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ceebee

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I am guilty of searching for competitive play & awkwardly refusing to play with beginners or non-gamblers. However, that preposterous notion will change after reading the following story. Everyone deserves a chance to play, even if they have no chance of winning.... or do they?

At a fundraising dinner, for a school that serves learning disabled children, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten, by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question:

"When not interfered with, by outside influences, everything nature does is done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?"

The audience was stilled by the query.

The father continued. "I believe, that when a child like Shay, physically and mentally handicapped comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes, in the way other people treat that child. "Then he told the following story:

Shay and his father had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, "Do you think they'll let me play?" Shay's father knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but the father also understood that if his son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.

Shay's father approached one of the boys on the field and asked if Shay could play, not expecting much. The boy looked around for guidance and said, "We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning."

Shay struggled over to the team's bench put on a team shirt with a broad smile and his Father had a small tear in his eye and warmth in his heart. The boys saw the father's joy at his son being accepted. In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three. In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as his father waved to him from the stands. In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again. Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.

At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game? Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible, 'cause Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.

However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing the other team putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least be able to make contact. The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed. The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay. As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.

The game would now be over, but the pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game.

Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the head of the first baseman, out of reach of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, "Shay, run to first! Run to first!" Never in his life had Shay ever ran that far but he made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.

Everyone yelled, "Run to second, run to second!" Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to second base. The right fielder had the ball, the smallest guy on their team, who had a chance to be the hero for his team for the first time. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions and he too intentionally threw the ball high and far over the second-baseman's head. Shay ran toward second-base deliriously, as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.

All were screaming, "Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay"

Shay reached second-base, the opposing shortstop ran to help him and turned him in the direction of third-base, and shouted, "Run to third! Shay, run to third" As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams and those watching were on their feet were screaming, "Shay, run home! Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the "grand slam" and won the game for his team.

That day, said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world.

Shay didn't make it to another summer and died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making his Father so happy and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!
******
A wise man once said "every society is judged by how it treats it's least fortunate amongst them".

Good Luck to all....
 
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I wonder how many team captains would put up their weakest shooter in the final match of the play-offs to give them the chance to be a hero.

Great story! I would bet that most of us here could learn something about ourselves by thinking about this.

Thank you for posting it!
Steve
 
Charley and Steve...I also was emailed that story by another friend, and it moved me,as well. We can all strive to be better individuals by learning from stories like this one.

Scott Lee
www.poolknowledge.com
 
I must admit to getting a little teary eyed while reading this story. It showcases a lot of what's missing, or obviously not missing in the world today.
 
I had a mentally retarded sister. There were many things that she would have loved to do but no one ever gave her a chance to participate. It also affect our lives because she was our sister. Many times we were also left out or picked by on because of her.

Your story is nice but for the most part it is very hard to believe that any group would do that. If they did God bless them all.

She died after her 49th birthday. Truely do miss her.
 
A month or so ago an autistic kid, Jason McElwain made national news. Most of you guys probably saw it but if you didn't.... he scored 20 points in the last 4 minutes of the final basketball game of the season.

I get choked up everytime I see the video footage. If anyone here hasn't heard about it or seen the video, here's the link... http://abcnews.go.com/Sports/

About halfway down the page on the right in red it says video. Click on the one that says Hoop dreams for autistic student.
 
I'm moved...

regardless of it's truthfullness. Thanx for sharing.
 
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ceebee said:
I am guilty of searching for competitive play & awkwardly refusing to play with beginners or non-gamblers. However, that preposterous notion will change after reading the following story. Everyone deserves a chance to play, even if they have no chance of winning.... or do they?

At a fundraising dinner, for a school that serves learning disabled children, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten, by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question:

"When not interfered with, by outside influences, everything nature does is done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?"

The audience was stilled by the query.

The father continued. "I believe, that when a child like Shay, physically and mentally handicapped comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes, in the way other people treat that child. "Then he told the following story:

Shay and his father had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, "Do you think they'll let me play?" Shay's father knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but the father also understood that if his son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.

