SUPERSTAR and sausage (and others on the "one strike and you're out" trust thing):
I have just one question:
Q.: You guys are caught up in the "multiple times" thing. And those are the key words -- "caught up". Have you guys EVER been "caught up" yourselves in something, anything, and didn't necessarily think about it until someone point it out, and then you went, "Oh sh*t! What in the h*ll was I thinking?!?"?
SUP, your write-up is great -- well-composed and lucid. But I think the premise is a little too unforgiving, and, well, a little self-serving. Yes, trust is very important -- the "Rock of Gibraltar" that friendships and successful relationships are built on. But remember, everyone makes mistakes. Sometimes some really BONEHEADED ones. I know I've made some, and it didn't occur to me how boneheaded it was (even after I'd already done it a couple times) until it was pointed out to me. And I'm thankful to this day that the people affected by my boneheaded decisions/mistakes forgave me. I think Sascha just got "caught up" (there's that phrase again!) with the high run craze, and the exuberance short-circuited his ethics computer. I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt on this one.
There are some very strongly ethical people in this world, who got that way precisely because they got caught doing things that, before getting caught, didn't occur to them was all that bad. Sometimes ethics isn't a "built-in" character property -- with some people, it's learned. A character "flaw" is only when someone repeatedly makes the same mistake, even *after* it's been pointed out numerous times, and they've been counseled on it.
This is not Salem, Massachusetts, and the time is not the 1600s, folks.
Respectfully,
-Sean
Of course it's not Salem, but at the same time, i am not on a witch-hunt.
If you would like me to analyze, i will.
Is it fair to say that sascha knew the potential consequences of his actions?
I surely know the consequences of mine.
Don't you?
Surely, everyone who knows that they are doing something wrong, knows it has consequences.
It's not like the action was taken and he was completely naive about it.
He wouldn't have done it unless he thought he could get away with it.
And that begs to be labeled character flaw.
Which means, that given a situation, any situation, where someone thinks they can get away with it, they will try.
The only way he would knowingly put up a video where he KNEW he was going to get busted, is if he had some sick Munchhausen syndrome, and after getting busted, he said he was sorry and got the pity party that he so desperately wanted.
To me, these are the only two scenarios available, and i don't see him being a repeat offender, so i am ruling out Munchhausen syndrome.
Personally, i think people throw around this word mistake way too much for situations like these, trying to imply that the choices were beyond someone's control, but this is the furthest thing from the truth.
But to give the people who use the word mistake in this situation, i will give you the benefit of the doubt.
One time might be considered a mistake.
But multiple times in different videos based on the fact that he felt he got away with it cause no one spoke up? That is more then a mistake.
It is also an identifying component of someones personality.
This is an instance of deliberate action, and not a just mistake.
My stance is not too unforgiving. It is only unforgiving to those who would rather forgive. To someone like myself, not forgiving someone is perfectly normal.
It is self-serving. There is nothing wrong with that, especially when it REACTS to the way others act.
There is no rule that says, everyone has to think about others before they think about themselves.
Why is it that sascha can think about himself first in his self-serving fiasco, yet when someone else worries about themselves first as a RESULT of sascha's actions, and is critical of those actions, it is somehow deemed inappropriate or unfair?
I am not one to give a free pass on a deliberate action that takes advantage of my trust.
I can give a free pass on a legitimate mistake, but in this case, i don't see it as one.
To me, all that forgiving him is going to do, is reinforce the behavior, because no one holds sascha accountable.
And i am of the opinion, that the only way someone is going to learn, is if it costs them.
That's just how i see it.
I don't expect everyone to see it my way or relate to anyone that agrees, and that's ok.
Just a little food for thought, to those that don't understand the opposing point of view.