The tenor of this post is very whiney.
I look at it like this.. If I am playing a GOOD player, then I HOPE they try to 3 foul me instead of trying to run out.
If they are a BAD player, then who cares what they do? They are still going to lose.
I just really don't get where the negativity in respect to the 3 foul rule comes from. If you lost by 3 fouls to an inferior player, then you probably are not good at kicking. Deal with it. Practice kicking.
You talk a lot about how a player "should" do this, and "should" do that. Says who? Says you? Are you a world beater?
There have been a lot of times I play extra safes during the beginning of a matchup or match, for the sole reason of gaining a feel for the speed of the table and ball action. Does that mean I am not playing "right"? No, it means that I am playing my game. If that's good enough to beat my opponent, I win. If it's not, I lose.
"Should" has nothing to do with it.
Russ