Shay's father approached one of the boys on the field and asked if Shay could play, not expecting much. The boy looked around for guidance and said, "We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning."

Shay struggled over to the team's bench put on a team shirt with a broad smile and his Father had a small tear in his eye and warmth in his heart. The boys saw the father's joy at his son being accepted. In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three. In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as his father waved to him from the stands. In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again. Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.

At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game? Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible, 'cause Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.

However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing the other team putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least be able to make contact. The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed. The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay. As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.

The game would now be over, but the pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game.

Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the head of the first baseman, out of reach of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, "Shay, run to first! Run to first!" Never in his life had Shay ever ran that far but he made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.

Everyone yelled, "Run to second, run to second!" Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to second base. The right fielder had the ball, the smallest guy on their team, who had a chance to be the hero for his team for the first time. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions and he too intentionally threw the ball high and far over the second-baseman's head. Shay ran toward second-base deliriously, as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.

All were screaming, "Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay"

Shay reached second-base, the opposing shortstop ran to help him and turned him in the direction of third-base, and shouted, "Run to third! Shay, run to third" As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams and those watching were on their feet were screaming, "Shay, run home! Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the "grand slam" and won the game for his team.

That day, said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world.

Shay didn't make it to another summer and died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making his Father so happy and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!
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A wise man once said "every society is judged by how it treats it's least fortunate amongst them".

Good Luck to all....

Humanity, that is a nice word to cherish.

Thank you.

Richard
 
This Kind of Thing Happens ALL the Time

What a Great story ......... touching......sweet ........ Illustrates the best we all have to offer.....
I have witnessed this kind of thing on many occasions....What is suprizing is that it's generally kids and teens that do this sort of thing......You see the occasional news story about the Downs Syndrome kids being elected Prom King or Queen......but these type of stories are under reported.....They only have so much time in the news hour to get all the bad news in. I think 80% of what's on the news is the bad stuff that happens.....It's more spectacular to see a bunch of blown up bodies than the Autistic Basketball player....I think it makes us jaded as we get older and we tend to walk past or ignore other's circumstances until they effect us.....
When was the last time you saw someone give up their seat for the pregnant lady?

McCue Banger McCue
 
The Winner

In these situations, everybody is a winner! Have you ever played an old guy that you knew wouldn't be around much longer in a tournament? It's not about the win. It's about being a winner like the kids on the other team. I think that if you have to gamble and win all the time, YOU are a loser. I like to win but it isn't the most important thing in life.
JMHO Purdman:cool:
 
A few years back I was taken to task on BD for suggesting a father should ease up and actually let his son win a few games. Of course he wouldn't do it and I was actually surprised at how many posters actually said the father should play to win every game.

Such is life. Not mine though.

I saw Dave Grossman, during a tournament, playing an old timer who really had no chance, let the guy double hit the CB without calling a foul. And he gave the guy extra turns at the table by missing a few shots. Sure made the old guy's day.

I play old timers here all the time. (Older than me) I sure don't go all out against them. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't, and they never know when I am doing what.

One evening I played one guy who had all kind of health problems. He came in the room and said he wanted to play a bit so we did. He told me he really enjoyed himself and thanked me. And we talked about his health problems while we played. He went home and during the night in his sleep he passed away. I hope I made his last evening pleasant.

I really don't take this game or myself seriously.

Jake
 
Things in life...

I am pretty competitive in Pool and I like to win, but it is nice to have a reminder now and then that their are things in life much more important.
One evening, after going to play in a normal Friday night weekly tournament, there was this elderly gentleman there, who used to play, that hadn't played for a long time, and the TD talked him into playing in our weekly tournament.

As it so happened, I did end playing him, and the pleasure was all mine. I enjoyed learning about him, his playing days, and I admired him for his nice graceful manner he had. I did win the match, don't remember how I did in the tournament, all I remember was the nice experience and fun I had, just
playing some Pool with this gentleman. He was 82 at the time.
 
jjinfla said:
A few years back I was taken to task on BD for suggesting a father should ease up and actually let his son win a few games. Of course he wouldn't do it and I was actually surprised at how many posters actually said the father should play to win every game.

