Yes, you are crazy for not carrying your ID, especially if you are going to go into a place that is REQUIRED to make sure the patrons are of legal drinking age. The state doesn't care that you aren't there to drink. And the bar owner values his license to sell liquor far more than your inconvenience at having to carry an ID.
Be responsible for your own actions. I cannot fathom why people don't carry their ID under normal circumstances. I see it all the time.
BTW, I am 57, and pull out my ID as quickly as they ask for it. And I don't complain. Yes, they know I'm over 21. Yes, they HAVE to ask, because if an undercover liquor inspector is there and see's that they didn't ask, it could jeopardize their license. Which is what makes their business money, and the point of being in business. Your bar owner makes FAR more money selling booze than the quarters you stick in the pool table. That's why most pool rooms sell liquor these days, it is what generates revenue for them. Stop being so stubborn and try to see it from the business owners side of things.