trade her for a new cue ??????????????? :grin:
Quite possibly, the best advice on the entire thread! :thumbup:
Steve
trade her for a new cue ??????????????? :grin:
I'm sure this comes up a lot, but I would like some input...
(I know asking a bunch of poolplayers is going to give me biased advice)
I've casually banged balls around off and on for most of my teenage and adult life.. but about a year ago I had another girlfriend that played league pool and talked me into it. (that relationship didn't last long but my passion for pool went crazy)
... so, I've been playing league two nights a week, just started masters (apa), and I play at-least one cash tournament a week...., plus singles, scotch doubles, ... etc... I play pool about 5-6 days/nights a week. (I do suck though, but I'm getting better every day (I'm a SL6 now)
A little over 3-months ago, out of the blue, this older guy on my 9-ball team is sitting next to this pretty girl asks me if I'm single (answer=yes) and says that I have his permission to date his daughter (the girl). I look at her and start up a converstation.
We start dating and things are going extreamly well, she even joins the 9-ball team. (background = she has a 2-yr old daughter and the parents watch the daughter while we're out)
Fast forward.... things are still going awesome!! We see eachother everyday since we started dating....I love her...and we're talking about moving in together.
.... now, keep in mind that we met in a bar while I'm playing poo,l... she plays pool with me,.... I've been playing pool 5-6 nights a week this whole time......
She says that things are going to have to change when she moves in with me. She doesn't want me gone all the time and the daughter (who I adore) will need us there with her.... I can't play in league or tournaments anymore. (I'm captain of my 8-ball, 9-ball and masters team... so I have to let someone else take over these teams and stop).
I say, .... you knew I was passionate about pool when we started dating.. and now you want ME to change.
She says... NO, I don't want you to change, but I can't move in if I'm going to be left alone all the time while you're playing pool.... she thought it was just a hobby.
I say, well, I'll have to think about it.... that I love pool and it's more than a hobby (though I suck!).
So, the next night she says she talked to her mother and her mother said that the world doesn't revolve around what she wants ... and that she should let me have my life... (her mom likes me and is on my side)
Anyway, things have calmed down for the last few days but as we talk more about moving in together, this will come up again.!!
I love this girl very much and want to be a part of her (and her daughter's) life and make a family.
...... I just don't want to resent her for making me give up something that I am so passionate about. I seriously don't want to stop playing pool... in fact, if I had a chance, I would play every single day.
What do you think?
If someone truly unselfishly loves someone, they want to see them accomplish their dreams and goals and not stand in the way. If someone stands in the way of their partner's dreams, then resentment is inevitable.I'm sure this comes up a lot, but I would like some input...
(I know asking a bunch of poolplayers is going to give me biased advice)
I've casually banged balls around off and on for most of my teenage and adult life.. but about a year ago I had another girlfriend that played league pool and talked me into it. (that relationship didn't last long but my passion for pool went crazy)
... so, I've been playing league two nights a week, just started masters (apa), and I play at-least one cash tournament a week...., plus singles, scotch doubles, ... etc... I play pool about 5-6 days/nights a week. (I do suck though, but I'm getting better every day (I'm a SL6 now)
A little over 3-months ago, out of the blue, this older guy on my 9-ball team is sitting next to this pretty girl asks me if I'm single (answer=yes) and says that I have his permission to date his daughter (the girl). I look at her and start up a converstation.
We start dating and things are going extreamly well, she even joins the 9-ball team. (background = she has a 2-yr old daughter and the parents watch the daughter while we're out)
Fast forward.... things are still going awesome!! We see eachother everyday since we started dating....I love her...and we're talking about moving in together.
.... now, keep in mind that we met in a bar while I'm playing poo,l... she plays pool with me,.... I've been playing pool 5-6 nights a week this whole time......
She says that things are going to have to change when she moves in with me. She doesn't want me gone all the time and the daughter (who I adore) will need us there with her.... I can't play in league or tournaments anymore. (I'm captain of my 8-ball, 9-ball and masters team... so I have to let someone else take over these teams and stop).
I say, .... you knew I was passionate about pool when we started dating.. and now you want ME to change.
She says... NO, I don't want you to change, but I can't move in if I'm going to be left alone all the time while you're playing pool.... she thought it was just a hobby.
I say, well, I'll have to think about it.... that I love pool and it's more than a hobby (though I suck!).
So, the next night she says she talked to her mother and her mother said that the world doesn't revolve around what she wants ... and that she should let me have my life... (her mom likes me and is on my side)
Anyway, things have calmed down for the last few days but as we talk more about moving in together, this will come up again.!!
I love this girl very much and want to be a part of her (and her daughter's) life and make a family.
...... I just don't want to resent her for making me give up something that I am so passionate about. I seriously don't want to stop playing pool... in fact, if I had a chance, I would play every single day.
What do you think?
Dude they called you sweet. That's code for "you don't have a chance in hell of getting any of this"![]()
So, I was asked to give an update... (I've posted again earlier in this thread a couple of times)
... not much has happened yet. We haven't discussed the moving in thing again yet.... and she hasn't mentioned pool yet. However, she didn't go with me to league Monday or Wednesday because she was sick.