Such is life. Not mine though.

I saw Dave Grossman, during a tournament, playing an old timer who really had no chance, let the guy double hit the CB without calling a foul. And he gave the guy extra turns at the table by missing a few shots. Sure made the old guy's day.

I play old timers here all the time. (Older than me) I sure don't go all out against them. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't, and they never know when I am doing what.

One evening I played one guy who had all kind of health problems. He came in the room and said he wanted to play a bit so we did. He told me he really enjoyed himself and thanked me. And we talked about his health problems while we played. He went home and during the night in his sleep he passed away. I hope I made his last evening pleasant.

I really don't take this game or myself seriously.

Jake

Great story too Jake. Thanks for sharing.

When I play my son I mix it up a little. Most games I play tough and only once in a while I let up just a little. He started playing a year ago at 9. He gets very angry if people do not play hard against him, it otherwise shows lack of respect. One thing that is very important is that he has an opportunity to watch his opponent shooting and to learn from it. Missing/making mistakes does not help him learn. Bottom line is that if he decides to continue playing, in due time, he will beat me regularly.

On the other hand, when playing someone in the pool hall I'll just shoot and socialize when playing for nothing. I enjoy it much more this way.
 
Got teary-eyed myself. Thanks, ceebee.

Using your tools, however limited, with your most sincere effort is so much greater than lamenting your plight.
 
Did you folks see that ol' Billy Bob can't stand to watch bangers... he should read the message.

I sometimes watch the bangers play, I can see where I once was. Once in awhile, I actually learn something.

Thanks for reading the story, someone emailed it to me & it touched me, opened my own eyes, so I shared it with my online friends.
 
Did you folks see that ol' Billy Bob can't stand to watch bangers... he should read the message.

I sometimes watch the bangers play, I can see where I once was. Once in awhile, I actually learn something.


I read your story ceebee and was really touched if not a little teary eyed, but, I fail to see any comparision between ball bangers and a severely handicapped child. Most people have compassion for those less fortunate or less able bodied--ball bangers do not fit this description. They just haven't learned how to play, but they probably are mentally equipped to learn.
 
First of all, Hi to everyone from a new forum member.

And then some comments about that issue "play with everyone". Well, the story really was nice, actually little watered my eyes too. That's how we all should behave while doing whatever with other creatures. But of course that's not a fact that happens, but a nice dream.

Since bangers already are mentioned also is this thread i just have to share one story with you folks. I have a friend,a banger, and i was palying with him and with his gf some nights ago. It was a nice evening with lot's of fun and good stories eventhough we don't have a strong common language since he doesn't speak english almost at all but understands at least well. And about that playing then...well...we played about 4 hours and only 9-ball and during that time i lost only two racks. Was it worth of playing then? Hell yes! Even for them it was fun and at the beginning i was a bit frustrated about not having tight matches but soon realized that all the fun is not on the game alone but on all other details included. We all agreed that it was maybe one of the best evenings together and who cares about winners and loosers when playing just for fun with your friends.
 
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I think Billy Bob is primarily bothered by bangers' unwillingness to learn. I, myself, have no problem with that either. Not everyone plays pool for the same reason.

HOWEVER, I hate being bumped when down on the shot, not being able to get a table on the weekends, having to deal with people passing in front of my shot, yelling, posturing, bragging, woofing, abuse of equipment, and so on, and so forth. And therefore I think every poolhall should have a separate "banger section" where they won't bother people who are serious and passionate about the game.

BTW, a player of limited ability who loves and wants to learn the game, should not be relegated to the "banger section" IMO.
 
The corelation, as I see it, is that bangers or handicaped players are seemingly beneath our skill level. However, the message I see from the story is this... they are people & they too deserve the limelight of participating or even being the hero.

Far be it from me, to ever turn someone down, from enjoying a game of pool with me. There is joy in everything & I shall seek it.
 
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