When you are process oriented you enjoy the full journey. You are playing for the thrill of testing yourself against the adversity of the game. You see a bad roll and a difficult opportunity as an exciting challenge. You have a bring it on and let me do my best attitude. And you know that the rolls even out and the player who responds the best to them will prevail in the long run. So you look up at the sky and say "Is that all you got?!? Watch this!!!"
When you are result oriented you resent all adversity between you and the finish line. You no longer want to play the game, you just want to get to the part where it's over and you've won. Isn't it irritating that between you and that goal there are all of these difficult shots, funny angles, rail bridges, and clusters? It's not fair. You should just be able to run the table over, wow everyone with an exhibition of your greatness, and collect applause and admiration.
So why do people have a bad attitude? They get results focused. A deeper question is why people lose sight of a good attitude. Everyone here responded with good answers. We all know what a good attitude looks like. Why does this get lost in the shuffle?
This is tied to another recent post: https://forums.azbilliards.com/threads/sadistic-genie.541049/post-7208325
So it all stems from ego. When our ego grows we go from a beginner's mind, humbly doing our best, enjoying the journey, to an arrogant mindset, trying to protect our self-image of how great we are.
Much more I want to say but let's call it there. For now I'll just say that any time you feel negative emotion (fear, frustration, discouragement, self-loathing, etc) that is a sign that you have lost your way and the ego has taken over. How you can course correct is a different conversation, but the ultimate goal is to quit trying to pass yourself off as a GOOD player, and instead just enjoy the game.
When you are result oriented you resent all adversity between you and the finish line. You no longer want to play the game, you just want to get to the part where it's over and you've won. Isn't it irritating that between you and that goal there are all of these difficult shots, funny angles, rail bridges, and clusters? It's not fair. You should just be able to run the table over, wow everyone with an exhibition of your greatness, and collect applause and admiration.
So why do people have a bad attitude? They get results focused. A deeper question is why people lose sight of a good attitude. Everyone here responded with good answers. We all know what a good attitude looks like. Why does this get lost in the shuffle?
This is tied to another recent post: https://forums.azbilliards.com/threads/sadistic-genie.541049/post-7208325
So it all stems from ego. When our ego grows we go from a beginner's mind, humbly doing our best, enjoying the journey, to an arrogant mindset, trying to protect our self-image of how great we are.
Much more I want to say but let's call it there. For now I'll just say that any time you feel negative emotion (fear, frustration, discouragement, self-loathing, etc) that is a sign that you have lost your way and the ego has taken over. How you can course correct is a different conversation, but the ultimate goal is to quit trying to pass yourself off as a GOOD player, and instead just enjoy the game.
