Tate:
You's knows I's loves ya, but I'd been meaning to share my thoughts on this whole matter, without sounding judgemental myself. And that's not easy to do, considering the circumstances in this thread.
Don't mean to get in the middle of your repartee with chefjeff, but I wanted to use an extract, because the way you frame it makes it easier to reply to and still not sound judgemental. I hope you don't mind?
Since you can't see it in yourself, here is your hypocrisy:
I expressed my feelings and opinion on why I am disgusted with the behavior of these grown men, playing pool for 10K over an internet argument.
While I understand what you're saying here, I think you yourself are missing the part of how judgemental you are. It's a lot more than just "playing pool for 10K over an internet argument." Remember, this is a bad blood match -- which goes on all the time in our sport -- and this particular one has been going on for over 14 years. In fact, this 10K match is the CULMINATION of all that -- much more than "just an internet argument."
I expressed my opinion that gambling for large amounts, especially when someone has a young family like John, is unwise and reckeless.
Here's where you went wrong -- the bolded part. That part is not only presumptive, but extremely judgemental as well.
A couple facts:
- Lou is retired, so he and his wife are more than capable of deciding how best to use his retirement "enjoyment" money. In fact, you'll recall that Gail, his wife, was in large part his biggest booster for this match.
- John runs a very successful business. And as you read, John and Karen (his wife) struck an agreement in how this match was going to proceed / what was going to happen afterwards if he won or lost. She also was in large part a big booster of this match.
I'm sure if either of these spouses were dead-set against this match happening, it wouldn't have happened. In fact, I guarantee you -- otherwise marital status(es) would've been changing as a result. Or at the very least, Lou would've been sleeping in the dog house for a long, long time, and John would be donning needle and thread at a case-making desk instead of overseeing the operation.
The "especially" part is where you went wrong -- you passed judgement here, whether you see it or not.
I expressed my opinion that frail ego's and AZ billiards members contributed to this confrontation.
Well, you won't get an argument out of me over this. I completely agree, and am reminded of a line from the movie Gladiator related to "the mob" and how we play to "the mob."
Rather than discuss the subject, you accused me of being omniscient, telling people how to live their lives.
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I'm not quite sure he did that. What he did say, was that you yourself were passing judgement -- using your own opinion of what is smart and dumb (if I may use that word?) money management.
I hope you can see what I'm saying. I don't mean this to be confrontational, but rather just showing you something you perhaps can't see.
-Sean