.. so, thursday comes along last night and this is the night of the cash tournament that my 15 yr old son and I usually play in.. (and my girl usually goes and watches). Earlier in the evening she asks if I'm going to it... I say to her... No, because I have apa tri-cups saturday (and I'm trying to compromise and skip a night a pool due to this.. but I didn't say that outloud).. she just says okay.
.... Then later,,,, I'm not home yet, but my girl is at my place hanging out with my son... My son calls me and asks if we are going to the tournament.. I say no.... now HE'S upset with me because he loves playing that tournament.
I get home about 10-mins later and my girl says that my son is upset with me, then asks "Why didn't you go to the tournament?"
.... this is what I'm going through at this stage![]()
I'm sure this comes up a lot, but I would like some input...
(I know asking a bunch of poolplayers is going to give me biased advice)
I've casually banged balls around off and on for most of my teenage and adult life.. but about a year ago I had another girlfriend that played league pool and talked me into it. (that relationship didn't last long but my passion for pool went crazy)
... so, I've been playing league two nights a week, just started masters (apa), and I play at-least one cash tournament a week...., plus singles, scotch doubles, ... etc... I play pool about 5-6 days/nights a week. (I do suck though, but I'm getting better every day (I'm a SL6 now)
A little over 3-months ago, out of the blue, this older guy on my 9-ball team is sitting next to this pretty girl asks me if I'm single (answer=yes) and says that I have his permission to date his daughter (the girl). I look at her and start up a converstation.
We start dating and things are going extreamly well, she even joins the 9-ball team. (background = she has a 2-yr old daughter and the parents watch the daughter while we're out)
Fast forward.... things are still going awesome!! We see eachother everyday since we started dating....I love her...and we're talking about moving in together.
.... now, keep in mind that we met in a bar while I'm playing poo,l... she plays pool with me,.... I've been playing pool 5-6 nights a week this whole time......
She says that things are going to have to change when she moves in with me. She doesn't want me gone all the time and the daughter (who I adore) will need us there with her.... I can't play in league or tournaments anymore. (I'm captain of my 8-ball, 9-ball and masters team... so I have to let someone else take over these teams and stop).
I say, .... you knew I was passionate about pool when we started dating.. and now you want ME to change.
She says... NO, I don't want you to change, but I can't move in if I'm going to be left alone all the time while you're playing pool.... she thought it was just a hobby.
I say, well, I'll have to think about it.... that I love pool and it's more than a hobby (though I suck!).
So, the next night she says she talked to her mother and her mother said that the world doesn't revolve around what she wants ... and that she should let me have my life... (her mom likes me and is on my side)
Anyway, things have calmed down for the last few days but as we talk more about moving in together, this will come up again.!!
I love this girl very much and want to be a part of her (and her daughter's) life and make a family.
...... I just don't want to resent her for making me give up something that I am so passionate about. I seriously don't want to stop playing pool... in fact, if I had a chance, I would play every single day.
What do you think?
Justin,
As with all things in life, balance and communication are key. Before you "fire" her as others have suggested. Sit down with her, have a long heart to heart, and give compromise a chance. IF you love her, as you say, don't just walk away without a little effort too compromise. At least in the end if it doesn't work out, you'll have absolutely no regrets. Good luck!
Fire her and go out and get a new one.
Can't you just teach her to play pool too, then maybe she would learn to love it as well and you could spend more time together? Perhaps this isn't a good idea though...?
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So, I was asked to give an update... (I've posted again earlier in this thread a couple of times)
... not much has happened yet. We haven't discussed the moving in thing again yet.... and she hasn't mentioned pool yet. However, she didn't go with me to league Monday or Wednesday because she was sick.
.. so, thursday comes along last night and this is the night of the cash tournament that my 15 yr old son and I usually play in.. (and my girl usually goes and watches). Earlier in the evening she asks if I'm going to it... I say to her... No, because I have apa tri-cups saturday (and I'm trying to compromise and skip a night a pool due to this.. but I didn't say that outloud).. she just says okay.
.... Then later,,,, I'm not home yet, but my girl is at my place hanging out with my son... My son calls me and asks if we are going to the tournament.. I say no.... now HE'S upset with me because he loves playing that tournament.
I get home about 10-mins later and my girl says that my son is upset with me, then asks "Why didn't you go to the tournament?"
.... this is what I'm going through at this stage![]()
So, I was asked to give an update... (I've posted again earlier in this thread a couple of times)
... not much has happened yet. We haven't discussed the moving in thing again yet.... and she hasn't mentioned pool yet. However, she didn't go with me to league Monday or Wednesday because she was sick.
.. so, thursday comes along last night and this is the night of the cash tournament that my 15 yr old son and I usually play in.. (and my girl usually goes and watches). Earlier in the evening she asks if I'm going to it... I say to her... No, because I have apa tri-cups saturday (and I'm trying to compromise and skip a night a pool due to this.. but I didn't say that outloud).. she just says okay.
.... Then later,,,, I'm not home yet, but my girl is at my place hanging out with my son... My son calls me and asks if we are going to the tournament.. I say no.... now HE'S upset with me because he loves playing that tournament.
I get home about 10-mins later and my girl says that my son is upset with me, then asks "Why didn't you go to the tournament?"
.... this is what I'm going through at this stage![]()
LOLthanks for the sig line![]()