten, then let us pick/guess which one he chose.:grin-square:
Sounds like she wasn't the only one to bounce up!!:wink::rotflmao:
I'm 56, too, Perk. Good take on women...I had similar expericenes.
Then there's the recent future...
I'm at league last week and two nice 20-something girls are drinking and hanging out. One had a peace sign on her top so I flipped the peace sign at her a few times during the night. She basically ignored me, just as I figured she would.
I happened over near them and the jukebox was loud and my hearing isn't what it used to be and I'd had a few and one of them said something. I said something back and they both said in unison: "Oh that is so sweeet," and showed body language that was nice. I thought, what the hell did I say or what did they hear? I had finally found THE Holy Grail...THE secret code for women and I had no idea what is was! Damn!
Later, one of them came up to me and rubbed against me and hugged and whispered in my ear, "I doing this for only you, tonight," and continued to rub.
If I could remember what I said to those girls or what they thought I said, I'd write a book and make a million.
Damn.
Jeff Livingston
Dude they called you sweet. That's code for "you don't have a chance in hell of getting any of this"
Try having sex with the dog and it'll start demanding part of your pay check also.
damianauto
vincentvega
hmmmmm
is she hot?? cuz i got a pool table right in my house.....does she have a job?? cuz if she is hot and has a job, i'll take her off ur hands and just have my boys come play at my place....let me know...LOL
is she hot?? cuz i got a pool table right in my house.....does she have a job?? cuz if she is hot and has a job, i'll take her off ur hands and just have my boys come play at my place....let me know...LOL
Free time? From the OP, it sounds like she's a single mother of a 2 year old girl. Free time? LOL.
First of all, let's not kid ourselves. A woman will try to change her man's ways, end of story. I say you're lucky you have one that told you up front you needed to change before you moved in or got hitched.
Now the decision is yours. Cut back on pool for the woman you love or move on so you can wear out the rails.
Now the decision is yours. Cut back on pool for the woman you love or move on so you can wear out the rails.
Looking at it from her side, if you are out 6 days a week than you are with her just to get laid.
Not sure if 3 months is long enough to know if it is true love.
I find that it takes about 4 months for blood and oxygen to return to the brain.
Actually as I’m getting older the process takes less time………
It is nice to have someone in life to share the good and the bad,
someone who will give you a glass of water when you are sick.
Unfortunately, it is hard to find such relationships.
My 2 cents: stay with pool, or you will be donating a spine in no time.
It would be great to see an update on this in a month or two!
Not sure if 3 months is long enough to know if it is true love.
I find that it takes about 4 months for blood and oxygen to return to the brain.
Actually as I’m getting older the process takes less time………
It is nice to have someone in life to share the good and the bad,
someone who will give you a glass of water when you are sick.
Unfortunately, it is hard to find such relationships.
My 2 cents: stay with pool, or you will be donating a spine in no time.
It would be great to see an update on this in a month or two!
Sounds like I married her sister!!:grin:
