I guess my question here is should a persons actions speak more clearly than what is said afterwords.
I have noticed many threads on this forum where transactions with other members go South, some are certainly justified, some are misunderstandings, and some amount to nothing at all. However, in most cases there is some justification for the initial post, but this thread is not designed to explain what Justifies or doesn't any of the actions for these posts. This thread is designed for those who wish to post to these threads in either or a Positive manner.
People this is not directed at any single person on this forum, so please do not respond thinking this is singling you out, I think in some manner we have all allowed ourselves to fall into this trap.
Has anyone ever noticed that when a deal go's bad that before anyone really evaluates the situation their first response is either positive or negative based only upon dealings with the person in question. Now is this wrong, I think so, in fact I think that by doing this we do the OP of a thread a disservice, we do the accused a disservice, and we do ourselves a major disservice. I think that until all facts are known it is better not to post any negative or positive comments. For instance how many times when something negative is posted do we say oh here we going again or that person is a great individual my transaction with them was flawless. I think that maybe people should not detract or support the individuals involved until enough information is presented, and then only support the facts presented not what has happened in the past.
By detracting from some ones character some else will try and add to it, and in the many cases the facts are over looked which drags things out and creates multiple page threads that solve nothing and waste bandwidth.
I do not know if others understand my thoughts here or if others think this is a waste of time, but I suspect that many of the problems that occur can be settled by as little outside involvement as possible. Lets face it in most cases the facts do speak for themselves and that is all we should listen to the past good or bad is nothing but the past and has no bearing on the here and now.
JIMO
I have noticed many threads on this forum where transactions with other members go South, some are certainly justified, some are misunderstandings, and some amount to nothing at all. However, in most cases there is some justification for the initial post, but this thread is not designed to explain what Justifies or doesn't any of the actions for these posts. This thread is designed for those who wish to post to these threads in either or a Positive manner.
People this is not directed at any single person on this forum, so please do not respond thinking this is singling you out, I think in some manner we have all allowed ourselves to fall into this trap.
Has anyone ever noticed that when a deal go's bad that before anyone really evaluates the situation their first response is either positive or negative based only upon dealings with the person in question. Now is this wrong, I think so, in fact I think that by doing this we do the OP of a thread a disservice, we do the accused a disservice, and we do ourselves a major disservice. I think that until all facts are known it is better not to post any negative or positive comments. For instance how many times when something negative is posted do we say oh here we going again or that person is a great individual my transaction with them was flawless. I think that maybe people should not detract or support the individuals involved until enough information is presented, and then only support the facts presented not what has happened in the past.
By detracting from some ones character some else will try and add to it, and in the many cases the facts are over looked which drags things out and creates multiple page threads that solve nothing and waste bandwidth.
I do not know if others understand my thoughts here or if others think this is a waste of time, but I suspect that many of the problems that occur can be settled by as little outside involvement as possible. Lets face it in most cases the facts do speak for themselves and that is all we should listen to the past good or bad is nothing but the past and has no bearing on the here and now.
JIMO