Had to get away for a little while.

realkingcobra

realkingcobra

Well-known member
Silver Member
To much to think about at my shop while I'm trying to work, it's the same place I raised my son Calvin, so I left for California yesterday to deliver the Diamond table I have that is heading to San Fransisco, never thought getting over the death of my son would be so hard, having never been through this before...I can't even begin to describe what it does to you as a parent.

Glen
 
realkingcobra said:
To much to think about at my shop while I'm trying to work, it's the same place I raised my son Calvin, so I left for California yesterday to deliver the Diamond table I have that is heading to San Fransisco, never thought getting over the death of my son would be so hard, having never been through this before...I can't even begin to describe what it does to you as a parent.

Glen
Click to expand...

My condolences to you and your family , sorry to hear of your loss . Bet it is rough ,
 
Glen, having been through the death of a son, I will tell you that it never goes away, but in time, you learn to deal with it. For now, take it day by day. Be thankful for the time you did have together.
 
My heart goes to you both very deeply !! Years ago, a very wonderful couple lost their son, he was ten years old at the time. To this day, it feels like when in their presence, they show the side that... like they are not suppose to have a smile or a laugh. I can't imagine how they / you feel inside, for sure a part is gone, everyday, and we all feel that also. But, it is ok to remember, to yell, to cry, to be angry as I do those emotions along with them and for them. I also though, don't have the right abilities to also let them understand that it is also ok to laugh or smile or show happiness when the time occurs as I have to believe their son also would want them to know it's ok to show that emotion as well. I'm not an expert in dealing with the situation of course, but, just a friend who has no problem in jumping on the roller coaster whenever they need it.
Now, Tuesday, March 11th, another couple who also is highly regarded, fantastic people, lost their 18 year old son in a Wyoming snowmobile avalanche and our community is again in great sorrow. I just am not only heartbroken at this time for their unrealistic loss, but, again, I think of my friends who lost their ten year old who seem to not be able to feel they can show us a happy occurence, will, this be a repeat situation. I understand fully this grief process will be until their last breathe !!!, but, is there anything we as a community can do that may help them know that yes, we feel the pain, we feel the anger, we feel the loss for you and in you. But, we encourage that you don't hide or shun away from our shared love that's been there for many years and don't want to lose it completely going forward.
In the most deepest of respect towards your losses and know it's very very tough, what can we do ?
Chuck
 
So sorry for your loss. Losing a child has to be one of the most difficult things to accept. I hope you find the strength to persevere.
 
Not alone.

I'm no wimp, but your loss brings tears
to my eyes. Know that you are not alone.

Joe
 
Glen,,
I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss. May he rest in peace, and may you
Have the strength and courage to make it through this difficult time.

Take care.

Tim
 
I can relate , I lost my 1st son , Jimmy , when he was 18 , that was in 1982 , but you will never forget , I know I haven't . I remember the good times , the smile on his face , like when I got him a new motorcycle , he was so talented . Stay strong , you will never forget . Jim
 
We were never meant to bury our children and this is the most difficult thing I can ever imagine....

What I can tell you is there is no clock or calender where you can set a time and a date that you are going to force yourself to be done with the grieving process... It will take the time it takes... Keeping busy and looking for things that bring you joy and happiness are 2 of the best things you can do during this time but you will also need to continue the grieving process...

Take the time to remember Calvin when he comes to your mind but do not dwell only on his loss... I am sure he's watching you now and would not want you to ever forget the joy and happiness he gave you when he was here... Try to always look back and smile. As hard as that sounds and is it will make going forward from here a much easier task when you learn to do it.....

Safe travels and our prayers are with you,

Chris
 
realkingcobra said:
To much to think about at my shop while I'm trying to work, it's the same place I raised my son Calvin, so I left for California yesterday to deliver the Diamond table I have that is heading to San Fransisco, never thought getting over the death of my son would be so hard, having never been through this before...I can't even begin to describe what it does to you as a parent.

Glen
Click to expand...



I can't imagine how difficult it is, Glen.

Still, you must look out for yourself because you have others who need you. Be patient with yourself. The healing process will not erase the pain, but it will allow you to cope with it.

Right now, be kind to yourself. There was nothing you could do.
 
Good god, guys. As a parent, I lose sleep pretty regularly worrying about my little loves. I cannot fathom how I. Oils ever function if something were to happen to either.

I have no words to describe the emotion I feel reading your stories, but they touch me deeply.

Thanks for sharing. You are each an inspiration to be a good human. Gotta remember that you never know where another man is. Coming from, so be goodand kind to one and all.
 
I'm so sorry, Glen.

I wish I could offer some advice, but I'm not sure any of us grieve the same way. I was shocked by how hard it hit when I lost someone. It still lingers and occasionally blindsides me, but it does get better.

Please don't feel like you're alone in this.
 
Jim Baxter said:
I can relate , I lost my 1st son , Jimmy , when he was 18 , that was in 1982 , but you will never forget , I know I haven't . I remember the good times , the smile on his face , like when I got him a new motorcycle , he was so talented . Stay strong , you will never forget . Jim
Click to expand...

After driving for about 10 hours today, and having a lot of time to think, mostly about how a parent should never have to feel the loss of a child before they themselves die. I witnessed the birth of all my kids, was there to bring them into this world, did the best I was able to as a teacher, a father, and a protector. Starting from their birth, they rely on us as parents to guide them along the way, and we get to stand back and see them grow up, reliving our own lives through our children as they grow up, until the day we are not needed nearly as much once they've grown into adults. I feel as parents we're suppose to die before our children do because...we're suppose to meet them on the other side as they grow old and die, so that we can take them by the hand and lead them into the afterlife if there really is such a thing, but...if they die before we do....who is there to take their hand, and guide them into the afterlife...or are they lost forever:crying:
 
realkingcobra said:
After driving for about 10 hours today, and having a lot of time to think, mostly about how a parent should never have to feel the loss of a child before they themselves die. I witnessed the birth of all my kids, was there to bring them into this world, did the best I was able to as a teacher, a father, and a protector. Starting from their birth, they rely on us as parents to guide them along the way, and we get to stand back and see them grow up, reliving our own lives through our children as they grow up, until the day we are not needed nearly as much once they've grown into adults. I feel as parents we're suppose to die before our children do because...we're suppose to meet them on the other side as they grow old and die, so that we can take them by the hand and lead them into the afterlife if there really is such a thing, but...if they die before we do....who is there to take their hand, and guide them into the afterlife...or are they lost forever:crying:
Click to expand...

They can never be lost Glen... You know this in your heart... The meeting on the other side is still going to happen but Calvin arrived ahead of you... I think he may enjoy being YOUR guide this time......
 
realkingcobra said:
To much to think about at my shop while I'm trying to work, it's the same place I raised my son Calvin, so I left for California yesterday to deliver the Diamond table I have that is heading to San Fransisco, never thought getting over the death of my son would be so hard, having never been through this before...I can't even begin to describe what it does to you as a parent.

Glen
Click to expand...

So sorry for your loss, truly and unfortunately that is when you realize that sons and daughters are a piece of you. Devastating feeling very sorry to hear this, i hope you stay strong, and stay with pool, it is the only thing that will make you recover; follow his wish, he wants you happy; go play pool for him, win for him, dedicate your happiness for him.
 
My sister's daughter was killed in a similar accident at 16 years old. I saw her in my dreams that night. She said to me, "Tell my Mom I will miss her but it is Really Really nice here.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top