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Walt Frazier

Walt Frazier

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As a happily married man,I have experienced plenty of ups and downs in my life.But all in all,I am very happy and blessed to have such a wonderful wife ..

My wife and I are complete opposites .She hates to gamble .She can't stand pool .She likes coffee and I like tea(I think you catch my drift) and although I've had several girlfriends before her that loved pool and cards and gambling,but none of them could measure up to this angel of mine ..

FWIW,I realized the value of keeping and maintaining peace in my home and I love my wife and kids more than anything.I have managed to find a pretty good balance,but I would give up pool and gambling in a heartbeat if it jeopardized my family situation.

So here's the purpose of this thread :This is for all of you guys or girls out there that are married or in a serious relationship:does your wife support your love of pool/gambling?.does she enjoy the game? has there ever been a time where pool has caused arguements or fights? have you ever divorced a woman because she could not dig your lifestyle as a pool player?

Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences with your spouse as relates to pool.
 
Walt Frazier said:
As a happily married man,I have experienced plenty of ups and downs in my life.But all in all,I am very happy and blessed to have such a wonderful wife ..

My wife and I are complete opposites .She hates to gamble .She can't stand pool .She likes coffee and I like tea(I think you catch my drift) and although I've had several girlfriends before her that loved pool and cards and gambling,but none of them could measure up to this angel of mine ..

FWIW,I realized the value of keeping and maintaining peace in my home and I love my wife and kids more than anything.I have managed to find a pretty good balance,but I would give up pool and gambling in a heartbeat if it jeopardized my family situation.

So here's the purpose of this thread :This is for all of you guys or girls out there that are married or in a serious relationship:does your wife support your love of pool/gambling?.does she enjoy the game? has there ever been a time where pool has caused arguements or fights? have you ever divorced a woman because she could not dig your lifestyle as a pool player?

Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences with your spouse as relates to pool.
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My wife entirely understands and supports my love of and addiction to pool, although she doesn't share it at all. She understands that obsession with pool is just one part of who I am, and if she has to sacrifice an evening or two a week of having me "on hand" in order to allow me to be me, she's happy to do so.

She does certainly enjoy making plans for OUR spare time (OUR as opposed to HER), which I approve of in general, because I'm terrible at making plans, and would miss out on having a lot of fun if she didn't plan stuff for the both of us. Of course, this is where, if I were single, I'd play a lot more pool instead of taking part in said fun plans, but I feel it's still a good trade, since I do still get to play quite regularly.

-Andrew
 
Andrew Manning said:
My wife entirely understands and supports my love of and addiction to pool, although she doesn't share it at all. She understands that obsession with pool is just one part of who I am, and if she has to sacrifice an evening or two a week of having me "on hand" in order to allow me to be me, she's happy to do so.

She does certainly enjoy making plans for OUR spare time (OUR as opposed to HER), which I approve of in general, because I'm terrible at making plans, and would miss out on having a lot of fun if she didn't plan stuff for the both of us. Of course, this is where, if I were single, I'd play a lot more pool instead of taking part in said fun plans, but I feel it's still a good trade, since I do still get to play quite regularly.

-Andrew
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wait so you mean if I get married I can't go to the pool hall everyday?! T_T
 
Well , she likes to play on occasion but is not at all competive.

She mostly likes my pool nights out , although I'm not as consumed with the game as some , as it gives her a night for herself or the girls.

We really don't fight about it and in regards to gambling , we 'vegas' 3-4 times a year so as long as it doesn't impact our finances there are no issues there either. :)

Lastly , I was married previously for over 10 years. In the begining we both were very active in a number of sports and activities. It's one of the things that brought us together. Over the years she lost interest more and more often til the end where we had few interests in common. While it wasn't the main cause of the divorce , it did contribute to the whole.

So , I would probably not divorce over just a single issue like pool BUT if 2 people can't compromise over a single issue such as that then there are probably other issues there more destructive to figure out first. :)
 
Me and my wife are almost complete opposites. I say almost because in the areas that are preferences we are complete opposites, but with our favorites, other than music, we agree completely. Favorite hobby: pool, Favorite food: Steak...

We have fought over pool many times though in the past because my wife is an APA SL4 and I am a SL6 and I win all of the time (and am a sore winner on top of it). Nowadays we usually don't shoot against each other much.

Also, my wife and kids are much more important than pool, although it took me some time to convince myself of that...lol, and I have given up much pool time to spend time with my family.
 
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My first wife hated that I wanted to play pool all the time, although she never let me know that BEFORE we were married. That, along with many other reasons, is why she is my ex-wife.

My new girl (and soon to be wife:)) wants to learn how to play so she can be with me more often! She loves going to my tournaments and watching me play.

Sometimes I think she doesn't really love it, but just loves to support my interests. So in exchange for that, I greatly enjoy participating in her hobbies. We have a wonderful thing going on here!! She is amazing!
 
easy-e said:
My first wife hated that I wanted to play pool all the time, although she never let me know that BEFORE we were married. That, along with many other reasons, is why she is my ex-wife.

My new girl (and soon to be wife:)) wants to learn how to play so she can be with me more often! She loves going to my tournaments and watching me play.

Sometimes I think she doesn't really love it, but just loves to support my interests. So in exchange for that, I greatly enjoy participating in her hobbies. We have a wonderful thing going on here!! She is amazing!
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<-Jealous :mad:

I want a girl who would learn to play pool for me. You lucky dog.
 
easy-e said:
My first wife hated that I wanted to play pool all the time, although she never let me know that BEFORE we were married. That, along with many other reasons, is why she is my ex-wife.

My new girl (and soon to be wife:)) wants to learn how to play so she can be with me more often! She loves going to my tournaments and watching me play.

Sometimes I think she doesn't really love it, but just loves to support my interests. So in exchange for that, I greatly enjoy participating in her hobbies. We have a wonderful thing going on here!! She is amazing!
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I can dig it.Btw,good luck with your new squeeze bruh.
 
My wife is learning to play so that _we_ can have it as something to do together. I honestly just don't enjoy doing things without her, so would have never picked up a stick again if she hadn't mentioned an interest. If she lost interest and decided she never wanted to play again, I'd sell my sticks and take her to Maui with the money.
 
I have been married for 7 years. My wife used to go to all my tournaments and is my biggest fan. That said, sometimes getting out to play is stressful on the relationship but it is quickly remedied when I come home and split the spoils of the evening with her. Now that I have three children (recently had twins) I am spending more time at home so when I do go out there is less issue involved. My wife supports me and understands that it is either I play pool at night for 6 hours 3 times a week or I get a second job for the same amount of hours. The second job,however, really doesn't get you in shape to win weekend tournaments so I get to play and not work two jobs.
 
Here's the secret, guys. Women will suffer through our obsessions as long as it doesn't inconvenience them. Just keep this in mind and you will minimize your spousal troubles.

I only actually go out to play, not to practice. Having an excellent table at home and a good set-up for enjoying it privately is a BIG help. In fact, I strongly encourage any serious player to find a home, or build an extra room, large enough for a pool table that can be closed off from the bedrooms. I often find myself practicing shots at 4 or 5 in the morning, or hitting them for a few hours when everyone else is asleep. They like it when I'm around the house.

Chris
 
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My wife is very understanding of my pool addiction. She let me put a table in our living room instead of a love seat!!:eek: She likes to play but not nearly as much or seriously as I do. She understands it is my passion and encourages me to play. Sometimes when I'm playing and she is watching TV she'll yell at me to stay down or whatever I'm doing wrong that day.

Preston
(married to an awesome woman)
 
TATE said:
Here's the secret, guys. Women will suffer through our obsessions as long as it doesn't inconvenience them. Just keep this in mind and you will minimize your spousal troubles.

I only actually go out to play, not to practice. Having an excellent table at home and a good set-up for enjoying it privately is a BIG help. In fact, I strongly encourage any serious player to find a home, or build an extra room, large enough for a pool table that can be closed off from the bedrooms. I often find myself practicing shots at 4 or 5 in the morning, or hitting them for a few hours when everyone else is asleep. They like it when I'm around the house.

Chris
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I'm only 26 and I live in an area of extremely inflated property values, so I have no house as yet. However, I have already made sure my wife knows and fully understands that I'm committed to putting a pool table in any house we'd choose to buy. Then I can practice without having to leave her stranded at home, which means that the one or two nights a week when I'll be at the pool hall, I'll be well-practiced and ready to dedicate that time to competition.

-Andrew
 
I met my wife 13 years ago in a bowling league. She knew I had a fondness for pool because I was also playing in a couple pool leagues as well. She used pool as a way to get me back to her house. She said "My dad has a table at home you should come over and play on it". I was hooked. I asked her about 10 different questions about the table "at her dad house". What size was it? Who is the maker? What kind of cloth does he have on it? There any question I asked her that she knew the answer to. I got over to her house and I was like "OH MY GOD" where did he get this table? She didn't know that one either. It must of cost him $600 at Sears or some place to buy this pool table and I use the term pool table loosely. Hey, but she had me over a her house right? And, I wasn't interested in shooting pool any longer.
Trying to make the story short, we now have three little ones and I play the game often. I think that is mainly due to me getting it straight before we got married or had any children. I said "Right now I play in to leagues and some tournaments and if we get married I don't want that to change". She said no problem and it never has been one. She supports me as much as any woman can. I now run pool leagues and tournament and she is always right behind me supporting me all the way. I get a little teary eyed thinking about how good of a woman I have and what wonderful children she has gave me. I truly am blessed.
We have been married for a little over ten years now and she still knows very little about the game and it's probably best we keep it that way.
 
Walt Frazier said:
As a happily married man,I have experienced plenty of ups and downs in my life.But all in all,I am very happy and blessed to have such a wonderful wife ..

My wife and I are complete opposites .She hates to gamble .She can't stand pool .She likes coffee and I like tea(I think you catch my drift) and although I've had several girlfriends before her that loved pool and cards and gambling,but none of them could measure up to this angel of mine ..

FWIW,I realized the value of keeping and maintaining peace in my home and I love my wife and kids more than anything.I have managed to find a pretty good balance,but I would give up pool and gambling in a heartbeat if it jeopardized my family situation.

So here's the purpose of this thread :This is for all of you guys or girls out there that are married or in a serious relationship:does your wife support your love of pool/gambling?.does she enjoy the game? has there ever been a time where pool has caused arguements or fights? have you ever divorced a woman because she could not dig your lifestyle as a pool player?

Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences with your spouse as relates to pool.
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My wife does not support my pool addiction but does tolerate it.
She knows I gamble but doesn't really like it.
Has it ever caused an argument... I don't know that I would consider it an argument (that is putting it too mildly)
I have never divorced a woman because she didn't dig that lifestyle... she divorced me.
 
When my wife and I met I had quit pool for about 8 months or so. We dated for a long time and I slowly got back interested in it.

At first, she would get a little annoyed, but eventually she got used to the idea that I was going to play pool.

She asked me ONE TIME if I wanted her to go play with me. I didn't lie (and I don't lie to my wife - secret to a healthy relationship) and quickly told her, "No. That would be no fun for me or you." She understood, as I know she has zero interest in pool and was just trying to be nice.

She knows that I gamble occassionally and has no problem with it. I book some winners and some losers...in the end it all averages out. I laugh, because this morning she was checking our account and asked, "Why did you paypal a 'J.Helfert' $150?". I explained about the action challenge and everything, and she just said, "Ok."

She is cool about me playing pool, which is quite often for a married guy - BECAUSE I take her interests seriously. I do my part, see that she is happy in every way that I can, and she in turn wants to make me happy in every way that I can. Part of my enjoyment with pool is to have my OWN time away from everything, including her...which isn't an insult - and she understands what I mean when I say that. It is MY time. She certainly has HER time and we enjoy doing things together and apart. I could never be with an overly jealous, possessive, or smothering type of woman. That would just never last. In turn, I've never been either of those things to my spouse.

Plus, I buy her very expensive purses (she's got everything...Gucci, Burberry, Prada, etc, etc....) and matching wallets, oh and diamonds are good too for her birthdays and Christmas. For her last b-day I just gave her a white envelope with $1000 cash in it (crisp hundreds). She didn't know how to react and I wasn't sure how much she liked it, but then she went on the Tiffany website with her friends at work and picked out a necklace and bracelet with her friends, so from now on CASH IS KING! Spoil your wives as best as you can, and they will want to spoil YOU. No big mystery.
 
I'm glad to hear that so many of you guys have done well in the marriage department. I'm a two time loser, so what can I say.

First time was all my fault. I had a poolroom and stayed out late every night. Was barely around to help her out with the kids etc. I did put money on the table and thought that was my only responsibility. WRONG!

My second wife was a therapist, a marriage and family counselor no less. When we met, she thought it was so cool that I owned a poolroom and gambled at pool and poker. She said she had never met a man like me. After we got married, slowly things began to change. She became more and more unhappy with my gambling escapades.

I knew the end was near when I came home one night a big winner from my regular Friday night Poker game. We had planned to go shopping the next day in Santa Barbara. It was about 1 AM when I strolled in to find her sitting up in bed reading. I took all my winnings in hundred dollar bills and spread them out on her lap. I told her this was hers to use for her shopping tomorrow. She took one look and swept the money onto the floor. Her comment to me was "I don't want your dirty gambling money!"

I kind of knew at that moment that this marriage was on the rocks permanently. We separated within six months of that night, and were divorced a year later. I've been single again for ten years now. Maybe the third time will be the charm. :)
 
Matt_24 said:
When my wife and I met I had quit pool for about 8 months or so. We dated for a long time and I slowly got back interested in it.

At first, she would get a little annoyed, but eventually she got used to the idea that I was going to play pool.

She asked me ONE TIME if I wanted her to go play with me. I didn't lie (and I don't lie to my wife - secret to a healthy relationship) and quickly told her, "No. That would be no fun for me or you." She understood, as I know she has zero interest in pool and was just trying to be nice.

She knows that I gamble occassionally and has no problem with it. I book some winners and some losers...in the end it all averages out. I laugh, because this morning she was checking our account and asked, "Why did you paypal a 'J.Helfert' $150?". I explained about the action challenge and everything, and she just said, "Ok."

She is cool about me playing pool, which is quite often for a married guy - BECAUSE I take her interests seriously. I do my part, see that she is happy in every way that I can, and she in turn wants to make me happy in every way that I can. Part of my enjoyment with pool is to have my OWN time away from everything, including her...which isn't an insult - and she understands what I mean when I say that. It is MY time. She certainly has HER time and we enjoy doing things together and apart. I could never be with an overly jealous, possessive, or smothering type of woman. That would just never last. In turn, I've never been either of those things to my spouse.

Plus, I buy her very expensive purses (she's got everything...Gucci, Burberry, Prada, etc, etc....) and matching wallets, oh and diamonds are good too for her birthdays and Christmas. For her last b-day I just gave her a white envelope with $1000 cash in it (crisp hundreds). She didn't know how to react and I wasn't sure how much she liked it, but then she went on the Tiffany website with her friends at work and picked out a necklace and bracelet with her friends, so from now on CASH IS KING! Spoil your wives as best as you can, and they will want to spoil YOU. No big mystery.
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Oh crap, she ain't gonna like me when we meet. Matt, introduce me as Jay Andrews please. :)
 
jay helfert said:
Oh crap, she ain't gonna like me when we meet. Matt, introduce me as Jay Andrews please. :)
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Why do you think I paid you with a MO. I didn't want to hear my wife b*tch about it.

I don't have one of these kum-ba-ya, whatever you want to do honey wives. Mine hates pool, football, cards and me seeing other women. That being said I look forward to seeing many of you at DCC this year on my wife's B-day. Yeah....that went over well.
 
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