What a (not unexpected) train wreck. As a former operator of chat rooms and message boreds, IMHO, I see in this thread less understanding of a site's management than is deserving. As a site becomes more popular, much individuality is lost, stories get 3 sided, egos get bruised, regulars hammer their side onto management and by NECESSITY, management must alter their SOP. The dynamics require enforcement when the crowd gets unhappy. Unfortunately,then the "C" word gets bandied about (censorship, not the other, lol).
But hey - YOU try keeping everyone happy on a site with hundreds of people posting regularly. It drives you friggin' nuts, I promise you. And at some point when you hear 10 regulars saying "so-&-so" has made their experience here intolerable - and you do your honest best to make peace and rein in "so-&-so" - but still more riots are incited... Hey, for the best of the site, there comes a time when so-&-so must go, no matter how big (or small) the swingin' d**k may appear to be. Maybe the 10 complainers are being feeble and weak, regardless, for the sanity and for the benefit of all...
My experience shows that often times the "strife-makers" have lost some critical perspective and abused common courtesy. It's made all too easy behind their anominity.
Everybody can have an opinion as to when and where to draw the line, there is no hard and fast rule. But, unless you've been behind the curtain, it's difficult to know how you'd respond in their position.
Peace,
Matt < slides 2 cents over to reasonable site operators