For the record I'll say this one more time to be clear - I fvk'd up, plain and simple, by forgetting I had a previous commitment on this particular cue. I have close to 50 cues and I forgot about the situation I had with this one.
I was considering if any of my cues might be a good candidate for Ron. A couplke of other ones I thought of didn't work then I came across this cue that I mentioned to Ron and it worked, he liked it. And I completely forgot it was not available to sell or trade. It was that simple and, again, def my fault.
JV, as for your speculative comment that it may have been my being too cheap to take delivery because then I would have to pay for the return shipping, you couldn't be further from the real reason.
Sure, Ron had a right to be pissy over how things went but when he began insisting that we "had a deal" and "business is business" and that I could give my friend his contact info so my friend could deal with him on the cue, I sensed there may be some extra bullshit to deal with if I were to accept delivery and, frankly, I wasn't risking opening that can of worms. I absolutely thought it better that this package never come into my possession. Nothing underhanded or devious, just common sense.
And, again, I discussed this whole thing at length with my local postmaster who assured me that the very day the package arrives it will be turned right around and I even followed up and made sure it did. There was no need for me to accept this package - no upside whatsoever, only potential for downside. I hope that makes sense.
One other thing that's been mentioned a few times that I'd like to clear up are the couple of references suggesting "playing the I'm not happy card" or "I'll just say I'm not happy",
When Ron insisted that I accept delivery of the package in the context of all the "we have a deal" and "business is business" mess, I was trying to impress upon him that my decision was made, that I must keep my word to my friend who was promised the cue first and so, therefore, we don't have a deal. And that in any deal whether a trade or an outright sale, both parties must be happy, right? Well, obviously we weren't going to be able to achieve happiness in this one. Nothing whatsoever was said by me suggesting that I'd just say 'I'm unhappy' with his cue as a means to get out of the deal. Nothing!
I stood up and admitted I made an error. It was an honest mistake, *every* bit of what happened is disclosed here and it's not very complicated. I'm sorry for how it went and apologized about a half-dozen times for my forgetfulness -
I was pm'ing, emailing, and calling Ron within hours of his shipping his cue to alert him to the problem.
I wasn't hiding, everything was out in the open, and I stayed on top of my PO with respect to his package getting turned around.
Was this egregious behavior or an oversight?
You guys can keep deciding. .
best,
brian kc
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