I have paid my dues and been a donater for many years. I encourage women getting in their first regional tour tournament who are all scared of coming out. I remember what it was like...very intimidating! Now, all someone has to say is 'Tournament' and I am there, lol!
I am the only female player in the NW that enters just about every major open tournament in our region. It is what my husband and I share together. I love that he sweats my matches and encourages me and consoles me, and that I can do the same for him (from 1000 feet away, anyway.

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I love the rush of competition, although sometimes I wonder why I actually pay money for the gut wrenching experiences! Having that experience under fire helps in pressure situations. I don't get nervous much anymore.
You don't get better unless you play players better than you, pure and simple. To mix it up and play great keeps us coming back. It gives you credentials. It gives you cheap lessons, not only how to play but how to win and lose. And it gives you more bang for the buck being able to play with champions.
I have gone 2 and out against women players who couldn't spell pool. And I have won small open weekly tourneys and even finished 5th in a huge open regional tournament. Who was watching me and was out by then? Raul Abenojar and Kris Iverson (both of whom I beat in races to 9), Dan Louie, my husband Mike Zimmerman, JD, and other good players. I lost to Tom "Soldier Boy" Mercure 9-7.
The point is, I don't get a lot of practice in - my tournaments ARE my practice. With a FT job that has supported my kids, 2 businesses, running tournaments or helping in pool-related events, and going to school at night for my Master's, I don't get in a lot of time at the table unless it is in a tournament. Maybe, if I could play umpteen hours every day, I could be a Monica Webb, our highest ranked US player (whom I have beaten twice in other tournaments).
Some people on here have suggested I give up my spot on the IPT. Next year, the cream of the crop is going to rise to the top, and I suspect

I won't be there. However, it is going to be a hell of a ride! My goal is to hang in there, not look too feeble, try and run a few racks, and have the time of my life and learn from the pros and my idols. Oh, and support my husband to stay in the top 100!