This post is so far off base it is not even funny IMO. You absolutely cannot let him out of this debt. It will not teach him to pay the kindness forward. It will teach him that you can get away with screwing people.Nine Ball said:I know I'm gonna get drilled for this but that's ok. It's just my opinion. Ok, If everyone who keeps posting here is truly "sad" that Jay didn't get paid then why don't you all pull a whole $3 a piece together and pay Jay so he will not be out the $300. I'll make the first $3 donation.. Is it right and stand up that the guy didn't pay off? No, It's not.. But he's not the first nor will he be the last person who doesn't pay off. This stuff happens all the time and has happened to me before too. What I did was took a step back, Looked at the situation, and asked myself who needed the money more. The guy who didn't pay off or me. I let it go and decided to just never deal in money again with that person. Maybe at the time the guy did have the money, Had intentions of payin you, Then ran into a set of problems that just left him high and dry and couldn't afford to pay up. Maybe he never intended to pay up, Only he knows the answer to this no matter what anyone thinks. Apparently from what I have heard the guy did lose his job and is very tight on money. So what would you do in this spot? Would you pay off and not have enough money to pay your rent, Eat, etc. or would you just have to take a hit on yourself in order to survive? For anyone who says they would pay off instead of having just enough money to scrape by, I'm going to have to call you a liar.. Just my opinion. Jay, Why don't you be the stand up guy here that you are. You certainly don't need the $300.. That little bit of money is not going to change your life one way or the other, but to a guy that's just scraping by that $300 might mean the world to him. Cut the kid a break, Let him slide, Tell him people don't usually give total strangers a helping hand. Tell him to pass along the favor one day when he sees someone in need if he can help. and tell him if he ever gets back on his feet to remember what you did for him.. Maybe this guy one day will remember you, Maybe he will pass on the favor to someone in need.. Maybe he will not.. but at least you will know that you were a decent enough guy to cut someone a break when they were down and out.. Am I saying your not a decent guy? No, I'm not saying that. Am I saying you will not be a decent guy if you continue to try and collect? No, I'm not saying that. To close it out.. Was it right of this guy to take ends and not pay up? No, It wasn't.. Would I be upset if this happened to me? Of course.. Should you let people take advantage of you just because you have money and they don't? No, You shouldn't.. But sometimes it's ok to take a step back, Look at the situation, Then look at yourself and where your at and cut someone who less fortunate a break. Will everyone catch my view of this? Probably not. Like I said, Try to imagine yourself in this spot.. Just lost your job and struggling to survive.. What would you do.
I'll make the first $3 donation so Jay can get paid.. Who will join me?
If Actionhound had any character and wanted to pay his debt, he would sell his belongings to pay it off as another poster pointed out. I would bet lots of money that he owns at least one pool stick, and he certainly does not need it. Sell it and pay your debts. There are free sticks to use in every pool hall. And then again, he shouldn't be playing pool either unless it is free. He shouldn't be wasting money on drinks, or eating out, or movies or dates etc. All that money could be sent to Jay. He can start eating lots of hotdogs and ramen noodles. He can cancel his internet and cable. He can sell cameras, jewelry, and lots of other items he likely has laying around his house that could be replaced later.
If Actionhound had any character and wanted to pay his debt, he would have gone to Jay and said "I was able to sell a few things, here is $160, it is all I have right now. I am barely able to eat and keep a roof over my head because I lost my job and the only money I get is from begging neighbors and friends to let me mow their yards and do chores and handyman work around their houses. I will send you $5 a week to show good faith. As soon as I start working, I will send every cent I can spare starting with my first paycheck, and promise that I will have you paid off by my second paycheck. I am sorry this put you in a bind Jay and I will have you paid off as soon as I am possibly able to, and I will throw in an extra $50 for your troubles. I just want you to know that I feel really bad about this and will be doing everything I can to get it taken care of asap, and I appreciate you working with me." Had he done this, I have no doubt that Jay would have been as lenient as possible with his payment plan expectations, or he may have even forgiven some or all of the debt owed by a good guy who fell on some hard times.
But that is not what happened, and that is not what kind of guy Actionhound is. Actionhound chose to try to avoid paying the debt, and hope that he was not called on it. When he was pressed for payment, he lied and said a check was in the mail in the hopes that by the time Jay figured out for sure that no check was coming that he would just throw his hands up and do as you suggested, which would be to say oh well forget it, he probably needs the money worse than I do so I will just let it go and write it off. There is no way you can let a guy like this slide. Make him pay. He needs to learn to take care of his obligations like a man.